What should I do when my mother in law keeps picking on her daughter in law s thorns?

Do your duty and smile well, for the mother-in-law's pickiness, those who want to speak have no intention of hearing the full ring, and if there is no change, they will be encouraged!! Don't fight !!

It depends on whether you are the daughter-in-law or the son of the mother-in-law, if you are a daughter-in-law, if you love your husband very much, and your mother-in-law picks only some small thorns, then, look at the point, endure it if you can bear it, if it is a more serious topic, just talk to your husband, and your husband will communicate with your mother-in-law, and if your husband helps you, I believe you will not be angry at all. If you are a son, if your mother-in-law picks the thorn of your daughter-in-law in front of you, smiles easily, and is an excellent collaborator, you can not offend both, give face, and then talk to the wrong party behind your back, this is her fault, and you can't do it in the future, I believe that with a son like you, your mother and your wife can settle it even if they quarrel.

When a daughter-in-law is always picking on her mother-in-law's affairs, the following methods may help alleviate the situation:

1.Try to have an open and honest conversation with your daughter-in-law. Talk as calmly and sensibly as possible, express your feelings, and ask her for her opinion. After listening to her thoughts, try to understand her perspective and try to find a solution to the problem.

2.Try to listen and don't rush to refute or criticize. Respect each other's opinions and try to find common ground in them. If you disagree with something, try to express your opinion, but also try to find a compromise solution.

3.Try to build a good relationship with your daughter-in-law. Spend as much time as possible with her to increase trust and understanding. This helps to reduce friction and unnecessary conflicts.

4.Try to face this with a positive attitude. I believe you can solve this problem together.

Separate and live early imitation. The daughter-in-law is scattered and makes things difficult for her mother-in-law in every way, but she doesn't want her mother-in-law to live together, and deliberately makes it difficult for her mother-in-law to retreat from the difficulties, and goes back to her hometown by herself.

It's not good, living together will definitely cause conflicts.

Hello Duck. How to get along with your in-laws.

1.Treating elders requires filial piety and respect.

The old man lived for the rest of his life. If they develop a critical personality or a stubborn temper, the younger generation needs to give in once they have different views and opinions from the younger ones. If you feel that you are more reasonable, try to communicate calmly with the elderly person, rather than directly confronting them.

This is disrespect and unfilial piety to the elderly.

2.Treating peers requires tolerance and love.

We must also know how to love our contemporaries. Because you love your husband, you will love my house, my dog, my brothers and sisters, and my relatives. If you find that his relatives are gossiping about you, please be tolerant of them.

They may not be really hostile to you, it's just that their own personality is not tolerant.

3.In case of conflict with your family, you can use your husband's arm.

You want to get the most out of your husband's role as a lubricant for the whole family. Once you have some insoluble friction or conflict with his family, it is best for you to ask him to come forward and resolve it. The husband is a good bridge between you and his family.

Don't abandon your husband and carry it on yourself, it's very bad for your married life.

4.Don't gossip about your in-laws in front of people.

We don't know much about our in-laws. After all, we haven't lived with them since we were kids, and we don't know much about everything they go through. So once you find that your in-laws' family is not very good in some aspects, don't spread it.

It is immoral to tell people right and wrong behind their backs. If you spread the truth about your family at will, it will not only embarrass your husband's family, but also hurt your husband and his family.

5.When you see a problem, you should learn to put yourself in the shoes of others.

It is said that it is difficult for a clean official to decide family affairs, because every family member will have a different position and opinion on the same matter, which is really unpredictable. Therefore, when getting along with your in-laws, you should always look at the problem from their point of view, and you may get different results. In the end, you'll be able to understand why they react the way they do, and deal with things this way.

Over time, you will naturally understand them and get along well with them.

6.Take the initiative to do something for your family.

As a member of the family, it is necessary for us to contribute our modest strength to the family, such as taking the initiative to do housework, caring for the health of the elderly, and spending more time with them. If your husband has siblings, you can also care more about their work and life. The human heart is meat.

When you take the initiative to show favor and have been in a relationship with people for a long time, they will naturally be happy to get along with you.

It's not easy to make, hope, thank you.

It can be said that the most difficult thing to deal with in this world is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, after all, everyone is a woman, one is a man's wife, one is a man's mother, one accompanies him in the first half of his life, and the other accompanies him in the second half of his life, which can be said to be a big war that is about to break out. There are really very few people who can achieve the harmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, some families are daughters-in-law are more powerful, and some mothers-in-law are looking for trouble all day long, lest the world be chaotic. If the in-laws can't respect themselves, then they will definitely not be mad on the spot for the first time, so let's find the reason first.

One: Think about whether you have done something wrong.

There must be a reason why the mother-in-law is disrespectful to her daughter-in-law, and there are not many mothers-in-law who deliberately provoke trouble, most of them hope to be able to live a good life. But if you say that you didn't do anything wrong, it was deliberate, then it's another matter, and you're not easy to bully.

2: Patience first and respect for the elders for the first time.

If it's the first time, no matter how disrespectful you are, as long as you don't touch your bottom line, you can still bear it, after all, it's an elder, and you need to understand how you don't do it. If you say that you endure it once, and then you still do it, then you must be furious. Otherwise, the other party may think that you are a bully, and they are looking for your business every day, and they are very happy to watch you work, and they are busy before and after.

Three: Look at your husband's attitude.

The key to the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to see whether his husband will deal with it, and a man with high emotional intelligence can handle the conflict between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law well, because he knows that his attitude determines the status of his wife. The big thing is that if your husband is also accusing you when you are wronged, then such a family can leave.

Therefore, when a woman is looking for a husband, she should also look at how the other party's family is, after all, she will have to deal with his family in the future, if the family is not good, then she must not have a good life in the future.

Summary. Hello, I am Teacher Nuan Nuan, good at marriage and family, love, psychology, interpersonal communication and other aspects of problem analysis. I can feel that you are very confused now, so if it is convenient to tell me about your specific situation

Hello, expert I would like to ask my daughter-in-law to pick my mother-in-law.

Hello, I am Teacher Nuan Nuan, good at marriage and family, love, psychology, interpersonal communication and other aspects of problem analysis. I can feel that you are very confused now, so if it is convenient to tell me about your specific situation

Such a teacher, my grandson is 5 years old, and he likes to hit his grandfather on the head and said to his daughter-in-law many times, and it doesn't work to talk about it. Hit his grandfather twice on the head at 3 p.m. yesterday? His grandfather said dizzy?

Can't get up. Why didn't I go to his shop in the evening, and my son was busy cooking pots. The daughter-in-law and grandson were watching TV, so I brought the little grandson over, and I told the daughter-in-law that the daughter-in-law said that I would help him, and he said no, he didn't tell my son to pick the two of them behind his back, and he ignored the son and didn't ask.

Son, daughter-in-law came home last night and didn't ask. I don't feel well. What can I say again?

The times create people, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not people of the same era at all, and their thoughts, practices, and habits are all different, so there are many contradictions in their respective views. The son is her biological flesh and blood, and the daughter-in-law is an outsider after all, no matter how good the mother-in-law is, in the mother-in-law's heart, the son will always be closer than the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law will always feel that the mother-in-law is not as good as her own mother, so there will be contradictions.