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This is a matter of opinion, which can be broken down into the following situations:
1. If it is simply because of you that you make your parents angry, then it is recommended that you try to correct it and make your parents angry.
Second, if your parents are in a bad mood because of physical reasons, or simply the generation gap in age is not pleasing to you, and your parents are not very sick, and you can take care of yourself, then avoid it a little and go home to see it. It is also a kind of filial piety to make parents less angry. At this time, if it does not affect the care of them, it is also a strategy to avoid them a little.
Sometimes when you leave and don't have to see each other every day or spend a lot of time together every day, your parents may have another feeling, they will feel lonely when you are not at home, they will feel that it is not easy for you to go home, they will cherish your time at home, and they will not be too angry with you.
3. If your parents are indeed seriously ill and cannot live without being taken care of, then no matter what the reason, then you have to shoulder the responsibility of taking care of your parents.
In general, no matter how your parents treat you, you are a family, no matter how your parents scold you, their original intentions are good, or they don't understand the situation and scold not necessarily right, if you can explain it, you can explain it, if you can't explain it, you don't say it, you may make them more angry and cause more scolding, sometimes you are silent for a while, maybe your parents will naturally stop after a while, the more you contradict them, the more angry they will be, and you will talk to you endlessly, a filial piety is not as good as a shun, try to follow them as much as possible, It is better to make them less angry than to satisfy them materially. There is no flaming mountain that you can't get along with your parents.
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Whether your parents are sick or not, does it have anything to do with whether you want to be filial or not? . . Whether it matters if you can't live together is up to you.
How much effort you exert on your parents, you have to find the right position yourself.
Think calmly and have no problems communicating. If you can't do it yourself, find someone to help persuade you. Take it easy.
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Can leave, I was scolded and beaten every day without any reason whatsoever.
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is unfilial, and the patient will get angry for no reason. To understand.
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It shouldn't be counted, just go home and see it often.
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Arguing with your parents is not unfilial.
Now is not the era of obeying the orders of parents, children also have their own independent thoughts, and it is normal to quarrel with their parents who are not too rational, but it is really unfilial to be a child who cannot insult or even beat his parents. We must be filial to our parents and try not to contradict our parents, but there are many bad habits and some rigid habits in the older generation, and we cannot follow them, and some well-intentioned quarrels are not considered unfilial piety.
Conflict Resolution Skills:
1.Choose the right communication skills.
Conflict is not an end, but to clarify one's different cognitions, needs, and values to parents through communication or conflict, and to establish clear boundaries. Mastering some communication skills can effectively reduce the level of conflict and help each other to reach a better consensus.
2.Give parents time to think about the differences.
When we and our parents put forward very different needs and ask each other to accept them immediately, it is easy to stimulate each other's negative emotions. For example, if I have a sister who chooses Dink, if she directly says to her parents, "I'm not going to have children, you have to accept it," the parents will immediately go violent. It's too much for parents, and they need to hear and accept it right away.
Say something like this: "I want to talk to you about fertility, but I don't need an answer right now. I just want to put it there and let you think about "giving parents time to react and think."
On the one hand, it lowers the requirements for parents, and on the other hand, it also shows that you are more patient, sensible, and mature.
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It is rare for the landlord to be able to reflect on himself, and it is also worthy of recognition and praise. Say a few words
In the "Commentary on the Thirteen Classics", there is a note cloud under "no queen is great": "There are three unfilial people in Yuli, and the matter is said to be a will to be subordinate, trapped in relatives and unrighteousness, and one is not filial; The family is poor and old, not for Lu Shi, and the second is not filial; Don't marry and have no children, never worship ancestors, and don't be filial. None of the three is the greatest.
The vernacular explanation is: blindly obeying, seeing that their parents are at fault and not persuading, causing them to fall into injustice, this is the first type of unfilial piety; The family is poor, and the parents are old, but they do not go to the official to eat and support their parents, which is the second kind of unfilial piety; Not marrying a wife and having children, cutting off offspring, this is the third type of unfilial piety. No heir is the least filial among the three unfilial pies!
It is inevitable that there will be differences of opinion and misunderstandings between parents and children, and it is difficult to avoid disputes and even occasional quarrels. You didn't mean it, you didn't curse or speak excessively, and you didn't do anything rebellious. Therefore, you are not considered unfilial.
Even if you compare the three standards of the ancients to measure filial piety, you can't reach the word "unfilial piety". But no matter what the reason, as a junior, you should try to avoid conflicts with your parents, let alone quarrels. Pay attention to calm and restraint in everything.
Everyone has not done well enough, the key is to have the courage to reflect on themselves, correct their deficiencies, and improve themselves. Sincere and frank communication is the most direct and effective means to eliminate misunderstandings, calm contradictions, and resolve crises and estrangements.
Go and exchange opinions with your parents, they will understand. How nice it would be for your family to have a strong family relationship, harmony and warmth!
Happy landlord!
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Quarreling with your parents counts as unfilial piety. Filial piety and filial piety, obeying one's parents is considered filial piety, quarreling with one's parents, must go against the will of one's parents, and if you don't obey your parents, how can you not be unfilial? Be more considerate of your parents' pains and difficulties, and do more things to make your parents happy.
It is said that if you don't raise children, you don't know your parents' kindness, but when you get married and have your own children, you will understand.
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In this day and age, that kind of concept is all old ideas. But quarrels are hurtful and angry. Restrain your emotions.
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Let's discuss something.
Quarrels don't solve the problem.
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