Why can t you be friends after a breakup?

Updated on psychology 2024-02-08
25 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I have the same idea as you, and I have experienced it firsthand It may also be that you really can't be friends together, and it will be embarrassing to be close to you! We were classmates and were matched together by friends, it was he who chased me and he left me first, and now I have always wanted to be friends with him, but he still runs away from me, I think he feels sorry for me! Then I didn't bother to go to him, so let's let it be!

    We can't be friends and we can't do anything! It's not a problem between you and me, I think maybe it's his! I don't know what to say when I see it!

    Because I feel sad in my heart, the person I once loved does not belong to me, that is the most uncomfortable thing, so I have to run away!

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Do you know a word?

    You can't be enemies after a breakup, because you love each other deeply.

    You can't be friends after a breakup because you've hurt each other.

    So we are the most familiar strangers.

    This really makes sense.

    In fact, two people used to be together with a sense of mutual love, but what about after they broke up?

    It's awkward. The so-called friends are used to understand each other, just ask a person who already knows each other so well, what kind of friend should he be?

    If you want to be friends with her, unless you still like her, or you haven't really liked her again, of course, it is not excluded that you are a little min.

    I suggest that this history be passed. As for the question of friends. Forget it.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    It's absolutely impossible, breaking up means the end! I don't think there's any need to be together again, like before. It was originally a wound in each other's hearts. Whoever proposed the breakup, if they met and then became friends, wouldn't that rub salt in each other's wounds?

    If the wound worsens, do you want to see the wound worsen? I don't think anyone wants to? If you want to be friends after a breakup, that's all a bystander's opinion. None of the authorities think so.

    My point of view is to break up completely, without any connection. Let the time go unto settle all this.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    If you want to forget about him, can you watch the person you have liked with someone else? Can you see the person you like holding hands with others, you may wish her happiness, but it is not always difficult for you to see the other half, after all, he was the person he loved the most.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    You can't be friends after a breakup because you've hurt before.

    You can't be enemies after a breakup, because you once loved each other.

    So you can only be the stranger you know best!

  6. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    You can't be enemies, because you loved each other deeply; You can't be friends because we've hurt each other. After the breakup, they became: the most familiar strangers.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Hehe, it depends on what kind of person it is

    Some people can't afford that kind of hurt.

    That's why I can't even be a friend, and people think about it...

    Although you can't be a couple, you can still be friends

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Me too, after the breakup, there were too few friends to pull, it was he who chased me first, and he left me first, and now he runs away from me in a school, hehe It's a joke to think about, it's right to face it bravely! Friends, do your best!

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    No. Because of the injury. It's going to be embarrassing to meet.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Definitely can't, girl, like this, you want to be friends, people don't agree, this is self-inflicted.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Don't run away from everything, just look at the current reality. There will definitely be a certain amount of discomfort after a breakup. There will be a certain sense of strangeness to each other.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Because I feel sad in my heart, the person I love does not belong to me, and that is the most uncomfortable thing.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Items think it's better to be friends, but they have hurt each other and it's harder to get along!

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    There's nothing you can't do, it's just that people are embarrassed, so that's it

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Because it would be awkward for each other to be together like this.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    I have a personal experience, I can't be friends, a lot of people play together, it's okay, if there are only 2 people, what to say.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Even being friends is no better, friends and couples are not the same concept!

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    I guess it's embarrassing, I don't know what to say when we meet.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    This is the reality.

    It can't be helped. Why break up if we can be together?

    They must have been hurt.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    wo also thinks it should be impossible.

    Because it's awkward to meet.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    It is not recommended to be friends after a breakup, this situation will be embarrassing, and if you don't get it right, you may become enemies.

    After a breakup, there is no way to continue to be friends with a person, it is nothing more than because I have loved deeply, whenever the other party contacts and whenever I see the other party's news, I can't help but recall those past events, and I will be stuck in the memories and unable to extricate myself.

    This will not help a person to free himself from the past and not to live his life in the present. It's just that if you were together at the beginning, although you also had some likes between you, but those likes were particularly shallow, and when you broke up, that little bit of liking was long gone, then you wouldn't be haunted by the past.

    When you can not be affected by the past, and you can do it even in the face of each other, then even if you are friends and occasionally share your life, then of course there will be no problem.

    On the contrary, it is easier for you to be able to get along like friends, because you have tried, but it has not worked out at all. After that, when you both understand that it is impossible for each other, you will no longer think anything wrong about each other, and it will be easier to maintain a more pure relationship with the opposite sex that will not embarrass each other.

    Some people are still in love and hope that they can have a chance to make amends. There is also such a situation, you have indeed loved, loved very much, but for some reason, you came to the day of breakup.

    Two people who have loved each other deeply, after breaking up, know that it will be painful to continue to connect, but they are still the same for each other, so this is generally the case, one of them, or you still have love for each other.

    Because I still love in my heart, I don't want to end it like this, and I want to be a friend, always care about each other, often inquire about each other's dynamics, and often give each other some companionship and help.

    Of course, the purpose of this is to hope that we can make up for the regrets of the past, and it is best that one day we can have a chance to do it again, from breaking up to getting back together, and the two people can continue to be together. Not everyone who has loved deeply can be so rational that they can never look back after breaking up.

    There are always some people who will always want to stay where they are, keep the relationship, wait for the other party to turn back, or desperately create opportunities, so that the breakup is not the end, but another beginning for each other.

    After a breakup, when a person proposes to continue to be friends with you, either he has never taken you seriously and feels that it doesn't matter if he is friends, or he still loves you and doesn't want to lose you.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Breaking up is a depressing thing, but we should try to treat it calmly.

    First of all, if irreconcilable contradictions and problems arise between two people, a breakup may be the best way to solve the problem, and sometimes it is also a step towards a better life.

    Secondly, if we behave too emotionally and violently during a breakup, it may cause unnecessary or grinding damage to both parties, and it will also have a negative impact on friendly relationships in the future.

    Finally, although a breakup is a painful thing, don't lose confidence and hope because of the breakup, and believe that you can start over and live a better life.

    For example, if there is a problem in a relationship that both parties are trying to communicate but can't resolve, breaking up may be the best option.

    Then I think the most degraded and disgusting behavior after a breakup is probably constantly attacking or denigrating the ex on social media or in real life. Not only does this behavior make people feel immature and lack self-control, but it can also lead to a loss of trust and respect in the eyes of others. In addition, the behavior of constantly calling, texting, or stalking an ex can also be annoying and unsettling.

    If both parties can face the breakup with a peaceful mind, break up amicably, and get along as friends afterwards, it is a good thing for both parties. On the contrary, if one of the partners behaves too emotionally, lashes out at the other party, or even acts aggressively, it may make the other person feel hurt and frightened, which hinders future relationships. Therefore, facing a breakup with a normal mind is not only beneficial to your mental health, but also conducive to the maintenance of the relationship between the two parties.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Breaking up, it's something that everyone doesn't want to have. Regardless of the reason for the breakup, after many days we will try to adjust to life without each other, although it is still difficult to calm our hearts. However, breaking up doesn't mean we're irrelevant, or that we've forgotten about each other.

    Some people can't let go of their ex, and will keep spying on their ex's life through inappropriate ways, will you be like this?

    Peering into the life of an ex is something that many people do after a breakup. At this time, we have a "tacit understanding" of our ex, and the other party's every move is in our eyes. We may look at each other's relationships, or even look at new friends that the other person might have made.

    If the other person has a new relationship, follow it, secretly investigate and understand the new partner through various means, or look for news from the other party on various online platforms.

    However, this "tacit understanding" is not healthy. Peeping into the life of our ex will not only bring us psychological stress, but it may also make us dwell on the past, leaving us emotionally muddy and trapped in this unhealthy situation, and true relief will not be achieved.

    In addition to this trembling, spying on the life of the ex is also an infringement on the ex. We used to be together, but our relationship is over. We no longer have the power to manage each other's lives and monitor each other's behavior.

    Prying into your ex's life is tantamount to violating your ex's privacy and disturbing the other party's sky.

    Reminiscing and dwelling on the past is not a healthy act in itself. And further translating it into snooping on the life of the ex is not only a manifestation of irresponsibility to yourself, but also a kind of harm to the ex. We should try to let ourselves out of the past and gradually accept the new life.

    When we start a new life and find that we can also find our happiness in the new environment, maybe we don't stubbornly think about the past or put unnecessary pressure on others.

    Of course, sometimes we may want to care for our ex and want to know how he or she is doing, but we must clearly understand the boundaries between caring and prying so that our care does not hurt the other person. After all, we can't expect others to feel the same way we do.

    In short, after a breakup, we all need to end the relationship once and for all to welcome a new journey in life. Spying on the life of your ex is not only unhealthy, but it can also bring us many negative effects. If you don't know how to get out of the habit of spying on your ex, be kind to yourself and don't let this meaningless thing get in the way of your life.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    A breakup is a painful experience for both parties, and there is no need to state the reason for the breakup. Because, the two squires are no longer together, and they won't talk in the future, so they don't need to know whose right and wrong and why.

    Any couple of lovers must want to live a lifetime when they are together, but many times, only a large part of the couples who can make it to the end will be separated on the way forward, for one reason or another. Sometimes, we are indeed destined to have no part, but sometimes, we really don't cherish it. Therefore, the reason why those lovers broke up, I hope we can find a solution together to make the relationship last longer and longer.

    But after really being together for a long time, there are no longer so many fears between each other, and they begin to reveal their true nature. Girls at this time may be willful and rude, and boys at this time may be machismo and short-tempered. As a result, the two found out that the other party was not the right old closed person, and the relationship came to an end.

    In the first three months of acquaintance, the two people always felt that each other was the best person in the world, and they had the same temper and three views, but when they were really together, they found out that it was all an illusion.

    After all, no matter how good the relationship is, it is a waste to manage it well, after all, any couple and couple who can last forever always have a heart that loves each other.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    Heck, a breakup is a heart-wrenching experience, and I understand that this can be a big question for you. This is a complex and personal question about whether you will be able to become ordinary friends after a breakup, and there is no absolute answer.

    In some cases, it is possible to maintain a friendship after a breakup. Some people are able to alleviate emotional pain by rejuvenating the healing of time and space, and ultimately establish a new form of relationship. They may choose to stay connected, participate in certain activities together, or continue to share common interests.

    In this case, the friendship after the breakup may gradually restore, but it will require maturity and understanding from both parties.

    However, not all breakups can smoothly turn into ordinary friendships. Sometimes, the emotional remnants and hurt after a breakup can get in the way of healthy friendships. In this case, it may be better to keep your distance and give each other some time to heal.

    If there are too many fights, betrayals, or injuries during the breakup process, it can be very difficult or even impossible to rebuild friendships.

    The most important thing is to respect your feelings and needs no matter what you choose. If you feel that maintaining a friendship with your ex is causing you pain or hindering you from moving forward, it's important to give yourself some time and room to make peace. Ultimately, you need to weigh your feelings for your ex and your pursuit of your own happiness to make the decision that is best for you.

    In short, it is possible to become ordinary friends after a breakup, but it depends on the specific situation and personal willingness. Whatever you choose, the most important thing is to care about your emotional health and well-being.

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