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Choose your favorite. I'm pretty much the same, my boyfriend and I have to work together, but my family can afford to introduce me to someone in society. But I believe in my own vision, I believe in my feelings, I believe that I can support myself, and I believe that I want to be happy, so I chose my classmates.
The family can only give advice, and the ultimate happiness depends on their own choice. Material things don't mean everything, even if you are poor, if you are happy, you are very happy when you are poor.
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The question is who do you like? Then listen to the most sincere voice in your heart to choose! After all, there are many opportunities to find a good job on your own. But love....
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money, nothing to earn; As long as you don't give up together, life will always get better.
When choosing a man, you must choose one that is good for you and what you like.
You're a smart girl, you should know how to choose.
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It depends on whether you love him or not, don't add external weight to your love and marriage, otherwise it will be you who will be fooled in the end. Don't get married for the sake of getting married, it must be that you are ready to live with him, and the bitterness and joy will be shared with him, so that your marriage will be happy, believe me, I came from your age, and my current failed marriage is your best reference.
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I'll pick the second one!
I'm married now, and it's because I didn't consider your practical problems at the time that I chose the first one in your mouth, so life is very difficult now!
It is really practical for two people to live together, and they must consider things such as: firewood, rice, oil, and salt!
If I had another chance, I wouldn't have chosen him now.
I really hope you will be happy ......
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Just choose the one you like, if I pick the first one!! ~
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Marriage is a major event in life, and there is a big difference between falling in love and falling in love. If you choose a marriage partner, you must think carefully about it, and choose a girl with a gentle personality and ordinary appearance, but sincere, kind, enthusiastic, clean, diligent, knows how to clean up housework, and has financial management ability. This will keep everything in the house in order.
And I can feel it when I get home from work, which is very comfortable. <>
Personality is one of the most important factors, if two people are very short-tempered, then it is likely that they will fight if they don't agree. Even if the three mountains regret a small quarrel every day, and a big quarrel in five days, this kind of behavior will also hurt feelings very much. So be sure to find a girl with a gentle personality as the other half.
Because most of the girls with gentle personalities are very sensible, and they also know how to observe words and feelings, they will always think of the things they think of, and they can also do a good job of making fun of this serious logistics work. <>
It doesn't require good looks, it's particularly exquisite, but as long as it's pleasing to the eye. Because many boys, when they fall in love, in order to save face for themselves, they will choose a very good-looking girl as the object, which can not only satisfy the so-called vanity, but also make themselves look very happy. But getting married, just being pretty is useless, as if it's just a vase.
Being beautiful also comes at the cost of money, and it is not suitable for life. In addition, girls who are too good-looking are more active in their minds, and they are also very worried when they are placed at home. In the long run, my heart will also be tired.
And be sure to choose a girl who loves to be clean and not sloppy. If both of them are very lazy, then the family may be unbearable and there is no way to get started. A girl who can clean up the housework can also be said to be in the hall and in the kitchen.
After all, living in a clean environment is not only good for health, but also good for the mood. It is necessary to have the ability to manage money, so that women can be in charge of the finances, and they can also make money for the money earned by the other half.
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I will choose a girl who is particularly gentle, kind, generous, family-oriented, and filial as a marriage partner; Because I think that such a girl will live a very good life, and she can take care of the family in an orderly manner.
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I should choose a very self-motivated, optimistic, cheerful, and gentle girl to marry, because such a girl can satisfy her emotions.
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I will choose a girl who is very assertive and kind as a marriage partner, so that the two of them can support each other.
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will choose the right opportunity and the right person to get married, rather than getting married hastily because the people around you are married.
The following points are also important.
Clause. First, the three views are very important.
A person's three views are directly linked to his spiritual world, so if your spiritual world can't be the right one, then your three views may be difficult to agree, two people with different views live together, it is very tiring, and marriage will naturally be useless after a long time.
Clause. 2. Life goals.
In marriage, the husband and wife will be able to achieve long-term harmony if they have the same life goals, but if the husband and wife are inconsistent in spirit and ideas, then it will directly affect the goals and structure of the marriage.
Therefore, many people do not care about the family background and family background when they get married, thinking that as long as they have feelings, they can overcome the habits brought by these original families.
Clause. 3. Common language.
The most direct manifestation of the spiritual level is whether there is a common language, you are talking to him about the world political situation, but he replies to you trivial, like a chicken and a duck talking, you can never find a topic to chat with, slowly you will be alienated, and the spiritual world will feel very lonely.
Fourth, learn to be understanding others, which is often as difficult to do as demanding of yourself. We are always trying our best to find each other's faults, always feel that the other party can't get along with me, always feel that anyone is making enemies of me, there are many things that are unintentional, but there are those who are cautious and always have to sit in the right seat and find troubles.
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1. The three views are the same or similar.
The so-called three views are values, outlook on life, and world outlook. When you choose a marriage partner, you must think clearly, when you fall in love, you and the other party may appropriately "cover" your disadvantages, so as to magnify your advantages. So once you get married, all habits, even bad habits, will appear, and then you will know that the other party's three views are not compatible with yourself, I'm afraid it's too late.
Therefore, when choosing a marriage partner, everyone should try to have a certain degree of understanding of each other in all aspects. From the small aspect of performance, extend the other party's life attitude, choose the same or similar person with your own three views, then there will be a lot of convenience in living together in the future.
2. Be humble in your dealings with others.
When choosing a marriage partner, you can see the character advantages of the other party from every bit of life. When they first come into contact, the two sides may still be "restrained", and they will show a more civilized and polite side when dealing with others. But as you spend too much time together, the personalities between the two parties will gradually expand.
Maybe a little thing can lead to a quarrel. From these aspects, you can see the other person's attitude towards others, whether they respect their elders and are humble as you think.
3. Have a positive and motivated heart.
No matter whether the person in the future will become your wife or husband, she should have a positive heart. This positivity is not only at work, but also in life and attitude towards the future. Holding hands and looking at each other, it turns out that we are like-minded people, and that kind of marriage could not be better.
If you have a positive and self-motivated heart, then when doing anything, the other party is not very likely to give up easily. Coupled with your support and encouragement, this marriage partner will become very "valuable".
Fourth, the wish to go down with you.
No matter how good the conditions are, no matter how similar the three views are, the other party needs to have a desire to go on with you. Choose your marriage partner wisely, and choose the person who wants to live and go on with you. In life, disputes and quarrels are inevitable, but if the other party is the one who will not leave you no matter how much they quarrel, then your future life will be very rich.
Choosing a marriage partner rationally is not only a responsibility to yourself, but also a responsibility to the other party. The married life of each other is indispensable to the troubles of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, and the rational choice of marriage partners, then these small problems in life will become the "additives" of your sweet happiness.
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1.The three views are the same.
Since ancient times, there has been a saying that both parties to a marriage should pay attention to "the right person".
Although for modern people, the difference in the door cannot hinder the choice of marriage, but on closer consideration, it is actually not unreasonable.
Because it is not the self-esteem of some people, but represents a very important point in marriage, that is, the three views are the same.
Here's a simple example:
One side is an ordinary person, the other side is a multimillionaire, and there is a huge gap between the consumption of the two sides, not to mention whether the world view and life outlook are the same, there is a gap in values alone.
Although it cannot be said that the marriage of the two will not be happy, if they want to integrate into each other's lives, they need to constantly adapt and work hard, but it is certain.
And the difficulty in it, I think only the person concerned can understand.
And even if they don't care about the right match, the two must check whether each other's three views are consistent before marriage.
The specific way is to observe the other person's way of dealing with the world and whether the view of things is consistent with or approved with oneself.
The consistent three views will make the two people after marriage get along more harmoniously, reduce many factors that cause conflicts, and thus get closer to happiness.
The love between Li Yinhe and Wang Xiaobo was envied by many people, and they used letters to exchange feelings, so that the feelings of the two people warmed up.
And having a common view of things makes each other appreciate each other, which makes the love story of the two people.
Therefore, the consistent three views are one of the concerns of premarital choice.
2.To choose a person is to choose a lifestyle.
Actually, for love, many people simply think:
As long as you love each other, you can ignore anything. For the sake of love, it is possible to do whatever it takes.
So, before getting married, many people don't think about it:
Choosing a person is actually a matter of choosing a way of life.
What does it mean to choose a person is to choose a lifestyle? In fact, it is you with him, what kind of life he can give you, and what kind of life you can live.
For example, some people pay great attention to the sense of purpose in life, which means that she hopes to be positive, directional, and head-forward in the future.
But the person she loves is willing to live a plain life, that is, there is no goal and is satisfied with the status quo.
If such two people enter into marriage, it is easy to fall into exhaustion after marriage.
Because the motivated party will feel that the other party is too content with the status quo and is not motivated. And the other party feels that the other party is too capable of tossing, why is a good life so tiring.
If they all understand the saying "choosing a person is choosing a lifestyle" before they get married, they may be more rational about marriage.
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As a person who has come over from Bensi, there are some big truths, maybe the people around you will not tell you.
But I want to tell you a life-saving piece of advice from the bottom of my heart:
It's not about how much money there is, how long it is.
What is this suggestion, that is: look at the mental maturity of this man.
Mental maturity, how to look at it?
Look at things when you encounter them.
When encountering something difficult and difficult to solve, or a career trough, what is his first reaction?
It is to put the blame on you, cold war, complaining, blaming.
Or can he be very calm with you and solve the problem together.
Summed up in one sentence: only when you encounter something can you see people's hearts.
You don't have to look at anything else, you just look at this, you can basically see the level of his mind, whether he is a giant baby or a real man.
In addition, you can also predict what kind of life you will live after marriage.
Many people are very tired in marriage and would rather live alone by themselves, but it is not a problem of marriage, but the lack of ability to resolve emotions and deal with family relationships.
You say, we don't seem to have encountered anything, I really don't know what to think.
It doesn't matter, the following is what I spent 2 days and carefully sorted out 10 must-see standards for talking about marriage.
After reading it, you will know how to target potential stocks among many choices and start a happy married life.
I've thought about it for the past few days, it's been 10 years since I graduated from college, and you said that my biggest progress in the past few years is really not anywhere else, but from the perspective of men.
From the earliest time to spend money on scumbags, I was confused when I was split, and now the other half thinks about everything for me, and I can make money very much.
The following 10 points are a summary of my blood and tears, the content is a bit long, it is recommended to spend seconds liking and collecting, in case you want to see it, you can't find it
1. When talking about marriage, you must find the other half who is the right person with the same three views.
In these three views, the ability to resolve emotions is particularly important, I have opened a store and been a small boss since graduation, and I have returned to the workplace as a department director, 10 years, I have a very big feeling:
As the saying goes: the poor make treacherous schemes, and the rich grow conscience. I don't think it's the most terrible thing to have no money, it's the most terrible thing to be poor on the basis of having big emotions and extreme personalities.
Girls with good family conditions should marry cautiously, if you must marry, please be rational to see the mental maturity of the other party, especially whether the personality is extreme.
2. Don't be afraid of ordinary income, but you can't be lazy.
Therefore, when many people talk about marriage, the man's income is very ordinary, it doesn't matter, don't bully the poor teenager.
You must see whether he is focused, and focus represents the potential of his career.
Whether he is emotionally stable, stable emotions represent his ability to calmly find solutions when encountering difficulties, and the ability to deal with interpersonal relationships in his career, rather than being irritable and cold.
With such a person, there will be less internal friction between the two of you.
After marriage, the less consumption and friction you have, the more energy and energy the two will have to do their careers, manage their networks, and achieve higher achievements.
In fact, if you want to find potential stocks, you are usually good at discovering his logic of dealing with people, which can be seen in his 20s.
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