How to learn to control yourself? How can you control yourself

Today, you are unhappy because someone stabbed you between words. You don't like to quarrel, so you leave; But you just leave there, but you don't leave the situation of being hurt by that person, so the more you think about it, the more angry you get. The more angry you are, the less energy you have to pay attention to other things, and many events that should be done and thought about with more heart are ignored and omitted in the midst of your wandering distractions.

Because, you're just single-mindedly angry. Making a fuss about emotions is a waste of yourself, and a very bad waste. After all, it takes effort to be angry, and being angry must hurt your vitality.

To control your emotions well, you need to develop some good habits, such as the habit of thinking, the habit of analysis, the habit of dilution, the habit of optimism, the habit of self-cultivation, and so on.

Be silent, what you say when you're angry always adds fuel to the fire and hurts, so keep silent. Meditation, when the mood is angry, sad, sad, you can choose a quiet place, close your eyes, and feel your heart.

I suggest you read contemporary books on Buddhism, the language is very intelligible, and many of the words in them will be very inspiring. You don't actually have to practice, you don't have to become a monk, anyone can read the sutras, but you don't have to be a Buddha.

I read a little story about lust, which goes like this: there is a very rich businessman, but he is not happy, his desire can never be fulfilled, so he is very tired. Once, he passed by a temple and, out of curiosity, walked in.

He told the monks there about his troubles. The monk didn't tell him anything, but took him to the back mountain and asked him to adopt a tree. The merchant lived in the monastery for a while, and with the help of the monks, he thought every day, pruned the branches of the tree every day, and gradually forgot about his troubles.

After some time, he left the temple. By this time he had become good friends with the monks. After some time, he would visit the monks in the monastery.

The monk took him to the back mountain to see the tree. The merchant asked the monk for advice on how to get rid of his desires. The monk asked him to look at the tree and then picked up tools to prune the tree.

The monk said to the merchant that desire also needs to be pruned from time to time. Businessman has an epiphany.

Through this story, I also want to tell you that people may not be able to completely eliminate desires, but they can control desires, which is the same as the principle of controlling emotions, which needs to be pruned from time to time.

You can try to meditate at night, facing the darkness and your mind will gradually become calm, which is the first step. The second step is to meditate during the day. When you can concentrate on meditation in the face of a noisy environment, it means that your mind can be calm and calm without distractions.

The above are all my personal opinions, I have also tried, I hope it can help you.

Keep telling yourself in your heart that no, no, it's fine.