College Life Fear Ask for Help 5

I think you must be both afraid of coming to a new place and looking forward to coming to this place, in fact, it is not as scary as you think, college life is very beautiful, you will not feel too lonely, everyone cherishes friendship when you get to college, I am also a slow type, but I also have a lot of friends, especially roommates are very good. You don't need too many friends, one or two are enough, when you pay your heart to your friends, you will reap happiness, the most important thing is to let yourself live happily in college, long live passing, use more spare time to do something meaningful, exercise yourself more, participate in school activities more, don't lose yourself, you must insist on not changing, don't let it waste your youth, grasp it well, happiness is the most important,

I've just finished my high school career. I have to go home twice a year at university. Maybe it's normal to be afraid.

Group chats have allowed me to get to know some people. I'm not as scared as I was then. We are all strangers to each other.

Which friend does not go from strange to familiar. Because we're all strangers to each other, the feeling of wanting to make friends is about the same. So don't be afraid to sprinkle.

I really don't know who made the university so horrible. How good your college life is, from your questions, I think you are quite kind ......Since you are so afraid, then I suggest that you go after: 1. Sleep at the right time at night, don't quarrel with others too late (this is very annoying), and don't quarrel with others too early 2. Don't fall in love in your freshman year, you don't just get along with one person, you just came in your freshman year, everyone is not very familiar with each other, there is no topic, you have a trick object, everyone has a topic, and as a result, everyone is closer, and you go far 3, bear with everything, and everyone will like you if you are easy-going.

4. And when you first come, you should pay attention to what you say, and after everyone gets acquainted, it's fine.

I think college is similar to high school, but with a little more social pressure.

College is not as scary as you think, and it is the same as high school, which is gradually from strange to familiar process, so you don't have to worry about not being extroverted and not making friends, college is different from high school, generally a dormitory will be quite good, even if anyone has shortcomings, they will be considerate of each other! So let go and welcome your new life! Not to mention that home is far away and home is close, and I don't go home often...

As most people say: college is a small society, things you haven't experienced before will be encountered in this era of college, but to sum up, cheerful, generous, positive, such people can gain something in college, learn interpersonal communication is also very important, that is, while studying, you should also actively participate in activities, and deal with interpersonal relationships in it, these are good. That's all the advice I can give, don't look at university too mysteriously, work hard for your dreams, and wish your dreams come true...

I'm also the kind of person who often can't fit into the group, and I went to college! Remember my brother's words, different people have different ideas, and often what you think is not like that! In fact, everyone is very kind, don't let time expand the misunderstanding!

Let go of your heart! Learn the lessons of the past and summarize how to deal with this matter this time! When you grow up!

You will find that sometimes the iron son of the university will be better than the brothers and sisters! Hehe.. Don't be too careful!!

Everything is external to the body, and there are comings and goings! Find it more interesting at school than at home!

Don't have too much pressure, college life is very colorful, don't think too much, besides, people who are swollen should learn to be independent, the hurdle of taking the university entrance examination has passed, what else is difficult to live with you!

In college, everyone is in the same situation, there is no need to be afraid, and college life is relatively free, so it is easier to make friends.

I'm going, the first person I see someone will be scared of going to college, buddy, congratulations on finally asking for hell, when you get to college, you will be equivalent to heaven, whether you want to go to school, or want to play, there are more like-minded people with you, college life, hehe, you need to experience ...... yourself

It's very simple, make yourself cheerful, try to fit into their conversation, just talk a lot.

In college, everyone starts from the same place, and the key is how well you mix in school. College is simple. Visit your seniors more, get close to your mentors, and everything is OK

In fact, there is nothing to be afraid of, I am so hungry before I am still my previous self.

For example, if you have a newly bought mobile phone in your pocket, you are afraid of being stolen on the bus, and you check every once in a while to see if the phone is still there. This move caught the attention of the thief, and the phone was eventually stolen.

Because you are afraid of it, you will be very careful, and the more you concentrate, the easier it is to make mistakes. This is known as Murphy's theorem. A lot of things don't happen if you're not worried.

Instead of spending time and energy thinking about something that didn't happen, it is better to train yourself to be strong and handle things well when you encounter them.

When will the Honor Note10 be able to use the 90 system?

I used to record the scene realistically, deter criminals, and finally stop the crime, which is very convenient.

For comparison, before entering the university, at the beginning of the university, after a period of college life, summarize or write a generalization. Express your true feelings, or extend your different feelings about the past and the future through one thing. (I haven't really written about my first experience of college life.)

Don't be too yourself, there are many things you can do in life. Learning is important, but so is socializing. There are many high-IQ and imbecile people in society.

You are first and foremost a human being in society, and society is also an indispensable science. Don't think too much, don't care too much about what others think, be yourself and live for yourself. Everyone has their own way of life, even if they are wrong, they have a growth experience, and they have to experience it slowly when they are emotionally invested, and no one can say that they can be free, after all, there are too few saints.

Participate in more social activities, don't live in your own circle, communicate with people more, and know that helping people is also a very happy thing.

That's because your ego is entangled in all sorts of man-made emotions. What you experience can be called "an excess of conflicting emotions". These emotions do not exist in the first place, but if they are separated from each other, they gradually take shape.

What separates the emotions of the original unity from each other is the artificial concept of permeating. For example, if you obviously hate someone, but for some reason you have to worship him. Or when you don't want to obey, you have to imagine it as righteous and obey.

The reason why you used to feel undisturbed is because these "artificially separated instruments" have not yet been loosened. But now, the impression you feel is not much different from what you felt at first, but the conflict between artificial emotions that you would not otherwise experience is starting to magnify. This is due to the fact that your actions and experiences now are largely based on artificial emotions rather than being childlike-oriented.

You can imagine your previous life as an unbuilt mold and a garden, where you studied but lived in the garden. And now that you've officially moved into this mold, you're starting to experience its inconvenience, in your words—gray. It is full of negative emotions, always dissatisfied, always feeling threatened.

In fact, under natural circumstances, a person will not "hate" another person, because this emotion is artificial and imitated, just like the mold does not exist in the first place. One of the characteristics of artificial emotions is that they are particularly fond of judging and are unaware of their conflicts. In the same way, your classmates and the people around you are now in this state, and when everyone comes together and interacts, because everyone's emotions are broken, then in fact everyone sees the conflict that comes from their own heart, and this discomfort actually stems from the fact that there are always certain phenomena that are hateful, certain people who are hateful, and endless involvement.

If you can realize that the hatred, kindness, and fear that you are aware of, the innocence, confusion, and sadness, are all just manifestations of the broken emotions in the inner mold, then you can immediately get rid of this "troubled people". Since each person is unable to see his own emotions as a whole, he is obscured from thinking that another negative, disgusting trait is present in another person, so that each person becomes a mirror in the gray labyrinth of others.

One of your characteristics is that you are overly "self-conscious", always focusing on "how others will see me", rather than "how to be considerate of others" or "external concerns", creating some practical convenience for others to make yourself better. Artificial emotions are all in pairs, and if you can realize that a pair of emotions appear in a situation at the same time, I believe your horizons will be relatively broadened. For example, while you feel aggrieved and vulnerable, there must be a strong and threatening part standing on the far side, perhaps disguised under the appearance that "someone else is arrogant and unreasonable".

You used to study hard in high school without worrying about what others thought of you, because everyone understands that there is a common understanding, that is, to get into college, and you don't have to worry about the lack of friends, because you are surrounded by friends who study hard like you, if you don't have the goal of going to college in high school, it is estimated that you will encounter the same problems in college.

So if you want to study hard, don't be afraid of being isolated, which is very normal in college and in the future society, and most people who struggle are lonely.

Also, friends are not obtained by conforming to the wishes of friends, I think real friends are certainly not like this, on the contrary, if you do what you should do and like to do and be open-minded, you will find that it is normal for others to see you, and you will make friends like you. If you think you have a problem, and you feel that you are different, then others must have the same opinion as you.

Do what you have to do, say what you have to say, everyone is different, you don't have to be the same as others, if you go back to your original self, I think the people around you are more adaptable than you think. The most important thing is that you believe in yourself.

You have a mental illness, judging from your description, your situation has not been alleviated for a long time, at this time, you should wonder if you have the possibility of illness, is it because you study too hard and are too nervous?

Because excessive study and tension will make the brain in a bad state of tension and anxiety for a long time, and over time you will suffer from mental illness, and your situation is somewhat obsessive-compulsive disorder and depression. You always care about what others think of you, and you feel very sensitive to some of other people's inadvertent actions, even uncomfortable, and feel that they are aimed at you, this situation is very similar to afterglow compulsion, which is always paying attention to the surrounding details that have nothing to do with you, and then the patient himself feels anxious, and you also have some depressive tendencies, and your interactions with roommates are not satisfactory, so you conclude that you may have mild obsessive-compulsive disorder and depression, Both of these diseases are caused by a large loss of serotonin in the brain under long-term mental stress and excessive brain use, resulting in neurological dysfunction, producing various symptoms, obsessive-compulsive, anxiety, depression, etc.

Therefore, it is recommended that you see a psychiatric doctor, receive medication**, or physics**, and do not shy away from medical treatment, because if the disease develops severely, it will be very troublesome, which will not only affect your learning, but also affect your interpersonal relationships, forming a vicious circle. Generally, after an orderly **, all symptoms disappear.

Hehe, look at the opening point.

Today's society is very realistic, don't care so much about everything.

Think about it, the sky is very blue, the ground is very green, Mom and Dad love you very much, what else do you need?

It's good to be ordinary. A lot of things、Maybe really annoying, but。

Angry and angry, always only bad for themselves. Simpler.

Actually, the world is very beautiful.

It seems that you are standing at a watershed moment, whether it is interpersonal or academic or the way you think.

If you are worried or suspect that others hate you, try to find an aspect that reflects your value as soon as possible, whether it is a little show off, whether it is to really help, and learn to feel the role that is needed;

When you study, you are worried that others will think too much, so find a place where everyone is studying seriously, where no one has the leisure time to care whether you are studying, the library, the study room for graduate school, or find a secret base that only you have;

It's good to treat people with a clear conscience, other people's lives can't be your turn to help choose, yours, others can't intervene, so do your best first.

As I wrote this, I suddenly had the idea of starting over. When I was in the same position as you, I used to make a request for myself: know what I want, know what I am doing. Hopefully, after the watershed, you'll be happy with your location and direction.