What it s like to go from liking to hating someone

In fact, liking this thing is inherently self-deceptive.

There is a hot comment on NetEase Cloud, and suddenly I don't like a person, what does it feel like? He was covered in light. For a moment, it suddenly dimmed and became a speck of dust in the universe.

I tried to remember how light he was, but I couldn't. Later, I found out that it was the light in my eyes when I first met him.

Therefore, liking this thing itself carries a lot of illusions. Some people even say that what we like is not the real person, but your sense of substitution in this relationship. So when the aura retreats, the nasty him you see is actually the real him.

People tend to repeat attachment patterns from childhood. In a secure attachment model, the individual does not feel left out by himself, and can get along well when the attachment partner is present, and when he is not, he or she will explore the world and do other interesting things on his own.

In an insecure attachment relationship, the individual is always afraid of being abandoned by the attachment partner and will be upset as long as the other person is not there, and as a result, that anxiety manifests itself even when the two are together, leaving the other person with a feeling of being overwhelmed.

What the subject needs is actually just a sense of security, a recognition. If he keeps saying gently, "You are a good girl who deserves to be loved." "I understand your uneasiness, you can rest assured to say anything to me, I will always understand you and tolerate you." ”

If he can show deep empathy for every little bit of the girl's thoughts, and say some words to the girl's heart, in fact, it doesn't matter if he replies slowly.

In this era of excessive social pressure, no one can guard ** 24 hours a day all their lives just to reply to someone's information in seconds. This is not sustainable.

It was love at first sight, but after getting along for a long time, I found that the other party had a problem with their character, and then I began to hate a person, which is a particularly disgusting feeling.

From the habit of meeting for the first time, maybe it is because we have experienced something and changed our perception of another person, as if we have changed from pink to black.

From what he does, you feel like it, to what he does, you feel that he is doing something wrong and annoying.

I feel quite lost, after all, I used to like him so much.

After going through such a process, you have a subtle feeling, and there is a concept in your heart that you don't judge people by their appearance.

Knowing people and knowing faces but not knowing their hearts, at first glance I thought that this person was very good, but after a long time, many shortcomings were exposed.

They all liked him through their appearance, and later their connotation and recording for others were not worthy of his appearance.

From liking to hating, then the experience is painful, after all, the person who once loved has now become hateful.

Why did I feel so blind before? I was very helpless about my former self.

First of all, I have to admit that being hated is a bad thing, but being hated also has a lot of points, being hated by people you like and people you don't like.

If you're hated by someone you don't like, you shouldn't care, right? But if you are hated by the person you like, then you need courage, but are you going to do anything to save the world, you would rather care about the person hates you, but you have to have the courage to do it, then if you really do what you do is right, then he doesn't understand you and hates you, then you don't care about his feelings, just do it. If it's not a good thing, and if you do it and make people hate you, then why do you do it.

So it's time to examine yourself.

For your courage to be hated, that's OK if you're not there! Have your own way, let others say go!

The feeling of hating a person is that you don't want to say hello when you meet, and for couples, you will feel disgusted when you hate each other, even if you are holding hands, you will feel disgusted.

I don't want to see it, and I get annoyed when I see it.