Loyal to the ear , will the person who tells the truth be unlikable?

First of all, I would like to state here that there is no such thing as a person who only speaks the truth in this world, even machines may not be able to do this, if there is really a person who only tells the truth all his life, then he can solve all philosophical problems, he can represent the truth, because if you ask him anything, he will not tell a lie.

There are many things beyond cognition, how do you know that he is telling the truth, the person who speaks the truth is a virtual concept in itself, it is impossible for someone to tell the truth completely, what is the truth? There should be a definition here, whether it is the truth that represents the facts, or what he thinks is the truth, if the truth is the truth, then no one can do this, if it is only subjectively that I am telling the truth, then I am an honest person, which is much easier, in fact, there are many such people, but this does not mean that everyone can like it, because the person who tells the truth is not a cute performance, but a manifestation of low emotional intelligence.

Let me give you an example to illustrate, if my wife has just finished cutting her hair, and comes home and asks me if her hairstyle is good, the normal thing is that this hairstyle is very beautiful, which is very suitable for your temperament, but if you tell the truth in your heart, I told her that your hairstyle may be the masterpiece of Mr. Tony's temporary whimsy, and the result can be imagined, with my daughter-in-law's temper, I was going to eat braised fish at night, but now I may not be able to eat rice, so in order to be able to have a good mood for the other party, I will inevitably tell some white lies as a glue in the relationship between each other, take this example to dissect, first of all, there is no right or wrong in the question of whether the hairstyle is good or not, people's aesthetic angles are different, and the conclusions drawn are also different, maybe others think they look good and I don't look good, but I told the truth in my heart, I think she is not good-looking, which will offend people.

To sum up, there is no one in this world who can only tell the truth, and only telling the truth basically represents a low emotional intelligence.

In fact, not everyone who tells the truth will be unlikable, telling the truth also requires a certain amount of skill, and if you say it well, others will appreciate you.

1. Some people hate people who tell the truth. We all know the truth of the saying that loyalty is good for action, especially for the newcomers, everyone knows that the newcomers are a blank sheet of paper, they are ignorant of any work, and often make mistakes, so it is inevitable that they will be criticized by their superiors. Whenever this happens, many Xiaobai will feel that the supervisor is targeting him again, so he hates the supervisor.

It's because your supervisor points out your mistakes and tells the truth that it makes you feel annoying.

2. Some people will feel grateful to the person who tells the truth. This kind of behavior is actually a very naïve idea, the supervisor is correcting your mistakes, he can take your mistakes out and criticize them, which shows that he values you very much, and he thinks you are a malleable talent. If you have a good attitude, you will feel a sense of gratitude to your supervisor and feel that he is teaching me and correcting me so that I can make fewer mistakes in the future, so not everyone who tells the truth is annoying.

People who tell the truth are spurring you to grow, and they want you to be a malleable person.

Third, we need to praise those who are willing to tell the truth, after all, many people in this society are very false. We also need to understand those who speak the truth, after all, they have the courage to speak the truth much better than those who say false praises every day. People who tell the truth are hated in the hearts of some people who can't stand criticism, but they are liked in the hearts of some people who dare to face and make corrections bravely.

To sum up, we can find that some people like people who tell the truth, and some people don't, and it mainly depends on the mentality of the listener. What else do you think about this? You can talk about it in the comment area, and let's discuss it together.

There's nothing wrong with being honest, but let's be honest and look at our surroundings too! There is no right or wrong way to tell the truth, because it is the truth, but we need to express the "truth" in the right place at the right time and in the right language. Only then will we be able to achieve the results we want!

It is not that the person who tells the truth is unlikable, but that the truth is sometimes difficult to accept, and after a long time, I know that the person who tells the truth is really good for himself.

Not necessarily, it depends on who is listening. Stubborn people are likely not to listen, but those who are humble in their minds will certainly listen.

It depends on what kind of truth it is, if it will criticize people's truth, others will definitely be uncomfortable listening to it, let alone liking, and being an honest person must also be improvised.

Bitter medicine, contrary to the ear, this is an ancient admonition.

If you love someone, you can't just sing praises for him, you can't protect your shortcomings; You can't look at his shortcomings, ignore them, and let them develop. In that case, you are not loving him, you are harming him. In the same way, loving our country cannot be all exaggerated, and we can't listen to it bluntly, but we don't know that the hymns of the Great Leap Forward almost didn't paralyze the country.

The woodpecker catches insects and hurts the trunk of the tree, but it is scraping the bones of the tree to heal the wounds, and that is for the health of the tree. Just because a woodpecker hurts a tree trunk doesn't mean a woodpecker is a pest. Some people can't listen to the advice they hear; Others, however, have ulterior motives; Some people just follow the foolishness.

In fact, most people have one thing in common, they like to listen to words that are pleasant to the ear, even if they are false. If it is a word against the ear, even if it is a good word, few people are willing to listen to it. But the facts tell us that loyal words are contrary to our ears, and false words are harmful.

During the War of Liberation, Chiang Kai-shek's generals, in order to satisfy the praise that the old Chiang Kai-shek liked to hear, often reported good news but not bad news, and falsely told a lot, what was the result? As a result, Lao Chiang could only flee to Taiwan with a crushing defeat to enjoy his praise.

People need to constantly reflect on the road they have traveled and reflect on their mistakes, so that we can avoid detours and make fewer mistakes. The country also needs to sum up the lessons and lessons of history, constantly correct deviations and corrections, and constantly forge ahead, so that it can stand tall in this jungle of the world, where the jungle is infested with tigers and leopards.

For the motherland, singing hymns is patriotic; For the sake of the motherland, pointing out the existing flaws is not to hate the party and the country.

The experience of history is worthy of our deep reflection, the emperors of the ages, the listeners, the rivers and the mountains, the partial believers, how many long-term?

For the prosperity of the motherland, for the health of the motherland, and for the sake of the lessons of history, can our motherland become prosperous and strong, and can it prosper and achieve far-reaching results.

I suddenly thought of this topic, so I would like to share it with you. In fact, my attitude is in the middle of the two extremes of "reverse ear" and "pleasant ear". I wanted to find this comfortable state of balance.

It is common between praise and disapproval, mainly according to the degree and result of a sentence and a thing, to judge whether it is positive or depreciative. This also shows that "loyalty to the ear" is either good or bad.

We should not be overly "disobedient" because of "advice". This is likely to be unsuccessful and not only disappoint the person you love, but also make you a "sinner" in his eyes. Maybe you think that even if it is okay, sacrifice yourself, even if you are the "sinner".

But I don't think it's worth the cost. It's not fair to you either.

We can't blindly flatter and lose the original intention of "loyalty" because of the pursuit of "pleasant ears".

So what exactly should I do? In fact, as long as we sincerely and sincerely look into his eyes and express our opinions, the other party will definitely feel it. The rest is at his discretion.

Even if we want him to be good, it's not him after all. All we can do is respect his choice and not blame him for the results.

I don't know if my expression is clear, and if I can make you understand it. Do you think the same way you see this?

But if advice can prevent a tragic thing from happening, then it would rather be the opposite. Also, we have to take our time in everything we do. By "slow" we mean the heart.

Only when we are quiet can we be more awake, know what we are doing, and not make choices that we regret. You can't just go your own way and plunge into the fierce man. It's also a responsibility for yourself.

Maybe we're always in a kind of contradiction.

Now, let's close our eyes and think back to the person who has always been there for you to give advice. She's so honest with you. No matter what he says to you, reconcile at this moment and thank you.

Advice is like a grain of sand, like a grain of sand in the eye. It depends on whether you are the kind of person who can't tolerate sand in your eyes, and if so, you must rub the sand out, just like the word of advice wants to enter your ears, and you always reject it.

If not, the advice is also against the ear, because the advice is like a mosquito buzzing in your ear, and you will naturally reach out and hit it.

Why do people always like to listen to good words, like those things that say they are good, although sometimes they are self-deceiving, sometimes they know that things are not like that, but they still have to say some high-sounding words against their will, so as to leave a face and steps for themselves. If it's not good, people always try their best to reject it, and try their best to package themselves with all the good things, so that they can get by and make people feel comfortable.

Advice against the ear is good for action.

The so-called contradiction, whether in form or content, may be malicious. Needless to say, the malice of the form is no longer overstated, and the word "reverse" has clearly and thoroughly described the unpleasant effect.

How do you understand the disobedience of advice?

Even if you think it's right, it's helpful to others, and if you help others make mistakes, you'll be rejected and disgusted, whether it's an experienced adult or an ignorant child. This is really good for what you say! The good intentions of the speaker may not have a good effect, which requires the speaker to pay attention to the same language art, so that the loyal words are not good for the ear, and the goal is achieved.

My children have formed a habit of reading books, especially before going to bed every day, and reading is compulsory after waking up. Nowadays, my children can know a lot of words, sing songs, memorize Tang poems, tell stories, speak well, and love sports.

Last night, my two-and-a-half-year-old child and I read "Ten Minutes Before Bedtime" together, at first, I read it with the child, and then the child asked me to read her, what story to read, and the child looked at the catalog to choose.

The child read the title, "Crying Doudou", but now my child deliberately misread it and read it as "Crying Maomao". When I don't feel right, I correct it. When the child had an argument with me, I insisted on reading "Crying Maomao", and I started from the perspective of a teacher's leader, input correct knowledge for the child, and then give correction.

At this time, the child was anxious, crying and saying, "It's "Crying Maomao"" and attacked me, scratching and beating. I think it is because children feel that their self-esteem is hurt, their interests are blocked, and their hearts are not happy, so they will behave like this.

I just thought; Advanced educational theories also need to be closely integrated with practice, and they must be different from person to person, and good results are really good. I'm far inferior to my child's grandmother in this regard. Usually, the children's parents are at work, and the children are accompanied by their retired grandmothers at home, carefully cared for, and patiently educated.

The children's every move, word and deed, the children see in their eyes, remember in their hearts, and know everything about it. Educate children to be handy. It can be said that

The good performance of today's children is the result of the children's grandmother's education and upbringing.

Children who are less than two years old know what the names of family members are, what they belong to, where they work, the names of their main relatives, and the relationship between them. Children sometimes: smiling, looking at grandma's face, deliberately calling her clearly:

Grandma, sister, sister, baby, mom. Grandma also cooperated, feeling cute, funny, very happy, and would try her best to cooperate.

Therefore, advice does not necessarily have to be contrary to the ear, and sometimes the mistakes that occur are deliberate, and they must be corrected if they are not provoked. If it is really wrong, you can choose the appropriate time to correct it, give it a certain amount of time to precipitate and reflect, satisfy people's interests, give people face, and it will have an ideal effect on making Liang Ying.