It feels like there is no purpose in life and there is an escapism

Don't think about everything too complicated, life is born to live, as long as we do our best, the goal is important but you can't set the desired goal too high, then it's not interesting, everyone starts from an apprentice, you have to take one step at a time, if you want to learn quickly, you have to work twice as hard every day as before.

Don't put too much pressure on yourself, as long as you do what you should be as a parent, it's understandable.

It's very good to be aware of your own shortcomings, which shows that you are still a person with goals, but you don't have a clear goal at the moment. Personally, I think your first goal is to get rid of using your parents' money again.

In fact, this problem is very common, after a year or two of work, you will feel that your life is very confused, at this time you should let yourself precipitate, think about your career path, and the future direction of development.

Identify your dreams and goals. The first thing I do when I wake up every day is to say to myself that I am moving towards my dreams. Do your best!

Looking for a job, don't feel how noble you are, start small, take your time, and you will have a good future.

It's not too late to know, so let's do our best.

Don't always feel sorry for yourself, if you don't feel good, then work hard.

Shrimp, I think you can learn a major.

In her book 0 and 10,000, Geeta Jacob mentions three common ways to cope with negativity: compliance, avoidance, and overcompensation.

Although these three ways of coping are commonly used by us in adulthood, their causes can often be traced back to childhood, and they help us protect ourselves from threats or rejection when we are young, so they are also the most common coping styles we use in adulthood.

Avoidance is not necessarily a bad thing in itself, but if our avoidance behavior hinders our growth, then we should try to avoid it. For example, because they are too tired at work, or a mistake at work, their confidence is hit, and they dare not face employment anymore, so they choose to give up their jobs and can only rely on their parents to support the "gnawing old people".

Just occasionally willful, not going to work for a month or two, before the economic problems, regrouping and fighting in the workplace is not counted, this kind of avoidance is a moderate protection of oneself, but no longer refuse to go to work "gnaw the old people", it is a cavity problem.

Not only do they hinder the achievement of their personal goals, but they also affect their hard-working parents, and although they achieve temporary security through escapism, it is not a long-term solution, because although people can escape reality, they cannot escape life.

If you want to reduce your avoidance behavior, you need to first acknowledge the fact that you have an "avoidance problem" and then make changes gradually.

0 Times and 10,000 Times gives us the following steps: first, try to change yourself in your imagination; Secondly, start from a simple situation that you feel you are relatively sure of, practice it in reality, and stick to it, even if you encounter difficulties, you will not give up easily; Finally, you can wait and meet the self who has successfully broken the "avoidance" behavior!

In the end, you still need to face it yourself.

Some things can be avoided, and if you can fake your hands on others, you can fake your hands on others.

Running away is self-deception

People always feel confident here, but they feel that they are not so good in one way.

That's how life is. Maybe it's because of imperfection that people will pursue more.

So find your own balance, and everything will be less grooved.

Does your family influence you?

Then it's up to your family to see where you have it in your heart!

Family = affection.

What is Affection?

Family affection is that your parents are very poor, and you complain every day.

But you don't want to say a bad word about someone, even if that person is nice to you!

Some people choose affection between affection and love.

So landlord, how much do you think the influence of family affection is?

At least family affection is priceless in my heart.

The light of their life is priceless.

Cancer is also divided into early, middle and advanced stages, isn't it?

Then the aspect of mental illness is first of all to get **.

Mentally ill people need to be more tolerant and forgiving, and they may not even know what they have done.

Good luck.

Realization is inescapable, and it is necessary to learn to adapt to it. You can't be stubborn, you can't be self-serving, and you can't be arrogant. Find a track suitable for your own survival in the vast earthly world.

You can give yourself a space to think and then make a decision, knowing that escaping is not the way to do it.

Family will influence you for the rest of your life and empathize.