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Some people say that the essence of jealousy is similar to envy, so jealousy is not a psychological defect and is normal. In fact, according to the scholar, "jealousy is a pathological psychology, which is essentially a manifestation of narrow-mindedness, selfishness, incompetence and lack of love".
That is to say, the envious person is incompetent, but does not recognize the abilities of others, and may even harm others. Envy is a normal psychology, it identifies with the abilities of others, and it may also inspire you to surpass yourself. The great writer Balzac said that jealousy is inherently stupid and unreasonable.
To sum up, jealousy is not a good thing, it is a stupid worm that eats away at honor, and it is human progress. Stumbling block.
History is a mirror of reality. Throughout history, jealous people have often harmed not only others, but themselves.
The story of Zhou Yu and Kong Ming is a good testimony. They were all famous heroes of the Three Kingdoms period, and they were resourceful, but Kong Ming was slightly better. Zhou Yu was narrow-minded and jealous of Kong Ming, and Kong Ming was open-minded, so Zhou Yu left a legacy of resentment through the ages.
When Sun and Liu joined forces to resist Cao, the two should work together, but Zhou Yu opposed Kong Ming everywhere and was bent on getting rid of his opponent. Until the last moment of his life, he was always jealous of Kong Ming, shouting three times, "Both Shengyu, He Shengliang"! before dying with jealousy.
Cao Pi, who was also in the Three Kingdoms period, was also jealous of Cao Zhi's talent, and forced Cao Zhi to make a poem within seven steps, and as a result, he made a famous poem through the ages, but he was infamous through the ages.
The amount of Gong Jin is narrow, and it is self-defeating". This is the best evaluation of Zhou Yu; "This is born from the same root, why is it too anxious to fry each other" is the true portrayal of Cao Pi. It is the bane of jealousy, if they are not jealous, but humbly learn from others, they will not leave this infamy through the ages.
Contradictions are always opposites, and when things are not bad, there are naturally good times.
Zou Ji of the Warring States period is more beautiful than Xu Gong, and he still thinks that Xu Gong is more beautiful, but he is not jealous. Concerned about state affairs, he thought that the emperor and his wife, concubines and guests were the same to him in the world today, and he became a politician. Heroes should be sympathetic, not intrigued.
Shuya recognized Guan Zhong's talent, so he recommended him to be an official, so that Guan Zhong's talent could be useful, so he left a good story of "Buya recommends Guan Zhong, and there is a good reputation".
The reality is fair, there are always people who are good and there are not good ones. When a gentleman sees the success of others, he should sincerely congratulate them, rather than secretly intriguing with them. Jealousy is a stumbling block in life.
I finally understood that there were so many hermits in ancient China, that is, the state was afraid of being jealous of others and bringing unnecessary trouble. That's why the bridge of social development is erected so slowly.
Zhou Yu and Cao Pi are the best witnesses of the jealous, but Zou Ji and Shuya have left good stories through the ages, so the jealous are really a big evil. If there were less jealousy in today's society and more people working hard for the cause of national construction, we would not have to worry about the country's failure to develop. Only by eliminating jealousy can society progress.
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Instead of being jealous of others, it is better to use your own efforts to surpass others.
The psychology of jealousy is something that everyone cannot control. People are often jealous of others because they are better than themselves, and always think: I am the best to do, why is he so easy to surpass me?
This bad psychology not only affects our learning, but also causes us to lose our minds and thus envy others.
I remember one time in a Chinese exam, I didn't score more than 95 points, and after my grandfather saw my results, he sternly said, why didn't I get 95 points, but I said disapprerovingly: I have tried my best! Grandpa asked
How many points did Ren Yushuo in your class (because Ren Yushuo's father is also a middle school teacher, so his grandfather always compares him to him every time he takes an exam)? I replied absentmindedly: I scored 3 points more than me.
When my grandfather heard this, he said to me solemnly: "It seems that you are still not as good as Ren Yushuo!" You still need to work hard!
After hearing my grandfather's words, my brows couldn't help frowning, and I thought silently in my heart: Next time I will definitely surpass Ren Yushuo, hum!
But in several consecutive exams, I have not taken Ren Yushuo, and every time there is always a difference of 2-3 points, after a long time, the seed of jealousy in my heart finally took root and sprouted. When I usually see Ren Yushuo, I always look at him with strange eyes, and I always think that he always can't get along with himself and deliberately embarrass me.
During a recess activity, I accidentally saw Ren Yushuo writing something, so I quietly leaned over to take a look and found that the paper was densely filled with practice questions. I couldn't help but realize that he was working harder than me! So in the next few weeks, I studied more seriously than usual.
A belief supports me, only by working harder than usual can I be able to surpass Ren Yushuo. After my unremitting efforts, in the final exam, I played unconventionally, I finally surpassed Ren Yushuo by 1 point, don't underestimate this 1 point, it is not easy to come by! I worked a lot to get it.
This experience taught me a truth: "Instead of being jealous of others, it is better to calm down and think about how to study hard to surpass others." ”
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Say goodbye to jealousy.
Students, do you know the story of Pang Juan, who was jealous of Sun Bin, who was killed in the Battle of Maling, and laughed at the world? Do you know that Zhou Yu in "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" was angry to death because he was jealous of the clever Zhuge Liang? Do you know that Wang Lun, a white-clothed talent in "Water Margin", couldn't tolerate a talent who was smarter than himself, and died under Lin Chong's knife?
Indeed, the envious person begins with harming others and ends with harming himself. This sentence is very applicable to both ancient and modern people. Not long ago, I saw a report that illustrated this truth.
The report says this: There is a student named Tang Jun at a university in Shandong. His grades have always been very good, and he is the best in his studies, and just when he is fluttering, others have quietly caught up with him.
At this time, he should have caught up, but unfortunately he did not wake up, but instead developed a stronger and stronger jealousy, and could not allow others to surpass him. An evil thought germinated in his head, and he decided to "take revenge" on others and prevent others from getting good grades. At first, he just peeked and stole other people's books.
While others were looking for it, he gloated on the sidelines. Later, his mind became more and more cranky, and he even destroyed other people's normal studies, set fire to other people's clothes, and was finally found and sent to the court.
Students, I don't know how you feel after hearing this story. My feeling is: if this college student Tang Jun can overcome his jealousy, compete with others in a friendly race, and work hand in hand with others, then the outcome will be completely different, you say, right?
I think that some of the students in our class secretly study hard at home before starting, but at school they pretend that they don't care about the exam. If you don't listen to the teacher's lecture in class, you interfere with others listening to the class, and you know it yourself, and you don't let others listen to the class. If he has a little good study material, he refuses to lend it to others, let alone help his classmates who are poor in learning, and he is afraid that others will be better than him, which is actually a kind of jealousy.
Jealousy is everywhere in life. For example, when you see your neighbor's life getting better and better, and your own house always stays at the original level, you will have a strange feeling in your heart. Seeing that the students are getting better and better at learning, always praised by the teacher, and praised by the students, there will be a sour taste in the heart, and even personal attacks and false accusations against them.
This "weird feeling" and "sour taste" is jealousy or something akin to jealousy.
In fact, if we really value the substance of things rather than the appearance of success, then we don't need to be jealous of the success of those who are not as good as ourselves, because they have nothing to offer; We should not be jealous of the success of those who are better than ourselves, because he is powerful. In short, there is no need for us to be jealous.
Students, let's say "Bye-bye!" to jealousy!
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