Why would anyone never want to bother people?

My husband is such a person, he doesn't want to trouble others a little, for fear of causing trouble in other people's lives.

I'm like this, I don't want to owe a favor, and after asking for help, I always remember this in my heart, and I want to return this favor as soon as possible.

You have to look at other people's faces when you trouble others, and others may not be willing to help, so no matter how tired you are, try your best to do it yourself.

It may be that you feel that it is difficult to repay the favor, so you don't want to trouble others, after all, it is not good for you to trouble others.

Because I am afraid of trouble, instead of bothering others, it is better to do it myself first, and then trouble others if I don't do it well.

Fear of rejection. Being rejected is a very bad experience and can make people feel that their self-esteem will hurt, so many people just don't ask for help in order not to be rejected. One of my classmates is like this, he handles everything silently by himself, and never bothers others.

I told him that if he had any difficulties, he could tell his friends, and his was: "What if you ask someone else to be rejected, and the result is that the other party is mistaken for low ability and looked down upon, so it is better to do everything yourself." ”

When you go to school, you don't like to trouble the teacher, because you think that you don't do your homework well, so you don't understand something, so you feel ashamed. Now I don't like to bother my parents and loved ones, because you want to give more for yourself and they worry less. You're doing a great job!

Look at how many people in today's society have broken their hearts with their elderly parents, who in their eyes are just labor that they don't have to pay! As for relatives and friends, each has their own trivial matters in life, and of course they want to have more than less. As an adult, you have to know how to solve all kinds of difficulties independently. ‍‍

Afraid of embarrassing others. When we ask for help from others, we are not sure whether this will cause trouble to the other party, whether it will make the other person feel troublesome, and under such a psychological trend, we are naturally embarrassed to trouble others. For example, if there is something in the unit today and there is no time to pick up the child, then we will want to let the child's classmate's mother pick it up, but we will also think that she will find it troublesome to take care of the two children, and we will decide not to trouble others.

Don't want to trouble others and have something to do with your family! I am an only child, although I am the only daughter in the family, but my father raised me like a female man, and taught me since I was a child to do my own things and not trouble others! In the year of the university entrance examination, my mother was laid off and had no money for me to study in college, so I resolutely chose to live in Beipiao, just went to Beijing to rent a basement, look for a job, buy groceries, cook, and rely on myself for everything, and kept telling myself in my heart that I was strong!

Don't bother others also started at that time, later, the job was stable, I met my husband, got married and had children, everything is still on my own, the children are brought by themselves, after the children are sent to kindergarten, they open their own stores, and they are used to doing everything by themselves!

I was deeply touched by the fact that I was a person who was unwilling to trouble others, and then I became a person who was never willing to trouble others. It is self-confidence, has considerable life experience and life experience, is good at empathy, and is a combination of IQ and EQ! Of course, there are some exceptions for people with autism.

What has been gradually cultivated over the years is through many lessons. and sentimental growth, etc. Why does it seem to be contradictory, but in fact, it is divided into two ends, why do you say it, after countless lessons, for example.

Whatever you do, you ask the other party to weigh others in your own standard way, but when others do it, it is not to achieve themselves. Time to tell others how to do things. Why don't you do it yourself!

What's even worse is that what you trouble others to do will not achieve your own wishes, and even invite regrets.

I am such a person in real life, I want to help others, so that I feel happy and comfortable in my heart! Of course, there are many ways to help others, not in terms of money, but in many things in life, you can give sincere help, not to help in return. For example, if a colleague asks you for help, I will help if I can do it.

The kind that helps a friend buy breakfast, and is embarrassed to ask for money. It feels like a good feeling in my heart. However, I don't really like to trouble others, and if I can't let others help, I won't let others help.

I'm afraid of owing someone else, even my own relatives.

We don't trouble others, a lot of it depends on the relationship with troublesome people. This is very important. For example, if they are already very good friends and often play together, trouble may also be a way for each other to need.

In fact, the so-called trouble also goes back and forth, this time it's you, and next time it may be him. It is also one that helps to enhance the relationship. The circumstances of the time are determined by the factors of the situation.

If it is just a small matter that can be solved by yourself, no one will trouble others, after all, in the process of troublesome others, in our concept, there is a so-called debt to others. Therefore, it is often not important, it is not an urgent matter, and it is usually just done by yourself.

If you trouble others and ask others for help, you have to admit that you are not capable in some way. Expose your weaknesses and lose face. I don't want to admit that I'm worse than others, I endure hardship, and I don't want to show it in front of others.

If you trouble others, you owe a favor. Some people, like me, are the last thing I want to live by owing someone else, or else I will always keep it in my heart. If you trouble others, they will have to spend time and energy doing things for you.

Although it may be simple for others, it can be done without bothering others without spending any time and energy. Therefore, I generally don't bother others casually, I have to trouble others, and I will always be grateful when others help. After all, no one else is obligated to help you.

There is also the fact that people's hearts are unpredictable, and if you don't understand, you don't dare to trouble others. People's personalities are quite different, with their own characteristics. Some people are more shameless in life, because they once helped you once, had a relationship with you, and then began to trouble you constantly, which is very annoying.

So those who are never willing to trouble others are likely to be very self-confident people, they don't believe that they can achieve the same status as others, and they don't believe that they can live comfortably when they owe others favors.

The reason is simple.

1.Some people are shy and introverted, so it is difficult to ask for help.

2.Some people are more independent and strong, feel that things can be solved by themselves, there is no need to trouble others, and they will feel that they owe others a favor.

There is no need to trouble others for things that can be solved by yourself, and things that can be solved with money are not things, now everyone is very busy, trouble others to help, others are also very busy, even if people help you out of face, but you will also owe favors because of this, there is a debt in your heart, you have to pay it back sooner or later, help to help, it seems that you were more relaxed at that time, but in fact it will be more troublesome later.

Because of their own personality, they may have a slight inferiority complex, and if they are more introverted, they will not want to trouble others.

Because of personality, I don't like to trouble others, and I don't want to owe favors to others.

I don't bother you, and you don't bother me The concept of social interaction has gradually emerged among the younger generation and has become a common mentality in modern society. This concept affects young people's lifestyles, values, and interpersonal relationships, especially with the rise of digital social networking**.

1.Self-independence and free consciousness. With the progress of society and the emancipation of people's minds, the younger generation attaches more importance to self-independence and free consciousness.

They believe that everyone should have their own space and way of being, and are not willing to be forcibly intervened or constrained. As a result, they tend to adopt a social mindset of "I don't bother you, and you don't bother me" to retain a certain degree of freedom for themselves.

2.Busy modern life. The pace of modern life is accelerating, and people's work and life pressure has increased significantly.

When young people are faced with complicated work and life tasks, their time and energy are very limited, and it is difficult to take on too much social pressure and obligations. As a result, they will be more inclined to follow the social concept of "I don't bother you, and you don't bother me" to reduce their burden as much as possible.

3.Prefer virtual socializing. With the development of Internet technology, virtual social networking has gradually become an important form of social interaction for young people.

This way of socializing is not limited by geography and time, making people more free and comfortable. In virtual socialization, people are also more tolerant of the alarm wheel and easy to follow the principle of "I don't trouble you, and you don't trouble me", avoiding too much interaction and interference.

4.Shifts in social values. With the development of social, economic and cultural development, people's values are also changing.

When young people look at social relationships, they place more emphasis on equality, mutual benefit and rational cooperation, and no longer emphasize emotional and emotional factors as before. Therefore, the social concept of "I won't trouble you, and you won't trouble me" is more in line with their values.

In short, the social concept of "I don't bother you, and you don't bother me" is indeed gradually emerging among the younger generation, and this social mode more or less reflects their self-independence, free consciousness and change of values. However, for the most critical interpersonal relationship, there is still a need for a certain amount of trust, sincerity and care.

Because I am afraid that I will not be able to help others when they need to help them, and I am even more afraid that I will give too much.

Everyone doesn't want to trouble others, and as a result, they can't find anyone to trouble anymore. 1.A good person who doesn't dare to expose himself is more terrible than a troublesome spirit The traditional society is a society of human feelings, everyone likes to talk about human feelings, today I helped you, and tomorrow you will also help me, although it is also very annoying, but at least there is a benefit:

People don't mind telling others what they need, and they will even be very proactive in stating their difficulties and asking for help. Therefore, in areas with strong traditional culture, everyone has a strong sense of belonging, and there is a famous line in old movies, "All for me, I for all", which is the embodiment of the collective sense of security in the old era. But all of this is deconstructed in the modern city.

Human affection has become synonymous with obsolescence, and the standard of a good person who is loved by others is no longer "I am for everyone", but "independent men and women", do their own duty, and do not become a burden to others. As a result, we saw that there were many people who would rather wronged themselves than trouble others. Asking for help as a last resort has become a matter of apology.

Man should not be an island, if all the joys, sorrows and sorrows can only be borne by oneself, then, the occasional powerless Xianyu Tushi can defeat people in an instant. 2.Expressing demands is also an ability I don't know if you have noticed that on the Internet, complaints like this are becoming more and more common:

People are too fragile now. The "vulnerable" here refers to the fact that young people are becoming more and more easily knocked down by the trivialities of life. If you want a young person to collapse, you don't need a big event at all, but a rain-soaked quilt, a string of keys forgotten in the house, and the last subway ...... that you didn't catchAs long as people can know that "one person is not okay with everything", it can easily break down the psychological defense.

Therefore, the key to building a truly healthy mindset is to allow yourself to properly return to the collective, regaining the ability to trust others and expose yourself.

I won't trouble you, and you don't bother me The concept of social interaction is indeed more popular among contemporary young people. There are several reasons for this:

1.The pace of life is accelerating, and personal time is more precious. Young people are facing more work-life pressures, and personal time is even more scarce. This makes them reluctant to bother or be bothered too much and want to do what they want in a limited amount of time.

2.Online social networking replaces a lot of interpersonal interactions. Young people are more accustomed to keeping in touch with their friends through social networks, which virtually reduces the frequency of direct interpersonal interactions.

In the long run, it will indeed lead to a certain sense of alienation between friends in real life, and they are not used to disturbing each other frequently.

3.The rise of individualism. Contemporary young people generally advocate individualism and pay more attention to personal development and the satisfaction of needs.

This also makes them advocate personal autonomy in their relationships, and do not want to be too limited or compromise their interests because of the needs of their friends, which is also reflected in the above concept.

4.The transfer of life stress. The reason why some young people advocate this concept is out of a kind of transfer or insecurity about the pressure of real life.

I hope to gain a sense of control by limiting my friend's involvement in my own life. But this is not a healthy social attitude.

However, there are limitations to this notion. Genuine relationships still require an investment of time and energy, mutual understanding, and mutual support. Not being troublesome does not mean true independence, but can lead to isolation.

Social interaction should still be based on caring for and contributing to each other. Young people need to pursue personal development while not forgetting their original intentions and cherishing their relationships. Independence is not the same as isolation, socializing is also a way to grow, and you need to find a balance.

To sum up, this kind of social concept is more prevalent among contemporary young people, but it also has its limitations. Sincere interpersonal relationships require mutual care and understanding, and never stop at the level of not bothering each other. Social interaction is still a necessary and important part of life, and young people need to pursue themselves while not forgetting to learn and grow in interpersonal relationships.

While maintaining an appropriate distance, we must also learn to support others, which is a more mature and pure Sun Jian's attitude towards life.