Can one make a complete change in oneself through one s own efforts? 10

According to the proposition, and then looking at your explanation of the problem, I can tell you very clearly that it is safe and can be changed. In fact, a person's character is determined by nature, and the acquired environment can also completely create a person's character. For example, if you say that you have low self-esteem or timidity, are you doing the same to your best friends and closest relatives?

In fact, I used to be relatively inferior, and I was very timid, for example, when I was in college, I didn't dare to walk through the front door, I felt that there would be countless eyes staring at me when I walked through the front door, and even sometimes imagined that I was tripped by the line from the front door, and then ridiculed by others...

Hehe, then I met a cheerful girl and she changed me. She woke me up with a word, she said, people, don't take yourself seriously, because others don't waste their time on you at all, and not so many people pay attention to you. The reason why you have low self-esteem and timidity is that you care too much about yourself, and you are afraid of losing face or something, in fact, the world is very small, let alone a small person!

After that, every time I took a big class, I gritted my teeth and deliberately went a little late, and then passed between the professor and nearly 100 classmates, and sometimes I was criticized by the professor, and after a year of this, I felt that I was indeed "thicker", hehe, and because of this, I was also "famous" in the three classes that I attended at the same time, and I was able to take the initiative to greet strangers, so I went through a period that I thought was difficult.

In fact, even now I often encounter some things that make me afraid, such as some big orders that I have never taken over, how to negotiate with a big boss I have never met, but you must force yourself to do it, because these are all hurdles, and you feel that it is nothing after the hurdles.

As long as you affirm yourself, your heart is full of sunshine then it will be better, my efforts have made me a lot more cheerful now, and my reward is. Now I'm engaged to that Sunshine Girl.

You said that you can change your inferiority complex, timidity can be done, as long as you have patience and courage, as for the difficulty you said, it varies from person to person, if you are very courageous, maybe your change is in an instant.

Give you some advice, contact more with others, overcome fearful thoughts, give yourself more courage, and it is easy to change.

Personality is more difficult to change, even if it is changed on the surface, when it comes to a critical moment.

Human nature will be exposed, so it can't be changed, it's better to change the surface.

Participate in more social activities, make friends, experience fun, and over time, you are familiar with this area, build confidence, and naturally have no inferiority complex and timidity.

Nothing is impossible. (A bit of self-deception, huh) Changed beliefs + environment = the results you want.

It is indeed not easy for a person to change his personality and other habits that he has developed since childhood through his own efforts, it depends on how much perseverance you have and why you want to change, but I think it is best to be what you are now! If you change, do you guarantee that the people around you will accept you?

<> "How do people strive to change themselves?

A passage from a professor at Peking University:

If you are not strong enough, you can hide yourself for the time being, try to change yourself, experience in a place where no one cares, and grow up in a lonely environment.

What you see is someone else's beautiful grades, a thousand clean **, soft hair, and a good figure.

What you can't see is the persistence and hard work behind them, the waiting and sweat day after day.

If you make up your mind to do something, do it quietly, without going around promoting your goals and ideas, whether it is worth the time will give you the best answer.

Liang Asheng, his own people, have to be responsible for themselves, and I hope we all have a bright end.

We must actively improve our own level and ability in life, so that we can become an excellent self more independently, and the following points can help us well:

1.Insist on self-exercise.

If you are full of positive yearning for life, learn to start exercising, and insist on exercising for a period of time, you will find that your life has become different, your physique has become better, you have become more serious in talking and doing things, and your focus time has become longer, whether you are working or studying, you will be more efficient, and you will become more and more confident, as long as you start to change yourself, life will develop in a better direction.

2.Persist in reflection and self-improvement.

Learn to calm yourself down completely, think about whether there is anything wrong with dealing with people that day, carefully reflect on and summarize your work is if there are deficiencies, etc., know how to introspect, in order to discover the strengths and weaknesses of your personality faster, to look at yourself objectively, to do self-improvement, a person only clearly understands himself and realizes himself more quickly to become an excellent person.

3.Make an effort to learn something new.

The most intuitive and effective way of self-growth is to learn new knowledge, you can try to learn a little new knowledge every year, start from scratch, and finally summarize when you can find that you have made great progress, learn new knowledge, not only can make time more effective use, but also enhance people's self-confidence, as long as you want to learn, you can start to do it, a little progress every day, we can get closer to a better self.

4.Have your own hobbies.

Many people will say: interest is just interest, but in fact, interest can effectively improve oneself, the first thing to do is to stick to one's hobbies, such as painting, painting a picture after work, it will not take too much time, of course, you should also take time to learn relevant professional knowledge, and slowly make yourself professional and excellent.

Hard work is an attitude, regardless of age, learn from the best others, be the best yourself, you must force yourself to be excellent, and then live proudly.

Everyone can be reborn, and everyone can become a person you couldn't have imagined in the past. Learn to grasp life's second chance, if you are really willing to try hard, to change, to work hard, there is nothing you can't learn.

The second chance of life exists in life, it can be said that it can be seen everywhere, it is not given by others, it is created by oneself, and it is, as long as you want, it comes immediately, change is everywhere, change is visible at any time.

The so-called no, can't do it, are all our own conclusions, and what we have become in the end is up to us.

Everyone's life is full of infinite possibilities, and everyone can become better and better. The way we are now is just the way we are, and we are still at the peak of our lives. Everything will change, everything will be better, it's just a matter of whether we want to or not.

It doesn't matter if you're wrong, it's okay if you're not good, it's okay if you can't do it now, it doesn't matter if you have advantages and disadvantages, we have a chance to change, the road is still long, walk slowly, change slowly, who said we are like this, unchanged? Isn't it myself who makes such a judgment?

As long as you have a goal, you have a direction, you know what kind of person you want to become, you know those beautiful existences, and your heart is moving towards beauty, you will definitely be able to get better and better.

Those who give up themselves must not see those good existences, what they are pursuing is only some external things, and they do not touch the spirit and soul. What they pursue is also the evaluation of themselves by outsiders, living in the eyes and mouths of others, not achieving self-affirmation, and living in their own hearts.

Working hard to change yourself and improve yourself is always more rewarding than looking up to others.