How to have a good relationship in junior high school, and how to make a good relationship in junior

First of all, you have to study well, which will attract everyone's attention, and secondly, you have to be kind to everyone, you know, you have to make a few powerful friends, as long as you are honest and kind, and you can learn to be eye-catching, and I am now Although I am not the boss, but I have a boss friend, no one will bully you, of course, you don't mess with people, hehe.

Be kind to everyone as equals

Even if you don't like her or hate him so much that she doesn't say it.

Be sure to say good things about B in front of A, and don't be afraid that your good words won't reach his ears.

If someone says something bad about another person in front of you, you don't say yes, you just laugh it off.

It is necessary to study well.

There is a skill.

Have a good relationship with the teacher (not a sycophant)...

Organizational and call-to-action skills.

Make people feel like you're kind.

In any case, this society is still very realistic, and it has been revealed since junior high school. The most effective and direct way is that you have good grades, so that everyone naturally wants to contact you (I blush, bad roots, if your grades are not very good, then participate in school activities, host class meetings or something, and everyone will often play with you if you are outstanding in some aspects.)

Do you want to be the kind of friend who has a wide range of friends (I know people in both black and white) and wants to have good grades in school, and my classmates like you very much, love you and fear you???

If you concentrate on studying well and be smarter, you can do it.

Don't think too much, just be yourself. If it's too much like doing a good job, it will appear ***. Good luck.

I'm the class leader, but I didn't do that myself].

As long as you are good, there are so many of them, everyone's vision is different, as long as it is right, you must insist.

So, listen to me.

Excellent grades. The demeanor is on the wrong side.

People are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden.

I'm just in junior high school, and I'm here to learn from it.

To build good interpersonal relationships, there are both cognitive and behavioral factors. But the most important thing is the influence of the psychological attraction of both parties, that is, whether I like his influence or not. The greater the level of emotional joy in a person, the closer the relationship.

1) Proximity attraction. As the saying goes, "distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors", the smaller the spatial distance, the easier it is for both parties to approach and become confidants. Because the proximity is convenient for communication, understanding and mutual assistance. In addition, proximity has a great influence on behavior.

Therefore, people are generally willing to establish harmonious relationships with those in their neighborhood. But there must be a condition, if you can meet the needs of the neighbors, the closer you are, the stronger the favorability, the greater the attraction. Conversely, proximity increases disgust.

2) Meter suction. Generally speaking, when there is a lack of comprehensive understanding of a person, the first thing to judge is the person's appearance. Whether you admit it or not, people are always willing to associate with personable and beautiful people, and they always feel uncomfortable when dealing with people who are ugly.

3) Ability attraction. People who are capable or have expertise in a certain area are easy to be more attractive. People always like smart and capable people, and don't like ignorant people.

Because a person with strong ability can effectively help others and meet the needs of others, it is easy for people to have a sense of admiration for him and appreciate his talents. For example, many students are willing to stay with more capable students.

4) Personality attraction. Cheerful, enthusiastic, generous, steady and composed, brave and agile, it has great charm for middle school students. Psychologist Allport has shown that the intrinsic attributes of a person's personality traits, such as self-cultivation, politeness, and enthusiasm, are more attractive than appearance, novel movements, and status.

5) Return attraction. Man loves those who love him and hates those who hate him. Because man always likes the one who brings retribution, and hates the one who brings damage. Being respected and liked is a kind of social reward, and being hated and hated by others is a kind of social punishment.

6) Quality attraction. Generally speaking, people like people who are sincere and enthusiastic and helpful people, and hate people who are selfish, treacherous, and cold.

In junior high school, there is no such thing as caring for interpersonal relationships. You remember two points: read books and study more hard, and the best interpersonal foundation for good grades and good deeds is the last word.

Second, think more about others, you speak more on the basis of good grades, show your positive, optimistic and healthy mental outlook, your classmates will gradually like you more and more, and the teacher will let you act as a class leader. You will help more people. As long as you are sincere and think more about your classmates, if individual students have opinions in a short time, you don't have to worry too much, as long as you are sincere, everyone will love you more.

Have faith!

How to deal with interpersonal relationships in secondary school.

First, we must learn to respect him, learn to listen, and not impose opinions on the right one. Some students are impatient in their interactions, and when communicating in a bilingual manner, they are anxious to make judgments and decisions without waiting for the complete expression of the meaning of the pair, and often misinterpret the meaning they want to express, resulting in resentment. Therefore, it is necessary to listen when interacting, and on the basis of listening, a sincere attitude and exchange of views.

First, it is necessary to send charcoal in the snow, not icing on the cake. When a classmate is in trouble, sincerely help him, he will be grateful to you, and we will be happy because of helping him; When a classmate is successful and proud, go close to him and say something right, just to make him fashionable, and there will be no meaning in the future, and don't do this kind of meaningful thing. Otherwise, time will pass, and he and the people around him will look at you.

Third, learn to empathize. In international communication, we often need to stand on the right side and think about problems for each other in a different place. Only when you stand on the right level can you know what problems he is facing and what difficulties need to be solved, and only then will you understand what he needs and what he rejects, and you will never say things that he dislikes or do things that he hates.

In fact, you don't have to care about how to do a good job in interpersonal relationships, be yourself, you must have something attractive about yourself, people who like you will naturally come to you, and interpersonal relationships are actually natural.

One. It is necessary to pay attention to emotional communication and increase the flexibility of communication between each other. When we choose friends, because of the relatively low level of cognition, we lack a lot of social experience, and most of the interactions come from personal feelings, but relatively little thought about the requirements and constraints of social morality.

Therefore, for students entering junior high school, they can be guided to make flexible choices according to their interests, hobbies, living habits, health conditions, and the beginning of their studies. For example, organizing students to communicate with each other, which saves time and effort, also allows you to learn about each other. Then make the right choice according to your own situation, expand the scope of your friends as much as possible, and not always close yourself in a small time and space.

2. Pay attention to the distance between classmates and increase the topics of mutual communication. During interactions, students tend to pay special attention to the distance between each other.

Third, learn to tolerate each other and increase the complementarity of interaction.

Children at this age are childish but feel that they have grown up, which is more difficult to manage.

1。No matter how introverted children will have their little preferences, in fact, you can understand their preferences first, (but instead of desperately asking them "what do you like" and "do you have anything you want", etc., maybe they will feel annoying to their parents when they hear it), although parents are busy with work, it is sometimes not easy to carefully understand their preferences. For example, the boy likes basketball very much, likes Jordan, and can buy him a beautiful basketball at the right time; My daughter likes to listen to Jay Chou's songs, so I can buy her a new CD or something.

Sometimes what they need is just to go and have some fun. With appropriate rewards, sometimes they will feel very happy to be close to their parents again.

2。I understand that many children don't want or even like their parents to sit down and talk face-to-face in a very formal way, and it gives me a sense of disgust at the time (at least as I felt when I was a child). Sometimes it's time to develop a sense of humor to deal with your child and make jokes (not jokes) about their preferences

3,。Children don't want their parents to always compare themselves with other people's children, so it's good to be appropriate, or they're very disgusted.

4。If you want to make use of your mother's strengths, it will be effective to cook something delicious for them.

The first condition is to have a cheerful personality, talk more sincerely with people, and help others more, absolutely yes, I am the best in this area, I wish you a happy life!

Be smiling, helpful, help each other, be proactive, and don't form small groups.

Laugh more, be kind to others, stop talking about others behind your back, don't put on a face to people you don't like, do your own thing, don't use your own standards to measure others, and learn to be tolerant.

You've also seen some people who are annoyed by you, so it's best to keep your distance from them.

It's not always better to get closer to the crowd, and sometimes it's better to keep a little distance.

Good psychological quality is a necessary condition for people to carry out a wide range of social activities, and it is also a prerequisite for language skills and communication talents to be fully developed. On the contrary, a poor psychological state can form certain barriers and barriers, which to a certain extent hinder people from making friends and adapting to society. Therefore, we should pay attention to our self-cultivation in our work and life, and strive to overcome the following pathological psychology in interpersonal communication.

Inferiority complex. Some people are prone to have an inferiority complex, and even look down on themselves, only know their shortcomings but do not know their strengths, are willing to live under others, lack the self-confidence they should have, and cannot give full play to their own advantages and specialties. People with an inferiority complex have no courage to act in social interactions, are accustomed to going along with the voice, and have no opinions of their own.

If this mentality is not changed, over time, it may gradually wear down people's courage, courage and unique personality.

Cowardice. It is mainly seen in people who are not deeply involved in the world, have shallow experience, are introverted, and are not good at rhetoric. Cowardice can hinder the realization of one's plans and assumptions. Cowardice is a rope that binds thoughts and behaviors, and it should be cut off and discarded.

Suspicion. People with suspicion often like to look at each other and look at external things with distrustful eyes, and whenever they see what others are talking about, they think that others are saying bad things about themselves. People who are suspicious and jealous often chase after the wind and shadows, make extraneous branches, make irresponsible remarks, and provoke troubles, and the result can only be to seek troubles for themselves and harm others and themselves.

Reverse psychology. Some people like to raise the bar with others as a way to show that they are different. For anything, no matter whether it is right or wrong, you say good and he says bad; You say one and he says two, you say that the pepper is very spicy, and he says it is not spicy.

Rebellious psychology tends to blur the strict boundaries between right and wrong, and often makes people disgusted and disgusted.

Exclusionary mentality. Human beings' existing knowledge, experience, and way of thinking need to be constantly updated, otherwise they will lose their vitality and even produce side effects. Exclusionary mentality ignores this, and it manifests itself in the refusal to expand one's mind, prompting people to go around in circles in a small space that they enclose themselves.

Drama psychology. Some people regard making friends as a show, often looking at Qin and Chu, seeing different ideas, and like to brag. This way of interacting with people is only superficial, and as a result, true friendship and friendship are often not obtained.

Greed for money. Some people think that the purpose of making friends is to "use each other", so they only make friends with people who are useful to them and can bring benefits to them, and often "cross the river and tear down the bridge". This kind of interpersonal psychology can damage one's personality.

Apathy. Some people are indifferent to people and things that have nothing to do with them, and even mistakenly believe that harsh words, arrogant attitudes, and high-minded strides are their "personality", causing others to dare not approach them, and thus losing more friends.