How are today s children like this, what is wrong with today s children

Children are also human beings.

If you are human, you have to fall in love.

And it's adolescent children.

There's nothing either.

As long as nothing happens.

Influenced by the Korean drama Puppy Love Style, alas! Looks like we're falling behind!

Times are evolving.

Society is progressing.

Children's minds are becoming more mature.

Who is still 15 years old now is subject to discrimination!

It should be, society is developing, and today's children are too precocious.

Speechless !! The social climate is like this!! Sorrowful!!

It's super progressive, there are already gangs in junior high school, and some people in the fifth and sixth grades of elementary school have girlfriends.

It doesn't affect grades, but it does affect family planning.

When they got to college, the girls ran away with the big money, so forgive them for making the first move, at least they lived together for the sake of more pure emotions.

Today's children are psychologically more complex than those of the past.

1. Thinking is more critical: In the past, children did not dare to disobey their parents, but now children, if you say a word, he has ten sentences waiting for you, they have their own thoughts, is what their parents say is really like that? He is skeptical in his heart, and if you are patient, it is best to make your own statements reasonable, otherwise, it will be difficult for the child to convince you from the heart.

2. Stronger sense of power and equality: Today's children have a faster development of their abilities in all aspects, and they will strive to fight for what they want, and once they are treated unequally, they will raise objections in their own way.

When children raise objections to the views of their elders, we parents should ask a few more whys; When a child puts forward his or her own opinion on a phenomenon in school or society, we should encourage him to think and support him to express his opinion. Learning knowledge is not the only thing, selectively engaging with social knowledge is also a kind of growth.

Second, today's children are not as independent as the children of the past.

With the improvement of the economic level, the living conditions are getting better and better, and the things that parents give their children at the material level are becoming more and more abundant, as long as they are not too demanding, the children can basically meet what they want.

In daily life, children's studies are heavier, and parents rarely deliberately let their children engage in housework, unlike the previous children, who went up and down the mountains and fields early for the livelihood of the family, and were able to do a lot of farm work, especially in families with more than two children, and the children were sensible early.

Today's children have a higher starting point, material life and educational resources have a better guarantee, because of this, parents can not ignore their independence, can start from the small environment of the family, and slowly let the child take on some responsibilities, little by little let the child solve the problems of life independently, rather than all the work, after all, after the future to the society, no matter how smart the child must live independently.

Some time ago, it was reported on the Internet that a student at North University of China committed suicide by jumping off a building because he was found by a teacher for cheating in an exam.

This kind of thing happens every once in a while, and there are elementary school students, middle school students, and college students, and they are getting younger and younger.

I really can't figure it out, what is wrong with today's children?

Today's children, if they are slightly wronged, they can't stand it anymore, and they have no ability to resist frustration, so that teachers dare not speak, parents dare not scold, and they are carefully maintaining their poor self-esteem. If you are a little careless, you will use suicide to repay your teachers and parents.

Parents for the sake of their children, exhausted, willing to endure more hardships, always want to leave the best to their children, but some children do not know how to be grateful, they are extremely selfish, never consider the feelings of their parents, a little grievance, choose to commit suicide, they never thought about their own move, bring their parents endless sadness, never think about how much effort their parents have paid to cultivate them.

For the sake of the children, the teacher carefully prepares the lesson, collects a lot of relevant knowledge, just to make the children sound more interesting, and has to do a lot of preparation work after class, in order to keep the children from doing nothing in the future, the teacher will nag and supervise, and the children mistakenly think that this is a kind of punishment from the teacher.

When the child is not feeling well, the parents will be worried, the child will encounter obstacles in the learning process, the parents will find a way to help them solve it, the child is anxious, the parents will be anxious, but when the parents have these conditions, how much can the child feel?

Our children have been born in honey pots and grown up in greenhouses, and they are weak to the wind, let alone experienced wind and rain.

The child's heart is becoming more and more fragile, is this a failure of education? Or is it a product of social progress?

What the hell is wrong with today's children?

With the development of the 5G era, many people are pursuing wealth, but they ignore the most important wealth in the family, their children. Too many parents leave their homes, leaving their children with the elderly. The disadvantages of intergenerational parenting leave more children in a state of spoiling.

Habitual children are like killing children, and many children nowadays have no values of their own at all. Selfish, so that they do not think in the shoes of others. I feel that my parents do what they should do, do whatever they want, and only fulfill their rights and keep asking for them, but they don't fulfill their obligations.

One: Don't study seriously.

Learning is no longer my own thing, but I feel that it is for parents and teachers to learn. Without his own sense of learning, without parents and teachers to accompany him to study, he is willing to learn a little bit, and sometimes he does not study seriously.

I don't know if I talk about my dreams, I don't have ideas when I talk about them, and I don't know what kind of person I want to become. It's really a situation where you don't know what to ask and don't know.

2. Disrespect for teachers.

With the end of the midterm exams. The teachers of all subjects were rather restless, and there was a tense atmosphere in the whole office. Looking at the students' scores, the teachers were anxious and angry, and there were all kinds of situations when the exam went out.

Student A actually wrote a lot of swear words on the answer sheet of the exam and insulted the teacher. It doesn't matter if you don't write the question card, you even write some words that make you angry. The teacher asked the parents to come to the office, but the parents couldn't see the quality of their children.

What words do children who are still covering up their children who are still young and in junior high school not understand? Looking at it, even the teacher called him, and he even told the child directly, you will talk like this, don't go to school.

If the child is at fault, he does not let the child admit his mistake, and he is still blindly wrapping the child. Cover up such children to go to society. How to assume social responsibility? Do you really have to wait for his child to hurt someone before the parents can wake up?

Three: Addicted to video games.

A lot of kids are addicted to online games. There is no concept of time when playing online games, and you can play the game overnight or for hours. Even if you read garbage articles or ** with no nutritional value on the Internet, you don't have the ability to filter yourself!

No amount of money earned can keep up with the failure of educating children, and children have no ability to be independent. We have been raising children for 18 years, just to pave the way for our children to let go of themselves in the future, so that they can have their own values and awareness. If a child's character is not repaired, how can he be a valuable person to society?

Tell us why adults spoil their children. One of the most important reasons is that parents love their external projections. I often hear a lot of parents sigh from the bottom of their hearts, "I can't let my child suffer like this anymore", and then spoil their child without any principles.

Such parents are usually poor when they were young, or they were disciplined very strictly, so after they had children, they went from one extreme to the other.

From a psychological point of view, the "child" in their mouth not only refers to their own children, but also includes the "inner child" hidden in their hearts.

According to a well-known psychologist, "There are two 'I's' hidden in everyone's heart. One is the 'inner parent', which is our internalization of our own real parents and our ideal parents, and when we are parents, this 'inner parent' is ourselves.

The other is the 'inner child', which consists of our memories of our childhood experiences and the internalization of our ideal childhood. ”

In other words, this type of parent treats the child as another self, and unconditional love for the child is unconditional love for themselves.

The second reason is the expression of repressed love. I don't know if you have noticed, in Western society, it is rare to hear parents doting on their children, they train their children to do housework within their ability from an early age, go out to work, and encourage children to leave the family at the age of eighteen ......But in China, this kind of coddling is particularly common. This is actually a kind of social and cultural difference, Western society respects human nature more and pays attention to "self-love", while Chinese social culture emphasizes more on the "great love" of "loving others".

In this context, part of our "love for ourselves" is suppressed, and children become the best objects of expression.