How do you look at a person? How to perceive a person?

Love may be the feeling of love at first sight, love may be the feeling when you make a promise, and love may be the ......feeling of life and deathLove is a topic that can't be talked about endlessly. When you fall in love with someone, your heart is panicked and uneasy, you don't know how the other person feels, and you have to hide your feelings because you are a reserved person. Maybe the root of your love is a shadow in your heart, you put on a dream clothes for him, you are intoxicated in the illusion of the dream and do not want to wake up, wandering and tossing for a long time, when you know the other party's feelings, everything has been light, because you have stepped out of his shadow, his coat is no longer gorgeous, the love you hold has lost its luster, and your life has been injected with gray since then.

When I don't have the experience of loving others, I think, "It's a pleasure to love others." "When I'm loved, I think:

It's a blessing to be loved! But whether it is to love or be loved, it is so sad, because people's hearts are always so unpredictable, and desires are always so things, for her, they can only pass by. Nothing can penetrate deep into her heart.

Like a decadent and gloomy flower, with a gesture of despair but looking up at an innocent face, smiling at all cruelty and humiliation. The deep dark green color is without tears. Such a flower that blooms forever in the dark does not believe in tears, and is destined to be lonely for a lifetime.

Often, in a crowded crowd, I feel the extension, sound, smell of many strangers, chaotic and noisy. And when you are quiet and then look and listen, you can feel incombinable, with love and being loved, there will be a struggle in the whirlpool of feelings, and with love and being loved, there will be more entanglements in the emotional world. The wrong car of loving and being loved, the incomprehension of loving and being loved, the restriction of loving and being loved, the helpless ...... of loving and being lovedIn the vast land, for a person who is disappointed in the world and has no love in his heart, isn't it the same to **?

Forever walking on the road, all love, all of a sudden, you will find that there is nothing here. Empty and silent. There are many people who have no soul.

I live a mediocre life, I have no purpose, I don't know why I want to live, and I never think about what I live for. There may be more and more such people in this world. He was always looking for someone who felt the same way he or she did.

Even if it is far away, even if it is crowded, he may feel the loneliness of the blank, and then know that the same alien as himself is not far away and feels each other with him.

Love can be produced in a second, but love takes a lifetime to complete. Love: to understand, but also to unravel; To apologize, but also to thank; We must admit our mistakes and correct them; Be considerate and considerate, accept, not endure, be tolerant, not conniving; It is support, not domination; It is a condolence rather than a question; It is to pour, not to accuse, to be memorable rather than to forget; It's about communicating with each other, not about everything:

It is to pray silently for each other, not to ask for many from each other, it can be romantic, but don't waste it; It's okay to hold hands at any time, but don't break up casually If you do it all, even if you don't love someone anymore, you will only miss it, not hold grudges.

Everyone will have their own understanding and their own perspective on the problem, so it doesn't matter what others think, what matters is how you see it, and other people's views and opinions can only be used as a reference, and can only be used as a reference.

When looking at a person, pay attention to the following psychological effects:

The halo effect, also known as the halo effect. Most of our perceptions of others in our daily lives are affected by this effect. Because it makes people evaluate, recognize and treat people only according to a certain outstanding characteristic of people, for example, if someone performs well once, they think that they are good in everything, and if they make a mistake once, they say that they consistently perform poorly, and so on.

Therefore, the halo effect is a common psychosocial effect that leads us into a misunderstanding of human perception.

Aronson effect: people like people who like themselves the most, and those who like them the least and those who seem to like them diminishingly, psychologists call this phenomenon in interpersonal communication the Aronson effect, also known as the increase and decrease effect. The Aronson Effect reminds people that in their daily work and life, they should try their best to avoid the reversal of the direction of others' bad impressions of themselves due to their own misperformance.

In the same way, it also reminds us to avoid being influenced by the wrong attitudes in the process of forming impressions of others.

Stereotype effect: also known as stereotype effect, social stereotype effect, in interpersonal communication, the stereotype effect is manifested in people using a fixed character image to recognize others. The stereotype effect often leads to biases and stereotypes that prevent us from seeing others correctly.

Therefore, we should "say goodbye for three days, and be impressed" by others! Don't blindly look at people and things with old eyes.

Proximity Effect: A mental phenomenon known as the proximity effect because something recently learned obscures what you have always known about someone. Psychologists have shown that first impressions play a greater role in the perception of strangers; For familiar people, it is easy to have a proximate effect on their new and unusual performance.

The proximate cause effect makes us evaluate a person or interpersonal relationship only based on a person's momentary events, severs the relationship between history and reality, phenomenon and essence, prevents us from looking at people and objective facts objectively and historically, often causes psychological conflicts between people, affects our objective and correct evaluation of people and things, and has a negative impact on our actual work and life.

1. Don't look at people with your eyes, because it's easy to wander, and don't listen with your ears, because it may be a lie. Feel it with your heart, it really can't be fake, and it's absolutely not true if it's fake.

2. The person who is most likely to betray you is often the person who blows the pat on you; The person who hurts you the most must be the person you love the most. The person who really wants you to make progress will not pat you on the back, he will kindly point out your problems, even if he knows that you will feel uncomfortable because of this. A person can hurt you to the bone, the premise must be to get your permission, you love him, you have a special auspicious and royal emotion for him, so he will make a mess of your life, if you don't nod, no one can get in.

3. In this life, there are three bowls of unpalatable noodles: human noodles, scenes, and feelings. Can't be too much, and can't lose grace, it's really difficult to get it just right, we are all slowly groping in life.

4. In the end, all emotions are just value exchanges. Once it is not possible to provide value to each other. Two people will break up and divorce. When the value of one party is higher than that of the other party, the high value will look down on the low value, and the other party has not betrayed you, but you are not worthy.

5. If you are one point higher than others, others will be jealous of you. If you are five points higher than others, others will envy you. You are ten points taller than others, and others will respect you.

6. Other people's attitude towards you depends on your wealth or status, not what you do. In a relationship of unequal status, don't expect the other person to respect you.

7. All people will hand over complex tasks to those who are capable, but leave the benefits and benefits to those who have a good relationship with them.

8. Relatives don't necessarily care about you, they may just want to know whether you are good or not, if you don't mix well, stay away from you, mix well, please you.

9, sheng mien, fight mi. Be kind to others, don't be kind to others, he will slowly take your favor for granted.

10. If someone verbally attacks you and offends you, you have to fight back on the spot. Otherwise, he will repeat his old tricks next time, and there is no psychological pressure.

11. There are good and evil in human nature, people who are filled with evil in human nature exist, don't think that you have a conscience as a person, and some people's conscience has long been thrown out of the clouds.

12. Anything that feels like you really can't control is best to stay away from it in the first place, no matter how charming it is or how attractive it is to you.

13. Your kindness must be a little sharp! Tolerance should be moderate, stay away as soon as possible for those who don't know how to be grateful, and dare to fight back against those who are an inch.

14. Many people don't hate privileges, they just hate that the people who have privileges are not themselves.

15. When some people do not get a certain benefit, they will have the emotion of judgment, and when they are an interest group, they will maintain such a relationship all the time.

16. Don't tell others about your sadness easily, most people are just listening to jokes.

17. The basic thing that concessions bring is to gain inches, don't think about what respect and distress you can get in exchange.

Summary. Hello!!!

1.Observe a person through their eyes. Observe whether a person's gaze wanders or not, etc., and it can be seen whether the person is humorous, faithful, etc. If he doesn't move much, it means that this person is real, and if he always swims, it means that he is cunning.

2.Look at a person by what they wear. See if he is dressed generously and steadily. If a person changes his clothes frequently, it means that he is in pursuit of fashion. If a person dresses plainly and generously, it means that he is serious.

3.Observe whether a person is reliable through conversation, the method is the same as above.

4.Examine whether a person is serious, stable, etc., through the way they behave.

5.You can also see what kind of person a person is by looking at your interests and hobbies. People with a wide range of interests show that he loves life. Elegant interests indicate that he is very elegant, and people with stable and single interests indicate that he is serious and so on.

6.You can also tell what kind of person a person is by who they are dating.

How do you put a person in perspective?

Hello!!! 1.Observe a person through their eyes.

Observe whether a person's gaze wanders or not, etc., and it can be seen whether the person is humorous, faithful, etc. If he doesn't move much, it means that this person is real, and if he always swims, it means that he is cunning. 2.

Look at a person by what they wear. See if he is dressed generously and steadily. If a person changes his clothes frequently, it means that he pursues fashion.

If a person dresses plainly and generously, it means that he is serious. 3.Observe whether a person is reliable through conversation, the method is the same as above.

4.Examine whether a person is serious, stable, etc., through the way they behave. Potato Qi 5

You can also see what kind of person a person is by looking at your interests and hobbies. People with a wide range of interests show that he loves life. Elegant interests indicate that he is very elegant, and people with stable interests who are cautious and cautious indicate that he is serious and so on.

6.You can also tell what kind of person a person is by who they are dating.

Can you be specific?

Specifically, it is to look at a person with a heart, and to look at the source fairly, and to be called to everyone. Don't use colored glasses, don't just use the first impression to see a person who is cracked, you must understand carefully, don't evaluate and judge at will. Look at the mountains with the eyes of the mountains, the clouds with the eyes of the clouds, and the waters with the eyes of the water.

As a sensual Leo, he has been willful for more than twenty years. I have experienced many things that have made me so depressed that I want to flip the table, and I have also met some people who feel incredible and beyond the scope of self-knowledge. During this period, all kinds of inner imbalances, anger, chagrin, unwillingness...and so on, I still feel tired when I think about it.

But as I enriched my experiences and communicated with friends who shared the same way of thinking, I gradually found that these emotions seemed to be my own fantasy. It's as if you put a glass cover on yourself, and you call others in, and those who come in will think that he is very good, and he can do anything; And for those who don't want to come in, you will wonder if they have a problem with their brains, why they don't come in, why their thinking is so much worse than yours; At this time, you will unconsciously have various opinions about him, and infinitely magnify your dissatisfaction with him. This dissatisfaction will make you dislike him, and these disgusts will also seriously affect your objectivity in your judgments about the things related to him, and once any judgment and decision at work loses its objectivity, these decisions are most likely unreliable. In the same way, when you like the person you are with too much in the hood, your decision-making is also subjective.

How to look at a person objectively has a lot to do with the individual's personality, experience and personal pattern...

To be continued....

1. Before the woman looks, she looks at the cultivation and conduct.

The female watch refers to the fact that when looking at a woman, you must look at her performance in front of others. You must know that women in ancient times were usually raised in the boudoir, they received training in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting and cultivation etiquette every day, and only came out of the boudoir when they got married. It is precisely because of this that the ladies of ancient times were full of grace and etiquette, and the training and education they received were also the best.

You must know that a person's cultivation is engraved in their bones, and their words and deeds will also affect the atmosphere of the people around them and the whole family. The older generation often said: The quality of a woman will affect the fortune of the whole family, and even affect the mind and character of the upper and lower generations.

If you can marry a woman with good conduct, she will not only take care of all aspects of the house, but also make people feel a feeling of bathing in spring when getting along with others.

If you stay with such a woman for a lifetime, you will feel that your life is full of light and warmth. Because she will understand and understand you at any time, it is not easy, and she will not play with her temper in front of you at will. There are very few women who know how to advance and retreat like this.

Only sufficient cultivation and connotation can support such conduct.

2. After the man looks at it, he looks at the character and interior.

You must know that a man's character in front of others can be pretended, and if you want to understand his true character, you only need to look at what others are like. After all, what a man wants is not how handsome he is, he must have good conduct and inner self in order to live happily. You must know that a man with good character will take into account your feelings no matter what he does, and will not maliciously quarrel with you.

It will not be outside to mess with flowers and grass, so that you are worried all the time, and it will also keep a certain distance from other women to give you enough security. No matter how hard he works outside, he will still be considerate of you when he comes home, and will also bring you a bouquet of favorite flowers or small gifts, live with such a man, your days will be full of surprises and understanding, and the days will be happier and happier.