It s been four months since I gave birth, and I m always in a bad mood, what s going on

It's a bit like postpartum depression in medical terms.

Medically speaking, women are depressed due to physical and psychological factors after giving birth, with symptoms such as nervousness, doubt, boredom, guilt, impatience, fear, etc.

Another study showed that 50-75% of women experienced a period of unstable personality such as silent crying or poor mood.

Self-regulation in patients with postpartum depression.

Shift in focus: If you do face a serious unpleasant life event after giving birth, or even if the problem is difficult to solve, don't let your energy always stick to the adverse event. The more you think about unpleasant things, the worse your mood will be, and the worse your mood will be, the easier it will be to get into the horns, and the more depressed your mood will be, and you will fall into a vicious circle of emotions.

Therefore, it is necessary to appropriately divert one's attention, as the heroine Hao Sijia said in "Gone with the Wind" when facing the dilemma, "think about it tomorrow", which is a kind of diversion method, shift your attention to some pleasant things, pay attention to your own preferences, not only transfer your thinking, but also participate in pleasant activities within your ability.

Take the initiative to ask for help: women with postpartum depression will have a kind of helplessness in their hearts, and psychological experts analyze that this feeling of helplessness may be a reappearance of the shadow of being ignored in childhood. This is actually a signal of wanting to get the attention of others, so actively seeking and receiving the attention of others is a very effective way to protect yourself.

Relaxation charging method: appropriately adjust and change the content of life, do not pay attention to the child all the time and ignore yourself, temporarily hand over the child to others to take care of, let yourself take a short vacation, even if it is two hours or half a day, you can also achieve the effect of relaxing yourself and recharging mentally. Avoid mental and emotional overdrafts.

Behavior modification method: In view of the fact that women are not suitable for strenuous exercise after giving birth, some appropriate relaxation activities are very necessary, such as deep breathing, walking, meditation, meditating on calm images, listening to soothing and beautiful **, etc.

Confiding catharsis: Communicate with friends or relatives, talk about your heart, cry a lot, and vent your depression to your heart's content.

Role alternation method: Don't forget that although you are a mother, you are still the wife of your husband and the daughter of your parents, and no one can only be a 24-hour full-time mother, so you have to change your role to enjoy the power of a wife and daughter.

Self-encouragement: self-appreciation, looking more at your own strengths, looking at the benefits of things, and thinking more about the possible success of things.

Self-actualization: Having children is just one way for women to achieve self-realization, but it is by no means the only way, so don't forget that there are other potentials and needs for self-actualization. Maybe you can take advantage of the maternity leave to pay attention to the career you are good at, and when the maternity leave ends, a new image will appear.

Food method: Pregnant women usually eat a lot of supplements in the "confinement", but they don't know that these foods are easy to make people upset, insomnia and anxiety, and in severe cases, there will be various signs of "fire". Therefore, it is necessary to eat more light food, eat more fresh vegetables and fruits, drink more warm water, and adjust the physical and mental state from the inside out.

It's inevitable that there will be more considerations after giving birth. As a mother, you will inevitably worry about the future of your child, want to give your child good things but have no ability, or you yourself are a person with a strong sense of responsibility, and your sense of responsibility will increase after giving birth, which will lead to a bad mood. Or after having a child, I feel that I feel different about the world, whether it is looking at my husband or looking at myself, this feeling is normal, and I will naturally adapt to it after a run-in period.

The reason for this is complicated, and there is no way to understand your thoughts very clearly, so it is recommended that you can talk to a friend, even if it is an aimless confiding, it can relieve a lot of emotions. The process of speaking can drain emotions, and the process of pouring out is a form of unconscious channeling.

Or if you are a person who is not good at talking, you can try to keep a diary, or go to a bookstore to read a maternity diary, after all, people who empathize with you can really understand you. There are many ways to channel your mood, but if you don't solve the underlying problem, the problem will still be backlogged.

So it's better to find a chance to analyze yourself well, after all, only you can understand yourself.

Has the work started? Start by planning your time period with your children, and then spend the rest of your time with friends. Listen to something happy. Be sure to keep your emotions under control. Otherwise, it will affect the baby's.

Find out if the problem is for no reason, or because of something. Work something out.

After I gave birth, I did experience postpartum depression, and I was in a very bad mood, and I couldn't concentrate on anything? I'm very irritable, I feel annoyed when I see everything, and I often quarrel with my mother-in-law and husband, and it's really hard to live without it.

I also try to stop focusing on my children and care about my husband and mother-in-law. Whenever she has an emotion, she constantly tells herself that she is sick and needs to overcome it. Although she still sometimes falls into negative emotions, she can always find a way out of it.

The mood will also slowly get better, it's a process, it's slow.

When I have negative emotions, I should release them appropriately, communicate more with my family, especially with my husband, enrich my life, find a small hobby for myself, and manage my body in the future, which will help you resist depression, and fight depression, internal factors are the most important.

As a family member of the mother, we should give more care to the mother, especially the husband of the mother, after all, for most women, the husband's position in his heart is irreplaceable, and the ten sentences that others care about (including the parents' rolling respect) are not as good as the one that the husband cares about. If my husband didn't have enough care and patience at that time, it might be difficult for me to get through that period of depression, so I thank my husband for giving me enough love and patience during this time.

You can tell stories to your wife, or you can often be by your wife's side, and you can also enlighten your wife through some things and make delicious food for your wife.

From a medical point of view, after giving birth to a child, the qi and blood are weak, and the blood is deficient and the yin is deficient, and the person will be dry, so it is easy to get angry.

Handling method back.

It is necessary to reasonably adjust the body, and you can consult a Chinese medicine practitioner.

From the perspective of role bearing, the role at this time is a completely standard mother role, and the burden on her body is heavier at this time, and she is both happy and worried about seeing the birth of a new life, worrying about all kinds of troubles and unknown concerns about taking care of children.

The way to deal with this is to ask your family or your mother to help you.

From a psychological point of view, the burden is easy to produce pressure, the child's eating, drinking, and Lazar will make you not very accustomed and upset at the beginning, and many new problems that have not been seen appear continuously, resulting in the continuous accumulation of psychological discomfort, so it will be depressed, and it will become a temper after a long time.

The way to deal with it is to find experienced people around you to help you deal with problems in time. Also, exercise properly, get some fresh air, and do what you are most happy about.

Serious patients have jumped off the building in the middle of the night after giving birth.

Caused by long-term depression and psychological burden.

We don't know about this, but I've heard a lot of similar things.

Guidance:

Your situation belongs to postpartum depression refers to the depressive symptoms that occur after childbirth, which is the most common type of puerperal mental syndrome, generally the first onset within 6 weeks after childbirth, manifested as depression, sadness, frustration, crying, irritability, irritability, and a series of symptoms such as hallucinations or suicide in severe cases. Postpartum depression is generally more effective as long as it is detected early and early**. Women often have too much physical exertion after giving birth, so they should supplement enough nutrition after childbirth, ensure adequate sleep and rest, adjust their emotions, maintain a good psychological state, and correctly face the problems after the arrival of the child.

She needs the care and consideration of her husband and family, and she also needs her husband's assistance in raising children. Husbands and wives should live in harmony and share the joy of parenting. Taking an occasional walk and chatting with friends is also great for changing your mood.