Parents, sometimes it s really heartbreaking!

After all, there are a few parents who are ruthless to their children, and I hope that your parents are actually silently loving you behind your back, thinking about whether there is anything they have done for you. If it's really a pity that you don't, don't quarrel with them, after all, no matter how you can raise you to adulthood, it's a big deal to work hard yourself, and the well water doesn't interfere with the river water. As for the current disease, it must be that God has tempered you in order to make you take on heavy responsibilities, come on and get through, there are still more good people than bad people in the world.

I don't know if you have had some contradictions or problems before, which led to today's situation, I believe that as long as there are no problems in the relationship between normal parents and children, it is impossible to get to this point. Have you reviewed it before, it is your own ** that you have not done well, so that your parents are sad and disappointed, so that there will be today's phenomenon, if you are wrong first, then your parents have been completely sad about you, have been disappointed.

I deeply understand the pain brought by your family of origin, because I am also a victim, you can only accept this state first, and secondly, divert your attention, if your parents are really ruthless, you can balance it a little bit through friends, lovers, or confidants.

I can understand your current mood, maybe your parents have something unspeakable, you can live in this world, after all, they also gave you life, learn to be grateful, and believe that your future will be better and better.

You must know that people's hearts are cold.

People are selfish.

You can't choose to be born on your own.

Just strive to create the future.

Be kind to yourself.

Look a little away.

Be self-reliant, there's always a reason for everything. You're an adult, go find your own warmth.

Some of the parents' personalities have really become special when they get old, men's menopause, women's menopause, grumpy, and annoyed when they can't say a word.

Yes, some parents are like that. Human nature is inherently selfish.

Just think of these as the difficulties that must be passed on the road to success, just like Tang Seng learned scriptures from the West!

Perhaps your parents had their own struggles.

It's still rare for this to happen, because you've had a quarrel before.

Your illness is very serious! Don't blame your parents! Let's put down my hair and go to the hospital to ask the doctor if he can come up with an idea!!

As the saying goes, there must be an effect, when you are aware of what your parents are doing to you, have you ever reciprocated to your parents?

Then your parents really have no sense of responsibility, they neither care about you nor love you, why do they have children? Are they more selfish?

Don't get paid to work? What to give

Find a boyfriend to love you!

The word ruthlessness is used a bit absolutely, and ruthlessness actually means strictness, and good parents are not the gentleness we see as immutable, they can be said to be strict.

But the desperation is reflected in the fact that when they don't allow their children to play, let the children sacrifice their own play time and spend more time on studying, in fact, the reason why parents do this is very simple, they just want their children to study seriously and have a good job when they grow up. <>

But I think parents can be appropriately ruthless, but they can't be ruthless in everything. When discovering children's interests and strengths, they should be actively cultivated, not annihilated, and not just to make him do well in learning and not do other things. Good parents must have their own appropriate methods, blind ruthlessness will not only make their children unable to enjoy the happiness of childhood, but also make children feel that life is very boring.

Especially when children are in adolescence, if parents are blindly ruthless, it is easy to have disputes with children, and even children do not understand the idea that parents hate their parents.

I feel that parents should adopt a more guiding way to educate their children, listen to their children's opinions and opinions on everything, and communicate more with their children.

Although parents are a safe haven for their children, they must not overdo it when they should let their children go out to experience the wind and rain, because as an excellent parent, you should know how to cultivate your child's independence and know how to train your child to exercise your child, which is why many people say that good parents are a little ruthless. Just like when we went to kindergarten when we were young, many people cried and didn't let their parents leave when they first went. But if parents can't be ruthless at the time, your child may mature a year later than someone else's child.

There is an old saying in China called the stick out of filial piety, although we do not recommend parents to hit their children, but we must know the true meaning of this sentence, that is, when children make mistakes, we must let children know that they will bear the corresponding consequences when they make mistakes, at this time parents should learn to be ruthless, only in this way that your children will not make bigger mistakes in the future.

For example, parents should learn to control their children's pocket money, only in this way can children learn to work hard to create value and continue to make progress. As a good parent, you should understand the importance of being a little more ruthless with your child.

I couldn't agree more, because my mom and dad were a bit ruthless towards me.

Many people go out on a trip for the first time when they are adults, because before they become adults, their parents are not worried about them, and even some parents of girls are not worried about their daughters traveling alone when they become adults, but I am different. The first time I went on a solo trip was when I was in the 56th grade of elementary school, and I wasn't in junior high school anyway.

That trip was to Shandong to play, to three cities, Qingdao, Weihai and Penglai, my parents did not accompany me, because they both have jobs, they chose to let me go by myself, at that time this trip was organized by my mother's hospital, there were many mother's colleagues, but they didn't know me, because they came from different departments, my mother didn't tell them to let them take care of me excessively, just told them that my daughter can take care of herself, don't care too much about her, but let them play with themselves.

So when I was not yet 12 years old, I had already traveled alone for the first time in my life. And then when I was in junior high school, I had my first solo trip, so solo travel wasn't really a big deal for me. My family is now accepting everything except for me going abroad alone.

Personally, I couldn't agree more. Parents are the first teachers of children, but also the teaching of children, the responsibility of parents is not only to bring up their children, just to feed well, the real responsibility of parents is to teach their children well, teach them how to behave, how to be a good person, how to be a real talent in society, this is the real responsibility of parents.

But now the common phenomenon is that under the requirements of family planning, the only child is advocated, and it is precisely because of this one-child policy that parents are too doting on their children, which is simply to stretch out their hands for clothes and open their mouths for food, resulting in a child's not positive mentality, only willing to be a gnawing old man, but as parents, have you ever thought that you can go to your children for a few more years?

Therefore, I very much support this kind of moderately ruthless parents, because for such parents, they know how to teach their children correctly, do they love their children so ruthlessly, don't they feel sorry for their children? No, this is because they love their children and care about their children, so they will not indulge them to make trouble unreasonably, they are more concerned about the future of their children.

Good parents actually have to look at different periods, children in their early childhood, good parents mean that they can take good care of their children's growth and at the same time let their children learn life skills, learn to be independent, and learn to be themselves; And when the child grows up, good parents mean concern and not excessive intervention, the child has grown up, has his own opinions and judgment ability, too close to the two generations will not only cause the gap between the two generations, and from the perspective of the parents to consider the problem may not really help the child.

Judging from the above two points, in the process of children's growth, this little ruthlessness of parents is necessary.

A little ruthlessness can be the first time the child falls, encourage him to stand up instead of supporting, a little ruthlessness can also be the first time the child completes his homework, let him learn and explore on his own, don't count on the help of parents, a little ruthlessness can also be in the child has just entered the society, when he leaves the family and campus for the first time, give him appropriate advice, do not arrange roads for him ......

Such a little bit of desperation can be a mediator between parents and children, making the family more harmonious and the individual more independent.

The heart is too soft, you can't do big things, and you can't educate good children.

Those competitive sports students, aren't they strict teachers and high apprentices?

Exercise your child's ability to be used for a lifetime.

The so-called ruthlessness of Yu Qi is not really ruthless, but it is not dependent on his children in everything. In this way, the child's independent ability can be exercised, so that the child can have the ability to take care of himself, have the ability to think independently, and lay a good foundation for the child's future development.