Cai Dingjian s rational philosophy

Just like ordinary friends, talking, personal hobbies or something, nothing to ask out to go shopping or something.

Always send some small things that girls like, but don't send them every day. Ask her about her hobbies in the buckle and take her to do what she likes.

Talk about what the girl likes or what she likes.

Tip: Prepare some topics ahead of time, if you're good at it. Just follow her the way she says and send her a joke or two a day. Remember to do it in moderation, if you're done with all your questions, you'll be embarrassed.

The most important thing is to treat people with integrity, narrow-mindedness is a disadvantage, to be sincere, to be tolerant, to be appropriate to forbearance, not to be too competitive, not to worry about gains and losses with others (under normal circumstances), and wait until you can bear it again! Also, you have to be confident and smiling, so I think it will be taken care of!

Of course, it's better to be humorous, so that it will be easier to blend in with the group or the individual!

There are many ways to make friends, and many of us have a lot of skills for making friends, consciously or unconsciously, and some people even have the principle of making friends. But many people use simple methods to interact with people, or unconsciously use some skills or do not use some skills. Chat and talk about the long term.

When we are generally chatting with people, in addition to trivial and short-term things in our parents, we have to make people feel that they have a little foresight, that they are thinking about the future, and that they are a person who can have long-term relationship value. Make people feel like you're thinking long-term, and increase the space for people to build relationships with you beyond the trivial.

Socialize with people who are useless in front of you. Everyone with status and resources wants to socialize, but in the eyes of others, you may not be a green onion. The relationship between classmates who could not be seen from the era of who was long and who was short developed later became a long-term social support.

It is necessary to focus part of our efforts on helping those who do not have a lot of use, so as to accumulate real value for the future. In fact, those who only make useful friends look more like villains.

Be aware of social differences. Some people say that I have never had friends who are civil servants, or friends who have never been professors, or friends who have not been involved in investment, so I have to consciously go to the occasions, lectures, and activities where these people may appear more to make these friends. If I want to make a friend in the investment world, I might be able to meet this person at an investment seminar.

Don't just give promises. If you promise to 100% of what you can do, you can not promise, and you may not be able to save face. I have a rule: first, I don't borrow money from others, there is only one exception for relatives and friends, I will help you if you are seriously ill, I promise to do what I promise, and I don't borrow if I say I don't borrow.

A clear commitment can reduce your hassle and also let others know how to deal with you.

Approaching knowledge or people you don't know or like. In this I don't know, you may find that these people are actually what I like very much. Sometimes you have to come into contact with some people and knowledge that you don't like - middle school, high school, including college is the most open time in our lives, a very important reason is that we learn a lot of knowledge when we go to university.

When we get to work, one of the main reasons why we age quickly is because we only choose what we like, and we become very paranoid. So if you pick 10 books, you pick three books that you don't like, and seven books that you like. If you can do that, you'll be open to the future.

Look at what kind of girl the boy likes, and move in that direction.