If you want to destroy someone, what should you do?

It is difficult for a person to succeed, he needs to do everything 100% well, but it is easy to fail, and it is enough to do a little detail well. In the same way, it takes a lot of effort to make a person successful, but it only takes a few small things to destroy a person. Psychological research shows that the best way to ruin a person is to look at these four things!

Indulging his narrow-mindedness and shortcomings without a lower limit.

There is an old Chinese saying, "Good medicine is good for disease, and good words are good for deeds". It is a blessing that someone is willing to say nasty things to you, which means that you still have the opportunity to correct yourself and continue to develop, if a person only has compliments and compliments, or even unlimited indulgence in narrowness and shortcomings, then he will soon be ruined.

Because he doesn't realize that he has done something wrong, he will only go further and further down the wrong path, and in the end he will definitely make a big mistake. To ruin a person, it is enough to give him everything he wants, and then take it back all at once!

Unknowingly wastes his survival skills.

To put it another way, doting. Now there are many children in the society who are being destroyed step by step by this way, those little emperors and princesses who come to reach out for food and open their mouths, and children who are pampered and pampered by 4+2 families without a bottom line, cannot exercise their basic survival skills in normal life, so they will gradually lose the ability to live independently and independently, and become "giant babies" one by one.

They can't stand on their own feet in life, their personalities are selfish and incompetent, they will only seek help from their parents in the face of difficulties, they are already a flower that has been raised in a greenhouse, and once they lose their protection, they will be broken by wind and rain, and what is even more terrible is that such a silent destruction, neither the perpetrator nor the victim knows anything.

Depriving him of hopes and dreams when he is frustrated.

Everyone's life will encounter setbacks, a person is the most vulnerable when he is frustrated, but it is also the most critical moment, just like a butterfly that breaks its cocoon, it will have a gorgeous life if it persists, and once it is injured by external forces, it will no longer be able to fly.

When people are frustrated, what can support them to get out of the predicament and reorganize their outfits is the dreams and hopes in their hearts, and the encouragement of the people around them. At this time, if you fight him as a friend, both pillars are destroyed, it will be difficult for him to get out of the trough again.

Constantly isolate him and eventually detach him from society.

Human beings are social animals, and only by relying on society can they survive, and only by relying on complex and intertwined relationship networks can they develop benignly. Sociological research has also shown that human interaction is an important contributor to brain development in human young children.

A person who is detached from society is incomplete, he loses the opportunity to communicate with the crowd, there will be psychological problems, and there are defects in his personality in the long run, so Robinson will even chat with parrots after no one communicates for a long time, which is also the reason why the children raised by animals in the forest cannot live normally, their animality has been deeply stimulated, and some of the instincts and characteristics of human beings have been completely lost and can no longer be regained.

Some psychologists have pointed out that the abolition of a person does not require violence at all, and often only a few small means are needed, which seem to be innocuous but are likely to cause irreparable consequences.

You can verbally hit a person, which will make him have an inferiority complex and lose self-confidence; Or put a label on this person and forcibly add an identity to him, which can subtly change him.

Kill, hold him high, praise him and forget a few pounds and taels, let him be unworthy, and then let him contact the real world, he will definitely not adapt to the arrogance, and then doubt the world.

Answering hello dear, labeling a person is a method often used in life, labeling items in the physical world is a human habit, it is for us to remember things conveniently, and place items, so this habit we have easily continued to the psychological world, labeling a person smoothly, for example, he is a bad woman, he is a man with no prospects, he is an introvert and so on.

If you want to destroy a person, it is very easy, first you should gain the trust of this person, and you should also care about this person very much, and wait until this person has a certain sense of dependence on you, and then you choose to leave.

Spoil him, satisfy him, give him what he needs, don't let him do anything, give him an environment where clothes to reach out and eat to open his mouth. Let him get used to it, and then he can't leave you after he gets used to it, and no one may be able to do this to him without you.

Personally, I think the best way to destroy a person is to keep hitting him, questioning him, denying him, so that he will be ruined step by step.