How to solve the problem of adolescent students rebellious psychology

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Adolescence is the best period for children, but for parents, it is the most troublesome problem after children enter puberty. Because most adolescent children will have a rebellious period, there may be some rebellious behaviors during this period, when the child enters the rebellious period, parents must master the right way to deal with it, so that the child can go through adolescence smoothly. So, what should adolescent children do if they are rebellious?

Clause. 1. Maintain a peaceful mind: In the face of children's adolescent rebellion, parents should not think of using violence to suppress it, which can only backfire and make the child more rebellious.

Parents must maintain a calm mind, as long as the child still has some reason, you can reason with the child. Therefore, when encountering a child's adolescent rebellion, it is important to speak with reason, rather than blindly blaming or scolding, which may make the situation worse.

Clause. 2. Self-reflection: Children who enter adolescence tend to be more sensitive, and sometimes children may not make big mistakes, but parents insist that their children follow themselves, regardless of right or wrong, they will blindly scold their children.

This kind of behavior is also very wrong, and it is easy to stimulate the child's rebellious mentality. Before losing your temper with your child, you should think carefully about who is right and who is wrong, and you must do self-reflection, instead of blindly losing your temper at your child.

Adolescence is a stage that children must go through on the road to growth and development, and in addition to physical changes, there will also be great changes in the psychological aspects. Adolescent children tend to be more distracted from their own thoughts, so parents should not blindly intervene, which may increase the child's rebellious psychology. You should communicate more with your child and give them more understanding and support, so that they can feel the love of their parents.

1. Adolescent rebellious psychology can be solved by psychological ** and self-adjustment.

2. Adolescent children will have their own opinions, parents want their children to do according to their own ideas, and children are disobedient and parents have a rebellious psychology, so parents should be patient to guide when educating children, adolescent children have a very strong self-esteem, parents should pay attention to words and deeds when speaking, parents are very important to children's education, if there is no correct guidance, it may lead to more and more serious children's rebellious psychology, you can use psychological methods for children, such as cognition, behavior** and so on, and have a certain understanding of their own behavior, so as to improve their rebellious psychology. Children can also self-regulate when they have rebellious psychology, they can communicate with their parents, pour out their inner thoughts, or do what they are interested in, divert the attention of adolescent rebellious psychology, have a correct understanding of themselves, correctly learn the knowledge of adolescent rebellious psychology, parents should also be quiet and be a listener, do not nag their children on the same thing.

At a certain stage in the process of human growth, with the development of body and mind, the psychology will arise on its own. Parents and children need to communicate intimately and solve it slowly, if it is too hasty, it will be counterproductive.

It's good to enlighten slowly, and as soon as time passes, you will grow up.

Adolescent Rebellious Counseling: Self-Development.

Chongqing Cuncaoxin Psychological Counseling reminds that it is also at the age of age, and it is called the "second period of independent development" in psychology, that is, this is the period of the child's second leap in self-consciousness, and it is named "adolescence". The psychological manifestations of adolescence are as follows:

1. Experience autonomy and rebel against the norms of the existing societyAdolescence is the "second period of autonomous development", and the age of saying "no" again and again wants to make your own decisions.

2. Emotional irritability, exaggerating one's feelings This age stage is physiological sexual maturity, which makes boys and girls suddenly realize the maturity of their bodies overnight, and their psychology is not yet mature at this time. This psychological and physiological asymmetry leads to a strong irritability in the individual, which is the "irritability period of youth."

3. Particularly narcissistic, showing special attention to oneself. For example, during this period, pay special attention to your body, legs, feet, and especially your face! See if you're handsome? Isn't it beautiful?

4. Self-identification, manifested in various star chasing. At this time, they will look outside the home, looking for new ideal objects. It is manifested as a variety of chasing "stars", such as singers, dance stars, sports stars, etc., or on some objects, such as some special hair accessories, special clothes, special sports, special **, etc., will be obsessed with the pursuit, they began to find themselves by chasing stars, and later found that these are small cases.

To truly find oneself is through the eyes of the opposite sex. He gradually turned to looking for new objects of the opposite sex, everyone is used to calling this phenomenon "puppy love", I personally think it is inappropriate, although he is "early", but not "love" in the real psychological sense. He sees "who I am" through the eyes of the opposite sex, and then knows "who I am", so he will look for a lot of new objects of the opposite sex, different new objects of the opposite sex to prove "who I am", and the purpose is to find himself.

Chongqing Cuncaoxin Psychological Counseling believes that adolescence is a psychological transition stage from naivety to maturity, and "self-identity" is their main task. To understand what they think in their hearts, it is necessary to understand what their inner contradictions are, and the types and nature of these inner contradictions.

How to educate adolescent children.

For such children in adolescence, communication and communication should be strengthened, and several methods can be adopted:

1. Strengthen communication with parents, create a good and democratic family environment for children, make friends with children, encourage and praise more, criticize and scold less, treat children's needs reasonably, do not hurt their self-esteem, respect him, and trust him. Take the child to the outside world, let him feel the working environment of adults, educate him ideally, make him set up his own goals, and often encourage him to work hard for his goals, so that he has a clear goal in learning. At the same time, it also made him feel the care of his relatives and slowly eliminated his antagonistic emotions.

2 Teachers should treat such students correctly, avoid direct criticism, avoid head-on conflicts, pay attention to protect their self-esteem, and adopt an educational method of overcoming rigidity with softness. When he makes mistakes, we should talk to him individually with emotion, understand and reason, patiently help him distinguish right from wrong, make him aware of his mistakes, and be willing to take the initiative to correct them, and gradually relieve the tense teacher-student relationship. This stubborn rebellious mentality is not.

One or two persuasion and education can be eliminated, we must repeatedly grasp and grasp repeatedly, pay more attention to observe his emotional changes, communicate with him frequently, deeply understand his inner world, and help him solve the troubles of adolescence.

3. Teachers should be good at digging out the shining points of students and give full play to their role. Taking advantage of these advantages has made him establish a sense of responsibility. The progress in learning should be praised in a timely manner, so that he has a sense of achievement, and at this time, we should also take advantage of the situation to point out his shortcomings and let him catch up.

4. Guide him to read books and periodicals on the successful deeds of some great men and scientists, broaden his horizons, and constantly motivate himself, so that he understands that only a person who is broad-minded and can accept the opinions of others can achieve great causes, so that he can constantly draw his attention to study, and inspire and induce him to get out of the wrong psychological misunderstanding.

Zhengzhou Chenfeng EducationPsychological experts suggest that if children have similar "problems", parents should maintain a peaceful mind and guide their children with a positive attitude, scientific knowledge, and correct methods.

Be understanding and accepting of your child. A series of physical and mental changes in children are unexpected and difficult to control, and parents are particularly required to understand and accept them at this time. Don't see some changes in your child, or yell and panic when you find your child's abnormal behavior, let alone scold and reprimand, and blame him.

Otherwise, it will only exacerbate the child's rebellious psychology and increase the estrangement with his parents.

Be your child's friend. The greatest desire of adolescent children is the desire for respect, the desire for independence, and the desire for others to treat them as adults. This requires parents to change their roles and educational concepts, and change the condescending and commanding one-way education to an equal and first-class two-way education.

From simply caring about children's daily life to guiding children's development and growth, and strive to be a good teacher and friend to children. According to the survey, more than 90% of teenagers do not talk to their parents and teachers when they have troubles, but talk to friends. Most of the children who go through adolescence smoothly and smoothly have a good family atmosphere and a harmonious mother-child relationship.

Every child wants to create their own space during adolescence and does not want their parents to interfere too much. But due to the traditional thinking of parents, it is wrong to think that children do not listen to their parents at this stage, so what should be done if adolescent children are rebellious?

Children grow up, have their own ideas and goals, and are no longer so easy to be taught by us. The best way is for us to help and influence children to get the right outlook on life through our own lifestyle and attitude, reduce too much authority in front of children, and find good times with children.

Adolescent children are prone to rebellion, and there are many manifestations of rebellion, such as blatant violation of classroom discipline, disobedience to parents, running away from home, early love, and socializing. As for the reasons, we must first understand the psychological characteristics of children at this stage, and adolescent children generally have the following characteristics:

1. Strong sense of independence.

2. Strong self-esteem.

3. It is easy to be affected by bad.

When dealing with adolescent children, the best way to communicate is when parents accompany, trust and love with their hearts. It is recommended that parents read and understand some psychophysiological knowledge of adolescent children if they have time.

The problem of adolescent rebellion is a big topic, in fact, the main manifestations of children in adolescence are those aspects, the main manifestations are:

1. Lack of learning initiative.

2. Poor communication in parent-child relationship.

3. Low self-control ability.

4. Electronic products are frequently played.

5. Setting goals is not sustainable.

6. Excellent performance and high pressure.

7. Weak ability to love and gratitude.

The solution to adolescent rebellion still depends on what aspects the child appears in, and it cannot be generalized. We must use scientific methods to guide, rather than blindly coercive means.

Respect. Respect children and do not make moral judgments. Parents should not be too strict, once the child is rebellious, the child will be labeled as "disobedient", and even "go to the line" for the child. Use less such words in the process of communicating with your child to reduce your child's rebellious mentality.

Empathy. In fact, every parent and teacher has grown up from adolescence, and has also had a rebellious period, in the face of the child's rebellious psychology, we should think more empathy, understand the reasons for the child's rebellion, think about why the child will do this, find out the cause of the problem, in order to reduce the child's rebellious psychology.

Discover the strengths in your child and praise them. Don't compare your child's shortcomings with other people's children, so as to reduce your child's negative emotions and reduce your child's resistance to parents.

Parents should not magnify their children's weaknesses and do not compare their children's weaknesses with those of other children. When contacting children, parents should try to find out as much as possible about their children's strengths and encourage them to reduce their resistance to parents. Don't think that your child's rebellion is deliberately bad with you or have problems with your character, learn to respect and understand.

We have also been young, once rebellious, the child and you do it, you don't take it, the child is deliberately funny, you are unmoved, as long as you respect and recognize him, the child will slowly wake up, feel the love of his parents, and will naturally restrain his behavior.

The rebellious period is a common adolescent phenomenon, as the child grows older, the child is no longer simply completely dependent on the parents, has independent ideas, as a parent should encounter the changes of the child, understand the needs of the child, and avoid blind preaching and punishment.

To give more help to children in the rebellious period, we must first learn to understand the environment in which the child is located, the problems they face, and the child's current thoughts, and give more understanding and respect from the perspective of the child, and at the same time let the child understand the warmth of the family and the support of the parents, give the child the courage to face the problem, and help the child find a solution to the problem.

As a parent, you should pay attention to uniting your child's classmates, teachers, and friends to help your child through the rebellious period. In the face of more complex situations, parents can seek the help of a psychologist to give their children appropriate psychological counseling.