Depressed Should this relationship continue or give up?

Personally, I think that things like breaking up can't be said casually, or they can't be said often.

Not only can it not attract the attention of the other party, but it hurts the feelings and pushes each other farther and farther away.

After reading your description, I think maybe there is something wrong with your relationship.

However, the criterion for continuing the relationship should be whether you still have feelings and whether you still want to accompany each other.

Long-distance relationships are indeed difficult.

It is said that you should trust each other, but it is very abrasive for women who are delicate and afraid of losing.

My advice to you is to ask yourself if you want to continue, and if this person is still so important to you? Do you like this person, or do you just miss that feeling of being in love?

If your answer is to continue, tell him all about your mental activity, including your doubts, your worries, and don't hold too much. In my experience, this kind of heart-to-heart communication has a sense of brightness and can raise your relationship to a higher level.

If conditions permit, you can go abroad to see him and give him a surprise.

I'm not an expert on relationships, but I hope you find this helpful.

To keep loving is to keep believing in me.

The most important thing for two people together is trust.

That's gone, so what's the point?

I just hit ** and told Cupid He said that your arrow is still on him and has not been pulled off, so you have to stay with him Then I asked Yue Lao again He said that he took the red rope of your object by mistake I said how can this be done Hurry up and take back the thread Yue Lao is not convinced He said that as long as Cupid pulls out the arrow, then there will be nothing Cupid will not give in and will not give in and say the same thing I said that you can just stop at the same time They said that they don't want to lose their fat difference Cupid said that your marriage road is more bumpy As long as you succeed Then he is the completion of his merits.

Cupid's child's heart is known The old man of the moon is disrespectful to the old I really don't like it The girl is calm I will take my brother to the old man's mansion tomorrow to ask for an explanation I want the old man to take the red rope to you When the time comes, let you hold his nose and lead him wherever he likes to lead him to the sofa to play in the toilet to the balcony thousands of cars and tables to ravage in every way This is to dissipate my anger If the old moon wants you to trouble you again I will take out the arrow I deceived from Cupid and aim at him to see if he can't bear it.

I really don't know how to go a** to talk.

On September 20th, my parents, who were far away from home, drove to my place of work, and the parents and intermediaries had dinner together.

After dinner, I went back to my own house, and I didn't make an appointment with my girlfriend a few times in the middle of the day, saying that there were various reasons, and I was a little angry, and I didn't look for her for the next two days, and she didn't hear from her, and then asked her out to talk about what she thought. In this conversation, I mainly expressed whether she could consider my feelings in the future, and she was cold to me every once in a while, saying that it was difficult to accept. Also ask her what she thinks.

She said that the parents of both sides met and felt that the two of them were going to enter another stage, saying that they had not thought about it and had no plans to get married for two or three years for the time being.

In the next 10 days, she didn't take the initiative to look for me, and she basically ignored her, and she didn't respond when she went out to play. On October 5th, he resolutely mentioned breaking up, on the grounds that the concept of time was inconsistent, the personalities were incompatible, and the two parties didn't like it enough, so they were directly blacked out, and there was no room for recovery.

So far, basically my relatives, friends, classmates and colleagues don't know that I broke up, because the contemptible interpersonal relationship is not bad, and everyone is very concerned about my marriage, and I can't talk about it. My parents don't even know, and every time I go home, I have to pretend that I have a good relationship with my girlfriend. Until yesterday, my father said that the marriage bed at home was bought and installed, and according to the custom of my hometown, I really couldn't hide it, but I didn't know how to say it.

The main worry that I dare not say is that the parents are under too much pressure in their hearts, and they will think that the breakup has a lot to do with them, otherwise how could it happen after my girlfriend met them (I have met my girlfriend's parents many times before).

Personal current state, as long as you go home from work, you are in a very irritable and anxious state, you can't see hope, you will be 31 years old soon, in the countryside of your hometown, you really belong to the older unmarried youth, most of the people of the same age in the same department of the unit are married and have children, and now you only hate your girlfriend, and the pressure of the world wants to enter the next paragraph as soon as possible, but you really feel tired.

1.I don't have the right to make you give up, because if we choose, we have to bear it. For love, we cannot interpret it in terms of right or wrong.

2.Giving up is a kind of understanding of life, the most difficult thing for people is how to learn to give up, giving up is not a simple abandonment and escape, but also not an excuse for a negative life, we can not stop pursuing in life, but we also have to learn to give up. Giving up is a rational choice, a rational cherishing, a transcendent beauty, and a profound love.

3.Every choice is always accompanied by pain, because the choice is lost. In life, we always keep choosing, keep giving up, only give up, we can find the opportunity to truly belong to our own life, only give up we will not miss the person waiting for us at the next intersection, only give up we can get out of the past and no longer indulge, only give up can be painful and happy, in order to live happily.

4.When we can't have or give him or her happiness, or when having it becomes a pain, then why can't we choose to give it up sensibly? Although every choice is accompanied by pain and regret, after experiencing these, we know how to cherish, know how to bear, learn to make trade-offs, understand the true meaning of life, and make our lives more fulfilling.

5.Therefore, I would like to say that only those who know how to give up can truly heal the pain of the past, and only those who feel the pain can have true happiness. Pain and regret make us feel more deeply about life.

If you and I are destined to have no chance in this life, if you are destined to be a hurried passerby, then please let us learn to let go of each other and know how to cherish it.

It's just in a split second. I gave up at that moment, because I realized that I was too entangled in doing this, and it was also difficult for me, so I might as well choose to let go. In fact, if you can do the following three things, you can really give up.

1. Don't contact him anymore.

One of the main reasons why many people can't let go is that they still want to be friends with each other after a breakup, so they repeatedly contact each other beyond the scope of friends, if the other party replies, she will be very happy, if the other party does not reply, she will be sad, this is not the state after the breakup at all.

Since you have chosen to break up, it must be that there is a problem with the personal relationship between the two Jane Zaoyan, although I am very reluctant, but I also have to admit that you are no longer suitable for being together, so you chose to separate, since this is the case, then you should accept the reality.

It is very unwise to keep pestering the other person after a breakup, and constantly contacting the other person, which will only make you rekindle your hope, feel that you have made the wrong choice, and want to go back to the past. The first step if you want to let go is not to give yourself such extravagant hopes, don't feel that there is still hope, if necessary, delete and block can be used, don't feel reluctant.

2. Don't meet each other again.

There are also some people who will always find opportunities to meet each other, such as a gathering of mutual friends, such as on the occasion of meeting him, you will have a secret joy in your heart, but what if you see him? It's just an extra layer of heartache.

has separated, you have to be clear about the relationship between the two people now, you are the most familiar stranger, don't expect the two people to have other relationships, let alone expect him to become friends with you, it's good to simply be a stranger.

Maybe you have forgotten it in your heart, but because you have met once and all your efforts have been lost, you will feel that he has a cold attitude, or that he has not loved you, in short, it is cranky, which will only make you miserable, why bother? If you break up, don't think about meeting him anymore, but also try to avoid meeting him, the appearance of Yanshou will not let you evoke the beauty of the past, but will make you evoke the pain of the time, this is the so-called "the more beautiful the past, the more cruel the reality." ”

3. No longer think about his good.

It may be human instinct to miss the past, especially when two people are separated, you will only think of the good things in the past, the good things he did to you, but ignore the quarrels that broke up with you, and the bad things he did to you. Sometimes you will infinitely magnify his kindness to you, and you will also reflect on whether you are not good enough, you will feel that everything is your fault, if it were not for you, this relationship would not have come to this point.