Is he a good guy? Can you really be friends after a breakup?

I'm done. I feel a little pierced in my heart.

What a similar scene.

Man, alas. Let me tell you my story.

Just last week, one day QQ avatar flashed earth-shatteringly.

Open, déjà vu number: "Do you still hate me?" ”

I thought for a moment and replied: Who are you?

The other party didn't, and the avatar quickly dimmed.

I know who he is, my ex-boyfriend.

He expected that I would never be able to let go of our relationship for the rest of my life.

Thinking that I am the flowering tree that I planted in the place where he must pass, I will always wait for him to visit again.

He's really a self-righteous guy. Maybe it's my fault and I shouldn't have given him such an illusion.

When we first broke up, we still had a faint connection with each other.

I'd abruptly interrupt what I was doing to turn on the computer, just because I felt like he was on the other side of the computer.

I will say good night to him at night, so that I can sleep peacefully.

He would sometimes contact me to reminisce about the happiness we had and say that I was a good girl.

We even met twice, and he hugged me like he had done before, and I didn't say no.

I thought we would reconcile.

It wasn't until a friend told me that he was pursuing another girl that I woke up from a dream.

When a man says a breakup, it takes effect after he says the word "break up".

Women often stubbornly believe that the real breakup is after both partners have found a new lover.

The name of love is gone, but feelings cannot dissolve in an instant.

We procrastinate, hesitantly picking up discarded things and picking them up in the hope that they are still brand new or that they can be used for other purposes.

In fact, most of the time, it just takes up our space and upsets us.

I changed my phone number and kicked him out of my QQ.

When I did this, I realized how ridiculous I was.

He went home, probably because his parents didn't approve of him marrying someone older than him. He's all determined to break up, and I don't think you need to keep him. Feelings were originally a matter of two people, but now he withdraws, and you are singing a one-man show alone. There will be no ending.

I don't know if it's a good guy or not, but it won't be a good man. Playing with feelings? He has loved you, but not to the point of loving you very much, and not so much that he is willing to give up everything for you. So he can't stand these tests.

You'd better let it go. so that you have the opportunity to find someone who loves you better and is willing to give up all for you.

Maybe it's true, as your friend said, maybe he accepted you because he was lonely; The age difference between you forms a more or less pressure on him, which can also be said to be a heart knot, you can try to be friends with him, but if you don't like to hear it, it is unlikely that you will continue, because the knot in his heart cannot be untied, even if you force yourself to be together, you may not be happy. He may be a good person, try to be a good friend, and it's not bad to make a blue-faced confidante with his heart!

Haven't you heard the song "Goodbye is also a friend"?

Whether or not you can become good friends after a breakup depends on the specific situation and the wishes of both parties. While some couples are able to maintain a friendly relationship after a breakup, for others, maintaining a friendship can be challenging. Here are some factors to consider:

Relationship processing: After a breakup, it takes time for both partners to process their emotions and hurts. If both partners are unable to properly handle their emotions, it can lead to distress and instability in the friendship relationship.

Mutual respect and understanding: Being good friends requires mutual respect and understanding of each other's decisions and feelings. If the breakup is due to an argument, betrayal, or other injury, it may affect the trust and friendship between the parties.

Relationship with a new late lead: If one of the partners starts a new relationship, it can have an impact on the friendship. The new partner may be uncomfortable with both parties remaining intimate and need to consider the feelings and boundaries of all parties.

Personal growth and development: After separation, both parties may move in different directions, with new interests, goals, and lifestyles. This can lead to less common ground between the two parties, which can affect the maintenance of the friendship.

If you're looking to maintain a friendship with your ex, here are some suggestions:

Give each other time and space: After a breakup, both partners need time to think and process emotions on their feet. Give each other some time and space for both parties to gradually accept and adjust.

Open communication: Communicate openly with your ex, express your thoughts and feelings, and listen to the other person's opinions and needs. Establish a foundation of mutual understanding and respect.

Set boundaries: In maintaining a friendship, both parties need to set clear boundaries to avoid touching each other's sensitive points and causing unnecessary conflicts.

Accept reality: Sometimes, friendship may not be the best option. If a friendship relationship is causing you too much pain, distress, or hindering your personal growth, consider letting go and finding a new support system.

The most important thing is to make a decision that is right for you based on your feelings and situation. Whether you choose to maintain friendship or keep your distance, respect your feelings and needs.

Zhang Ailing once said: "There are only two possibilities to be friends after breaking up, one is that two people have never really loved, and the other is that at least one party is willing to pay for each other silently." "In reality, you can still be friends after a breakup, nothing more than these three situations:

Emotions are deep and cannot be parted; The love is not broken, and the lotus root is broken; I've never been in love with Ben.

Social psychology research has shown that both parties to a breakup can only continue to be friends after they agree that they are no longer suitable for a relationship and agree on how they will "be friends" in the future. In the experience of most people who have come before, you can't be friends after a breakup. experienced a relationship, because two people don't get along well, they see too much of each other's bad things when they are in love, and they just want to go their separate ways and not bother each other after breaking up.

What is a breakup? The encyclopedia explains it like this: those who originally meant holding hands are now separated; By extension, it means to sever a relationship.

The metaphor refers to the separation of two lovers or partners who are in love with each other due to abnormal external factors. For example, the breakup of this pair of good friends is something that others do not expect.

Neither man nor woman should give up intimate contact with each other, but this does not mean that they should not associate as ordinary friends. The essence of a breakup is the transformation of private boundaries, which are the norms and restrictions used to define "how others should treat you". Whether two people are lovers, friends, or something else is actually determined by the boundary.

The boundaries between lovers are close and thin, and even to a certain extent merge with each other; And the boundaries between friends will be harder, and the distance from each other will be greater. In other words, the key to whether you can be friends after a breakup lies in whether both parties can maintain appropriate boundaries and respect each other's new boundaries.

According to the survey, one-third of Facebook users check their ex's page, and half of those who say yes admit that they go to their social pages to find their ex and their new love**. However, studies have shown that the behavior of checking the other person's social page will hinder the emotional recovery after a breakup more than calling and messaging the other party. My friend Xiao A completely belongs to the above situation, after the breakup, he still pays attention to his ex's various social platforms, even obtains information from his friends, and tries various ways to contact his ex, even if the other party refuses and can't go back to the past, he still insists on being by the other party's side as a friend.

I think the "friend" in Xiao A's mouth is more of a blind silent giving, based on the previous emotional foundation is impossible to be an ordinary friend, rather than such a "friend" as an excuse entanglement, trying to find opportunities for yourself, it is not as natural as an ordinary friend.

Hello dear, whether you can become friends after a breakup varies from person to person, depending on the relationship, feelings, and wishes of both parties between you and your ex-boyfriend. If you want to continue to be friends with him, then you need to be clear about your expectations and boundaries for the friendship, and make sure that both parties know what rules and conventions should be followed in the friendship. Friendships may no longer be as close as they used to be to accommodate new situations and forms of relationships.

Please understand this change and work to establish a new balance. Respect each other's feelings and decisions. Sometimes, even if you wish to be friends, it may take more time to process emotions or need to keep your distance.

Respecting each other's boundaries is the foundation of a healthy friendship.

I hope to adopt Minna!

If you can still be friends after a breakup, then there are two possibilities, first. 1. When two people are together, the relationship is not very deep and real;

Clause. Second, there must be one who is still paying silently for the other party.

Because they have loved each other, they cannot be enemies;

Because they have hurt each other, they can also become friends, but they can only be familiar strangers.

If you have ever loved this person deeply, he was once an inseparable part of your life, then how to switch roles to see him as a friend casually? This is probably difficult for most people to do.

If it is said that after a breakup, they will keep in touch, it can only mean that one party has not really let go of the other party, and he is not willing to completely disappear from the other party's life, so he will find all kinds of seemingly high-sounding reasons to approach the other party. However, ask yourself, if you have really loved each other, if he is really sorry for you, can he really be friends? No, because the reality is cruel and not as colorful as we think.

Suppose both parties have a new love after breaking up, but you are still friends with your old love, what does the new lover think. Who doesn't think you're disconnected from your old love? The new love must be dissatisfied, and he is even more afraid of creating a diagonal relationship in the pulling and pulling.

Although there are some examples of peace and quiet, these stories are inevitably a little embarrassing to hear. When you see your old lover, how can you forget the days you have walked with him through thick and thin? Unless it has not been unforgettable.

Looking at your former lover, kissing me and me with others, and happily, is your heart really so balanced? All human beings are dignified, so why bother to suffer for themselves? It's better to get out of the sea of suffering as soon as possible, seal it in your heart, miss it, or throw it away and live your life again!

Whether couples can be friends after a breakup needs to be decided according to the situation at the time of the breakup. 1.The relationship between the two is stiff 2Peaceful separation.

It takes courage to accept a breakup, and having the courage to accept the fact cannot be delayed!

You can't be friends after a breakup because you've hurt each other. You can't be enemies after a breakup, because you have loved each other.

So you can only do the most familiar stranger ......After breaking up, don't be friends again, if you can still be friends, it can only mean that you haven't loved deeply. If it's a friend, it needs care, and if that's the case, then why choose to break up? A relationship, a journey, a journey together, too much joy and touching, too much helplessness, heartache, from true love to hurt each other, to the moment of breakup, can you still be friends?

If you can, you must not have really loved, or it is the result of a person's grievances and desire for perfection, and there is no floodgate in the relationship, and it is not a ...... that can be closed with a pullIt is difficult for two people to love each other at the same time, and it is even harder to not love each other at the same time......There is no love or hatred in the heart, and only when the throbbing in the heart is indifferent can we become friends. Lovers are so close, friends are so far away......If you can't be a lover, maybe he will say that he will be friends, but the car obviously drove away, even if he returns to the original point again, it will be a different time......Different characters, different landscapes. We've already taken a step forward, but how can we measure the same size and go back?

It's better to keep moving forward and keep going ......

Until you meet up again with someone else you can love.

Don't love him her.

Let it go, don't make excuses for your selfishness. Don't keep if you still love her, don't expect her to turn back ......Therefore, when you break up, you can't continue to be friends or enemies, and you can only be the stranger you know most ......

If I really loved you.

Do you feel credible to be friends with you again?

After the heartache, everything is a cloud of smoke.

Dear landlord.

Glad to analyze for you.

I've had your problem before.

Hope it can help the landlord.

If two people are serious, they are really in love

It is absolutely impossible to be friends after a breakup.

If both of them are just having fun

You may also be friends after the breakup

You can't be friends because you've hurt each other, and you can't be enemies because you've loved each other!

It is precisely because of the past vows that it can only be a stranger!

Even if you are friends, you can't be a real friend anymore, and there is a separation in your heart...

If two people have no feelings for each other because of time, maybe they can be friends in a superficial sense!

If one party still has feelings, the party with feelings will want to continue to be friends, but in fact, even friends are spoiled

And if couples break up due to contradictions, betrayals, etc., it will only be strangers!

What if two people become friends?

Look at the people you once loved

And now you don't love each other anymore

Once you are friends, how should you get along with each other, how should you deal with it, that may only remind you of your past.

It only hurts more

It's better to be a stranger

Let time fade everything that once was

Just let it be a rainbow in memory

I wish you happiness

The landlord is welcome to continue to ask.

Please forgive me for any inaccuracies

Looking forward to your adoption !!