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The funeral of a Muslim, "Alive", not every suffering has a reason, and not everything can be judged right and wrong, and many times we can't even describe it with fate. But life contained in silence is beautiful, and the greatness of life lies in its endless possibilities, and it does not advocate that everyone has hope, but only teaches people to be calm, and not to regret it in the right situation, because regret always teaches you to be sad.

"Accept Your Imperfect Self".This book I feel is a modern version of Jung's problem. Tell us that in order to become a whole person, we must accept the darkness of our hearts, open our hearts, and face ourselves. When we are willing to listen to the voice of our hearts, we will no longer label ourselves as "good" or "bad", and we will not have to live under hypocrisy to truly become a free and complete person.

The scientific proof of the reincarnation of the past life and the present life is a temple to see, mainly because it mentions a book of foreign psychologists "Past Life and This Life", I generally think they are very pragmatic and generally not so fond of fake, I believe that "Past Life and This Life", the author's words are full of tenderness and love.

At the low point of my life, I believed that people will not really die, and I learned about death anew, and slowly let go of my previous views on birth, old age, sickness and death, and the fear of death.

Later, I watched "The Power of the Moment" and "Dialogue with God" also touched. Then, because of the reminders of the people around me, I began to understand the Diamond Sutra and the Tao Te Ching, and comprehended their essence.

Having said all this, the summary is that there has been a fundamental change in the understanding of the essence of life, and it is no longer a solidified materialism, but it is also not superstitious about any person or teaching.

In life, you always have to force yourself at some point, because if you don't force yourself, you can't look at yourself deeply, if you don't force, you can't find the boundaries of ability, and if you don't force, you can't escape from the predicament. Through "Ability is Forced", I realized that many people are a little cruel to themselves at a critical time, so as to break through the bottleneck of personal and break through the shackles of society.

Ancient Chinese Poems "Ancient poems" are really self-cultivation, and there are poems and books in the belly. I have seen all kinds of family, friendship and love, read about sorrow or indignation or expansive state of mind, and tasted all kinds of situations in the world, I have seen new hope. Whenever I am in pain and despair, thinking about those verses suddenly fills me with power.

There are 3,000 words straight down in front of him, and there is no dust on his chest.

What others think" has become a "curse" for many people. If you want to break this "curse", I highly recommend the book "The Courage to Be Hated". It tells us that the root cause of our troubles is that in our interpersonal interactions, we seek the approval of others and ignore our own hearts.

From nothing, to nothing! Lectra creates an amazing and wonderful life, and this is what Life Without Limits is trying to tell us, in addition to a positive attitude towards life, there is also a new concept.

Ben Nigel's "The Code of Influence: Owning the Life You Deserve" tells us that creating influence in your life doesn't have to be about making drastic changes. Sometimes, just a small step away from the norm will reveal a new landscape.

Self-esteem is a very popular word, everyone has said and used it, but what exactly is self-esteem? I found the answer in the book The Power of Self-Esteem. Self-esteem is the ability to affirm oneself and the degree of self-love.

Usually we are so busy with our busy lives that we forget what life really is. Rhonda Byrne's "The Secret" has made the best of the best in all walks of life, and they showed me to tell me: happiness, joy, health, money, relationships, this secret can be given to me!

Me and the Altar of Earth", "One Hundred Years of Solitude", "Love in the Time of Cholera", "Living to Tell".

I don't know when introversion turned out to be a character flaw. They are often considered "taciturn", "cowardly" or even "unsociable". However, the book "The Competitiveness of Introverts" taught me that introverts can make the most of these strengths if they accept themselves and use their strengths wisely.

The Great Gatsby The Ordinary World, a social heart that allows me to see through the prosperity and evil of the world, and a social heart that makes me not give up hope in a desperate situation, everything is the result of my own efforts.

Carnegie's human weakness, as well as the origin of Yi in the first chapter of the I Ching, and some of Kazuo Inada's thoughts about why people are alive changed my view of life and changed my understanding of the world.

When I was in college, I read Kelly McGonigal's Self-Control, which changed the way I examined my heart and experienced life.

The Kite Runner", "Genius on the Left, Maniac on the Right", "Fantasy World Crossing".

The Bible <, and it gave me a perspective on the world. It also opened my eyes, opened my heart, and made me stand in a new position to look at all things and life in a hurry.

The Sea of Plenty" "Kinkakuji" "Human Disqualification".

The Shawshank Redemption says to have hope in difficult situations, The Godfather says to learn to be a responsible man, and White Night Walk says that there is unfathomable malice in this world.

The catcher in the wheat field, Jane Eyre ( ° And if you give me three days of light, a hundred years of solitude.

The Funeral of a Muslim", "Human Disqualification", "Ten Deadly Sins", "One Hundred Years of Solitude", "Memoirs of a Bitter Trick", "Genius on the Left, Madman on the Right"...

If you are stuck in a negative state of insecurity, self-denial, etc., the book "Happiness Lesson: The Solution to an Imperfect Life" is definitely for you. Through a variety of real cases, we share the same problems such as perfectionism, family of origin, procrastination, and the meaning of life.

How Steel is Made", "Jane Eyre", "Camel Xiangzi", "Grass House", "Pride and Prejudice", "Tsinghua Peking University Mind Cultivation Course".

Naughty Horse Jump, well, that's right.

The sword in the snow is walking, I want to stick to the persimmon, even if I pay countless but I don't get anything, and even, I just want to shout that death battle at a certain moment like a pawn in the Manjia battalion, I just want to have something to protect myself.

Ann Rand "The Fountainhead", what is a real person.

Tsinghua University Press's "Advertising Copy".

Thank you to those who have hurt you", "Childhood", "Thick Black Studies".

The first book in my life was a thick book with a fallen cover, it was too young at the time, I didn't know many words, I could only understand the illustrations in the book, to the effect that a thumb-sized child rode a wild goose around, encountering all kinds of dangers along the way. A story about growing up! I found out later:

The book is called "Niels Travels on a Goose."

In July 2015, I read a book "Silent Confession", and I still clearly remember the unforgettable words on the cover: "We have to get rid of the expectations of others and find our true selves all our lives." ”

A good book is like a mentor and a friend who is essential to our growth. Those who are close to the pearl are red, and those who are close to the ink are black, which illustrates this truth. When I was in junior high school, my outlook on life sprouted, and when I read "Lei Feng's Diary", the correspondence reports of reporters such as Ai Qing on the deeds of "Secretary Jiao" deeply moved me.

It made me understand that life is about struggle and dedication. Secondly, let's talk about enjoyment. Struggle and dedication are the whole value of life.

It is the driving force for life to move forward. If you only talk about enjoyment, it can only be the walking dead.

The first one should be "I Drift for a Long Time" in 12 years. When I was 12 years old, I was very young, and I didn't have the same desire to travel and travel as I do now. After reading Canoe's "I Drift for a Long Time", it was as if I had suddenly opened my mind, and since then I have been longing for a distant place, wanting to see people and things in the unknown city that I don't know, and wanting to be a writer like a canoe.

I think what changed my life was that I studied medical books for four years and then became a medical professional. In fact, in order to change the status quo, I have also read a lot of books, but in the end, I have not been able to change the direction of my life like medical professional books, alas, well, not to mention ......I'm going to read medical books, and I still have a few exams to take this year.

The first time I read the Siege was when I was in junior high school -- the Chinese teacher's summer homework, and when I first read it, I just completed the teacher's task, and I didn't feel much. I read it again when I was in college, and the second reading inspired me a lot, how could Mr. Qian Zhongshu write so truthfully and appropriately. Siege of the city, this book has a deeper experience of this book as I get older, and the taste is more flavorful!

I would like to talk to you about some books that changed my life - "Me and the Temple of Earth", the author Shi Tiesheng, I have to say that Shi Tiesheng is a literary genius, when many writers of the same generation and period are still thinking on the surface, he has gone deep into the core of literature. Explore things at the level of metaphysical meaning, explore the most essential things of human nature. From "Me and the Altar of Earth" we can deeply feel how the two diametrically opposed things of despair and hope are integrated with each other and appear in a person, reading this book, you can feel a mother's deep love for her son and a young man's most sincere feelings and yearning for life.

There's a wishing tree by the lake, a very good book, I don't know if there's anything to buy first, and you can sublimate your soul.

Look at Carnegie's, it will calm your mind, hehe.

Carnegie's was pretty good, very convincing.

"The Wisdom of Life", "Zhu Guangqian's Books", David's "Social Psychology" and so on.

Take your time, there are many good books that can help us improve our minds. Recognize the true face of parents, most of them do not know how to love their children. Say no when you should say no, and be brave enough to express yourself. I forgot to talk about "The Courage to Be Hated", you can go and read it.

One of the things a person needs to do during adolescence is to re-examine the relationship between his parents and himself. Put the so-called "good for you" love on the "scale" of the rational brain area of the prefrontal cortex, and weigh it. Calculate the gross weight to get the net weight.

Try to "understand" them, try to "stand" in their shoes, and think about how they see and treat "you". Dare to resist, but not at the cost of hurting your own body, and then you can probably get real freedom, and then you may be walking forward with your parents. Use what you've learned to reconstruct and affirm your love for each other. 】

First of all, the country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change. It is very difficult to change the basic personality of a person, and it is not something that can be achieved overnight by reading a few books at random.

A people-pleasing personality is a personality that pleases others and ignores one's own feelings. If you want to change it, you need to understand it from the roots. Why do you blindly please others, because you subconsciously feel that pleasing others will bring you greater value or avoid some trouble.

The starting point is others, and I feel that others have great energy, great effect, and unlimited potential. You need to please others in order to hope that one day they will help you.

Essentially, this is a lack of confidence in oneself, and the focus of the goal is to manage others, expecting oneself to be a popular person with others. Thus ignoring oneself, this is the bias in the way of processing, the lack of thinking and cognition. We should put running ourselves first.

Give full play to your own subjective initiative and enhance your own value. When self-worth is improved and becomes a dazzling existence, there is no need to please others, and others will automatically pass on admiration and envy. This is called turning reactive into active, improving oneself, and fundamentally solving problems.

Therefore, it is recommended to read some books that increase the depth of your knowledge, enhance your ability and strength, and enrich your experience. To put it simply, it is a book that can increase your own background.

While studying, cultivate more of your abilities in other aspects and enhance your self-confidence. Learn to draw nourishment from all aspects and enrich yourself. in order to solve the problem fundamentally.

If you want to improve your literary literacy:

1. You can see some classical Chinese literature, ancient poetry and classical masterpieces... If your foundation is not very good, I recommend you to read the series of books written by An Yiru, "If Life is Like First Seen", "Mo Shang Flowers Bloom and Return Slowly" and so on... Regardless of whether she writes well enough, I think the writing is relatively simple and vivid, and it is easy to read, because there are many stories, and after reading this interesting story about ancient Chinese literati that you should know, you can have a general understanding...

2. You can look at some modern contemporary Chinese literature, and the specific bibliography can be compared with the list of books that junior and senior high school students must read according to the Ministry of Education. . . It was probably written by Lu Xun, Guo Moruo, Lao She, Bingxin, and others. But if a big purpose for you to improve your self-cultivation is to chat with others and have something to talk about, and if you are a girl, I recommend that you read the books of Wang Anyi ("Song of Long Hatred"), Zhang Ailing (short and medium stories**), Yishu ("Xibao"), Su Tong and others...

Because these are easy to bring up in life ... Their works are often adapted into films and TV series... In addition, I personally like Qian Zhongshu ("Waicheng"), and I recommend it very selfishly. . .

3. If you want to pretend to be a petty bourgeoisie, hehe, you can take a look at the books of Baby Anne and Haruki Murakami... You can consider this at your discretion ... Norwegian Woods is a must-have book for petty bourgeoisie...

4, you can watch a little martial arts, boys don't talk about it, I personally like to watch martial arts girls, I think such girls must be very generous, extraordinary, martial arts of course the first recommendation Jin Yong Gulong, which contains all aspects of knowledge such as history and literature. . . The most important thing is to be able to look good...

5. If you don't like to read books very much, I personally don't recommend reading foreign masterpieces, because of the differences in background culture and language, it is difficult to understand, and many people often ask, why such a book is a world masterpiece... If you're afraid to talk about it and don't know it, you can look for these famous movies...