A client s mother passed away a few days ago, because I don t know where his home is, I just finishe

You should let him go back, you take care of yourself here, because this not only shows that you are very generous, but also can take care of the overall situation, although you need him very much at this time, but his family needs him more, he saw his grandfather for the last time, but you, there is still a lot to make up for later, so be strong and don't embarrass him.

That can only be said, who let you have such an irresponsible boyfriend, let you get pregnant good protective measures, pregnant and don't want children, and your miscarriage is not a good time, even in time for his grandfather to die, can only say that you are unladylike, bad luck. So with this boyfriend, you can only be alone, and of course you can tell your parents. The words of your parents are always for your sake, and with a boyfriend you don't know where to forget yourself.

Let his loved ones take good care of him and comfort him.

It's useless for you to run here for help, it's better to find the elders and say it's useful.

It is estimated that the boy does not have a stable job income, so he does not know how to live in the future.

At this moment, what is most needed is the company of others, when a person loses his loved ones, it is like losing the whole world, and the pressure in his heart follows, at this time, let him feel, in fact, there are many people like his relatives to accompany him. At this time, you can't leave people around you, and don't talk about those things or other topics while accompanying him, but remember, you must make him feel that in addition to his relatives, there are more people who love him.

Let him drink, get drunk, and vent the sadness in his heart, maybe it will be better.

It's too miserable, it's more painful, and I can only help him get out.

The sorrow of life happens in such a short period of time, how you calm him down, how quiet his heart, this kind of thing still accompanies him more, accompanies him through this period, maybe it will get better.

Now he needs time to accept, your friend can only accompany him silently, give him spiritual support, comfort him, things are too sudden, it is normal for him to not accept it for a while.

Looking for a psychiatrist, we can't speak, just go to a psychiatrist.

If I were your good sister, I would choose to be by his side quietly with him...

He's reminiscing about his parents' goodness

So in this way, you have to do a good job of the family, so that everyone does not suffer, and your mother's spirit in heaven is relieved.

Look at the point, this step in life must be experienced, and today's society has to force you to move forward.

Rest in peace. You find a day to get out of the oppressive environment. I wish you happiness.

There is no need to be too sad and blame yourself, life has been difficult to achieve both loyalty and filial piety since ancient times.

Whether you can prove that you have salvation in this way, and whether you can earn a breath for your parents in the future depends on your performance.

The day we were born was ignorant, but as time went by, we babbled, and our parents taught us to talk, drink, and eat some common sense of life, even if you do this, your mother will not hate you, even though you are a piece of meat that fell from her body, your guilt has your reasons, I hope you can come out of the haze, face the world bravely, face the future well, and hope to help you.

Don't be too sad, my mother didn't die by her side, and now this situation forces us to be in the field, don't be rural, just feel that we owe her too much.

Then you just work hard to let your dear her live a better life in the future.

It's not easy for parents, only we can make them happy as children!! Alas.

It's not something you say to be happy with you. It's what she feels.

If you want to raise your son, you don't want to wait for your relatives, and now that you realize it, don't make the same mistake again.

Work hard, you won't be poor for a lifetime.

Why are you blaming yourself again, didn't I persuade you today?

Turn grief and anger into strength.

Mom has worked hard all her life, and she doesn't want her family to live better. If you are in a slump, won't your mother be very disappointed, you have to support this family, so that your mother can be relieved in the spirit of heaven, and you have not worked hard to raise such a son as you in vain.

There is no one who eats whole grains without getting sick. Birth, old age, sickness and death, the law of nature. You don't have to blame yourself.

Mom is gone, of course, it is distressing, but life has to go on, career has to go on, your mother still wants you to run your business well, only to run your own business well, is the best comfort to your mother, persevere, there are always more ways than difficulties. Difficulties are temporary, and success awaits you. Try it bro!

You are a boy who needs the care and comfort of others, not a man. If you don't want to do it, you can sell it, it's as simple as that.

People who can overcome social problems such as difficulties and setbacks are strong people in life. And a person's real strength does not lie in how strong he is on the outside, nor in how much money and power, nor in how strong his body is, but in how strong he is in his heart. When a parent's life is all about her children, do you think she would want to see that?

You are the continuation of her life, you have to do better than now, and you have to live better than now is the best reward for her.

You should turn grief into strength, people cannot be resurrected after death, and those who live are happy, this is my mother's eternal wish.

Maybe you know what I'm saying, but it's just a reversal.

But death does not bring back to life.

If you can keep your mother alive, then you can be autistic, but is it possible? People who don't want to leave are still gone, you still have to live, you still have your father, you can't make your father too sad.

You're like this, what will happen to your father when he sees it? He's a lot sadder than you, so cheer up again, Mom is gone, Father is old, you are the sorghum in the family, you are languishing, the sorghum in the house will fall, and the house will be scattered.

You tell me?

What happened to you also makes me sad, even though she is not my mother, I can understand your feelings, believe in yourself, do what you feel is right, and everything will be fine.

At the age of 22, it is said that it is big and big, but it is not big and not big. I'm about the same age as you. I also had a rough time in the previous period, when I was also alone in the house.

But you should be a man, not a boy. Stand up. You look for your relatives.

Think about your parents being able to carry a family when you're so old. I have something to add.

Let's think about it yourself, after all, my mother doesn't want to see you languishing, and I still hope you can cheer up sooner!!

Is he good to you? He doesn't ask for anything, if he treats you well and you can accept it, let him pass! He doesn't say he has his problems! I also don't want you to worry.

A married friend of the opposite sex feels happy to get along with each other, and wants him or her to be around when there is nothing to do, and this feeling should be reconciled.

How dare you get along with such a man for a year?! How big is your heart?!

Find an excuse to separate from him.

The person who advises you to leave him and not even the most basic things is that he doesn't believe you, second, he is **, and third, he has a problem with his head. There will be no results from being with such people. Two people together are giving to each other, there are no secrets.

I think he should be someone with a family, or divorced but with children. Communicate well with him, if he still doesn't say it, then it's time to think about it seriously, the more time drags on, the less beneficial it will be for you. These days, a good girl doesn't worry about getting married! Everyone deserves happiness!

Break up and see his attitude.

It's too hasty for you to dare to be with him like this.

He shouldn't be getting along with you for the purpose of getting married.

I guess I have a family, and I want to find one outside! This is called keeping one, keeping two, developing three, four, five, six, seven.

Then he may be just lying to you, so leave him early.

Hurry up and score, or sink deeper and deeper.

Let him! Do what you have to do and don't waste time on him!

Break up, you're so ......It's also high together.

If you don't even know this for a year together, and he didn't say anything when I asked him before, I recommend that you better break the point, surprised.

Be careful**, don't you have an ID card to sneak a look.

He may also be a fugitive, so report it quickly and don't bother you.

It has to be figured out, a matter of principle.

I'll be honest with you, be careful.

It must be eaten... This should be the etiquette for someone in the family to die!! It's like eating fast... MOURNING FOR THE SOULS THAT HAVE PASSED AWAY ...

His family is superstitious.

If you believe, you will have it, and if you don't believe it, you will not.

Eat what you want, throw it away if you don't want to eat it.

Is the old lady's son alive?

Are you reluctant to open your mouth to chant Buddha for your mother? Is the Venerable Master chanting the Buddha than the Venerable Master? Your filial piety is manifested in **?

You should be a vegetarian as a family, do not kill, and at the same time respectfully and sincerely recite the Amitabha Buddha name or the Dizang Sutra for him every day, the more the better. Then in his name, a large number of beings were released, doing good deeds and accumulating virtues, making offerings to the Three Jewels, and helping the deceased to cultivate blessings. Set up a tablet for the deceased in the temple and go to the deceased.

At the same time, we should also dedicate the merits of doing this to all sentient beings and unjust creditors.

If there are initiates or a group of initiates or meditation groups, it is best to have someone to help them. The effect of reciting the Buddha machine is not the same. People can carry the Tao, and the blessings of people helping thoughts are great.

If there is no one to help with the recitation, there is no way to replace it with a Buddha chanting machine. If there are people, it is better to use people to recite the Buddha.

This incident is said in the "Jizo Sutra", most of us ordinary people who dream of the death of our past relatives, family members, and friends come to ask for transcendence, and many of them are, although he did not speak, we get the information in the "Jizo Sutra". If there is such a thing, we respectfully recite a "Dizang Sutra" for him, which is to dedicate to him, especially for him. It doesn't matter which one we use, usually we can use this merit to solemnize the Pure Land of the Buddha. Or if you change a sentence, you are willing to dedicate this merit to someone, and you can change it to another sentence, and you can remember everything else, and if you are sincere, it will be good for him.

This incident, in the Qianlong period of the Qing Dynasty, Peng Jiqing was a great virtue of Buddhism at that time, and he wrote a lot; There is also a high-ranking monk who has been empowered by Venerable Tzuyun, who is a monk at home. And the initiation master in the "Commentary on the Sutra of Amitayus", this commentary was made by him, he said that the world's extremely heavy sinful karma, all the sutras of the Dharma, the sutras and confessions of the Buddha cannot be exceeded, and finally there is one that can be exceeded, what is this one? Reciting "Amitabha" to give him dedication, reciting the Buddha's merits is incredible, beyond all the methods, you will know when you read this book.

So when you ask what is the most advantageous method for transcendence, there is nothing more special than "Amitabha". So you have to recite the sutras, you recite the Amitabha Sutra, or you recite the Sutra of Amitayus, and if you don't recite the sutras, you can recite this Buddha name to him, but you have to be sincere, you have to be sincere, you have to recite as much as you want, just for him. For example, if I recite 100,000 Buddha numbers to surpass him, you must recite 100,000 sounds.

If you recite a million Buddha horns to surpass him, you must complete your homework in just a few hours, and this power is incredible.

It's hard to say, maybe it's a good life, maybe it's not. If there are any Buddhist friends who have cultivated supernatural powers during his lifetime, you can take a look, I don't know how those friends are. You can also draw lots to look at it and write:

Hell, Ghost Path, Bystanding, Human, Asura, Heavenly Path, Arhat, Bizhi Buddha, Bodhisattva, Buddha, these ten Dharma realms, add a few more blanks, and then kneel in front of the Buddha and Bodhisattva statue and pray sincerely, and then grab one and see which one, you might as well try it. If you analyze it only in terms of dreams, it seems that there is none. If you also believe in Buddhism, you should quickly make merits and dedicate to her, such as reading the scriptures, it is better to read multiples of 7, because she can only receive 1 time after reading 7 times, and it is okay to recite mantras and Buddhas.

If you don't usually have this kind of cultivation, then turn to someone who has practice, you can become a monk at home, and you can practice more kung fu, and ask them for help. If there is also a temple to do things, it is also a good opportunity, or to ask a temple with a good style to spend time for the mother, which is the most effective. Otherwise, in the name of the mother, you will make offerings to the monks, build temples, print scriptures, etc., in short, make merit for your mother, and dedicate yourself to the pure land of happiness and rebirth.

The sooner this happens, the better, and at the latest within seven hundred and forty-nine days, because it is during this time that she decides where she goes, and it will not be so easy after time.

What the bardo body needs is incense and mental power (such as the thoughts of relatives), the chanting machine just provides a little electricity, so that the person who hears it produces a little mental power to act on the bardo body, if you really feel that your mother is cold, and at home, it is a lack of energy, at least you need incense every day to incense and thoughts can provide energy, people have karma for many lifetimes, not this life can be liberated by practicing Buddha, the efficiency of reciting Buddhist scriptures is very low, and the Pure Land method needs to be a monk for ten lifetimes to enter the next level.

If you mother. There is no obsession anymore in life. I should be able to live in Elysium.

Within 49 days after the deceased has passed away, one should recite more sutras, recite the Buddha, do good deeds, and dedicate to the deceased, which can give great help to the deceased. The Jizo Sutra says that within seven or seven days, the karma of the priests will be debated, and the good and evil karma that the person has done in the yang world will be checked to determine where it goes, the three good paths or the three evil paths, and if there are filial children who make more merits and dedicate to the deceased within 49 days, they can greatly help the deceased to die in good places, and you can recite more Jizo Sutras to dedicate to the elderly