Why am I always worried about the future?

This is normal, just like if you have expectations for life, you will involuntarily expect to have a happy and happy life, at this time you will be particularly worried about accidents in the future life, the uncertainty of the future will keep us in a state of uneasiness, a day is not determined, we will worry about a day.

I actually worry about this and that sometimes, and I rarely even talk to my boyfriend about my future life, because I worry that the life I imagine will happen to me in the future, like the tighter the sand in your hand, the faster it will flow. Sometimes the more you care about things, the more you care, the more you care, and always worry that your future life will get out of control and not be in our control.

I didn't think too much about it before, and I didn't take many things to heart, and I rarely thought about the future, always thinking that the future was still far away, even if it was a day, and I didn't want to think about things that hadn't yet arrived. But then as I got older and I got with my boyfriend, I would occasionally imagine my future life. But only occasionally think about it, will not often think, let alone take the imaginary life seriously, imagination is the most beautiful thing, if one day you find that the gap between your imaginary life and real life is getting bigger and bigger, the sense of anxiety and disappointment will occupy all your thoughts, life becomes a mess, the more chaotic.

With the people we love, with the desire for a better life, we will plan for ourselves, we all hope that the days will be better and better, the future will be happier and happier, and the future will not be controllable, then strive to make yourself better, so that you have the ability to change the existing life, life is no longer uncontrollable, when you find that you can control your own life one day, you will no longer worry about it.

I'm also always worried about the future, so why am I worried about the future more or less similar to you, so I'll talk about why I'm always worried about the future.

First of all, it's clear that I don't have any skills to do it. Now how fierce the competition in society is, I believe that people who live in this society know it, and as a person who does not have strong skills and excellent skills, I have no capital that can be compared with others, which makes me panic and have no bottom in my heart. I am afraid that I will be eliminated from this society as soon as I leave school in the future, and I will have no place in this society.

So, my lack of skills is the root of my worries about my future.

Besides, I still don't know what I like, what I want to do, I don't know anything about my future, I don't know anything about my future, I'm unprepared. It is said that "don't fight unprepared battles", and I am now the soldier who has no ** on the battlefield, just the fish and meat on the chopping board to be slaughtered. It's not that anyone has done a survey, which roughly means that among a group of experimenters, those with goals have the highest proportion of success and the most wealth.

I'm just afraid that in the future, I will achieve nothing, do nothing, live a life that I don't want, and my whole life will pass like this.

In addition, let's take the recent incident of a pregnant woman jumping off a building. First of all, giving birth hurts so much, and I don't want to get married or have children just thinking about that pain now. Besides, what should I do if my husband who marries in the future is like that, and my future mother-in-law is like that, I can't find a place to cry.

In general, because we can't see, predict, or control the future, we're worried. Now start doing things with your feet on the ground, and you'll have less to worry about.

Some people believe that the best way to live is not obsessed with the past, not to worry about the future, and not to squander the present. The past is gone, the future is useless to worry about, only the present is really controllable, we should cherish the present and live a wonderful life.

Let it pass if it is gone, sum up the experience, learn the lessons, there are too many entanglements and how it should have been, and the recitation of the sutra has lost its meaning. The current life should be cherished, scientifically and effectively used every minute and every second, and strive for the present with a heart worthy of life, and life will be full and abundant.

In my opinion, it is not always advisable not to be afraid of the future, but the future needs to be properly feared. "People have no foresight, and there must be old deeds and near-term worries." Having a sense of fear can help you better prepare for the future.

For individuals, the past, present, and future constitute a complete closed loop of life. The present is the end of the past, the prologue of the future, and the accumulation of the past.

It is very necessary to make some scientific analysis and judgment on the future, so as to pursue the advantages and avoid the disadvantages, prepare several sets of feasible plans, and resolve all kinds of risks.

Everything is suffering, and the only way is to cross it. It is still very necessary to worry about the future.

Question: Extreme panic and fear of things that have not yet happened, or have a small chance of happening, lead to anxiety in life, lack of concentration, listlessness, continuous low mood, not interested in anything, not happy to see anything, completely unable to calm down, and even want to die immediately (it has been for half a month), what is wrong?

A: There can be several reasons for this, which are analyzed as follows:

1. Excessive attention. Excessive investment in emotion, money, and action in a matter leads to the inability to see the overall situation, and expands the part into the whole picture, which is easy to suffer from gains and losses. I think that the gains and losses in one thing determine the overall gains and losses.

And the results did not meet expectations. Often, I feel that I dare not devote myself to everything, I am tired of everything, I want to escape this pain, and I feel disgusted.

2. Too many distractions. Too many goals are too scattered, too much consideration, too many plans, too many tables. What does it mean to have too many tables?

You see that in the war movie, after the military meeting, the generals have to check the table, in order to keep the same pace in action. If you have too many watches in mind, you have to give them the right time. The more watches, the more inaccurate you are, and you either keep one watch and throw away the rest.

3. Hesitation. No matter how many goals there are, as long as you prioritize them and act decisively, you won't be distracted. As long as the order is sorted out, distracting thoughts can also become one thought.

One thought is mindfulness. If you are always thinking and comparing, and you can't make up your mind, you will lose your concentration more and more if you take three steps and stop and wait and see. The mood is impetuous and becomes anxious.

4. Energy exhaustion. Although nothing happened, it has never been idle in your heart, just like the engine is running without stepping on the accelerator and consuming gasoline. When the gasoline runs out, people have no energy.

When the energy is low, you can't lock God, and if you can't lock God, people will lose sleep. Sleep also requires energy.

Solution: The most direct way to do this is to narrow down the goals and identify the needs while maintaining a holistic view. The second is to act now and think less. Finally, the regularity of life ensures abundant energy.

As for how to reduce the goals, there are two directions: one is to write down all the goals and sort them in order. The second is to put all the goals aside, calm down and ask yourself what you need now, torture your heart more, and let your inner conscience tell you.

This may require a period of time away from the current environment, or seeking professional help to get through the existing conditions. (Divine Will).