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I'm wondering if your idea is also a bit extreme, because he has suffered at work, and realized the importance of reading, so he doesn't want you to suffer the hardships he has suffered in the future, he is thinking about you, and you doubt whether he loves you by his point, since you doubt it, why do you still think that he is very single-minded and loyal? Did you explicitly tell him that you don't like the graduate school entrance examination, or did you just mention it? Moreover, he said that it was for your own good, in order to prevent you from being extremely unhappy at work in the future, how could this order you?
If a person doesn't care about you, doesn't care what decisions you make, and doesn't make suggestions to you, I think your understanding is too biased. You should have a good chat, since he is a person with a strong sense of responsibility, he will listen to your heart, and then you should understand what he said with a peaceful heart, not with your subjective color, and when he says it, you will discuss how to do it. Men can't have too much machismo, but they can't have nothing at all, otherwise they are the kind of indecisive people, and such people will also bring you a lot of troubles.
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People who study are more educated. Now that you know empathy, that's fine. He asked you to go to graduate school because he wanted you to live a better life in the future.
The starting point is good, if a man doesn't have a little machismo, it's not a mother, and it's not interesting to make a little decision. And as you said above, your boyfriend should be a more rational person, and there are a lot of things to talk about. Tell him what you think.
After discussion, we are making a result that everyone is satisfied with. Instead of sulking in his own life, he is looking for answers from netizens.
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Feelings are also evenly matched, it is normal to have pressure, and there will be pressure to have the motivation to move forward. However, if you put too much emphasis on it and can't live a normal life, it's time to think about whether you are really suitable. A good relationship should be about understanding each other and growing together.
The most important thing for two people to be together is communication, and I don't think communication can solve the problem without it. You have your own ideas, then you should tell your own plans and ideas to your object, the most important thing is to put it into action, for your ideas and your own plans to work hard, I believe that if you have ideas and work hard for them, your boyfriend thinks that you are sensible and assertive, don't worry about you, then he will also support you.
On the contrary, if you say that you have ideas, but the image you present to your boyfriend is just a muddled one, and your boyfriend can't see your progress and changes, then he will definitely worry about you and plan a life path that he thinks is most suitable for you. Organize your feelings, love is mutual, you are worthless in his heart, or you love to become; There is no dignity at all, now that's it, how to move forward in the future life, since love has become a one-sided payment, a man loves you, the lover is out of the eyes, really loves you, what you do wrong, he will think it is right.
Find out why you and your boyfriend have different perspectives. It may be caused by the personalities of both parties, it may be the difference in the interpersonal partners of the two parties, or the difference in the environment of the two parties, which may lead to the inconsistency of the three views. Find the reason, and then you confirm what kind of mindset your boyfriend made you change.
It is possible that he has a more progressive attitude towards life, and I hope you can follow in his footsteps and live a happy life together. It is also possible that he has a certain dependence mentality, thinking that his shortcomings need to be filled by you. It's up to you to confirm it yourself.
After finding the reason, you will have a relatively good direction to change yourself or your boyfriend or the relationship.
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You should talk to your boyfriend, and you also need to tell your boyfriend that you are an independent individual, and you must have your own principles in life and do what you are interested in.
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At this time, you should talk to your boyfriend, you also have ideas, so you should do things according to your own ideas, and don't change yourself because of your boyfriend.
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At this time, you can communicate directly with your boyfriend, explain that he is more demanding, explain your inner thoughts, and make the other party make corresponding changes.
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People's hearts are all soft, especially in front of the people they like, many women may give up some of their own standards for the people they love, just want to make two people happier. "Valuing the difference between two people is a kind of love. "Since the two of you have chosen to be together, there are some different types of suggestions in the process of getting along, and this is because the two of you have been in the run-in period.
Sometimes it is not completely observant of another convenience is good for this relationship, in fact, people are selfish in many cases, men and women are the same, if you want to manage a relationship well, sometimes you must reject some men's regulations. You have to do something for the other person because you love him, but no matter how deep you love him, keep your bottom line.
Men and women used to live in different natural environments before they were together, and it is very likely that there will be some significant areas between two people that are not tolerated by the other, and at this moment it is possible to understand whether the two people are suitable for each other. If a man often makes you take away from your own point of view, you need to listen to the other person in many things, but in the process of getting along with everyone, his ideas may sometimes be incorrect, if you give up your own point of view because of love, and do not talk about right and wrong.
Sometimes, if there are some problems between the man and your parents, then you should think about how to deal with the relationship from a rational perspective, instead of blindly favoring one side. This can tell if a man is thinking from your point of view, and if he makes you biased towards him, if you do that, you may lose a lot of important things, so be careful before making a decision. For the relationship, both parties are their own important people, if he really loves you, he will not let you make it difficult in it, he will take the initiative to ease the relationship between the two parties, he wants to make you happy, so he will do this.
After two people are together, the boy's own ability may not reach a certain standard, at this time, if you are asked to leave your own future to accompany him, so that you can be his backbone at home. At this moment, it is not necessary to agree to the other party's request, after all, both of them have their own jobs, so that women may not be distressed in their future lives because they have to rely on the other party for everything. Both of you are contributing to this family, and if you love him and be able to give him some career assistance, instead of blindly obeying the other party, then you will regret it in the future life, and there may be no way to solve it.
When falling in love, everyone should always respect each other, we can distinguish the pros and cons of a thing, if this matter will be to the other party, the man still does not have to ask the other party, because love should stand in the other party's point of view.
Women should not forget their original thoughts because of temporary love, if you are soft-hearted, it may bury certain shortcomings in your future life. After two people are together, the feelings between them are increasing after experiencing all kinds of things, and they can't ask the other party to give up what she wants to have for their own temporary pleasure.
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Make you change yourself, ask about your emotional experiences, make you give up your job and make friends, don't agree to these demands.
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When there is a problem with your parents, you will be biased towards him, and when he is incapable, it will make you give up your career to accompany him, and often make you make some changes for him.
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