I love to speak ill of others, and I don t have popularity! What to do?

Learn to look at the good in others. This kind of thing has happened to many people, or you can empathize with it, if others also say bad things about you behind your back, you will definitely be unhappy or even sad, right? If this person is still your good friend, then you must feel very uncomfortable.

But then you think about it, if you keep saying bad things about others like this, sooner or later you will have no friends. Besides, now that you know that your popularity is not good, you need to pay more attention. If you really can't do it, go to a psychiatrist, rest assured, there is nothing to be embarrassed about, the doctor will help you.

Good luck soon. **？

Change your perception of others from the psychology Don't be mean to others.

When others feel that you are genuinely communicating with him, they will naturally like to be friends with you, and when they face friends, they will say more other things, they can't always gossip, they must learn to appreciate others from their hearts, even if that person is not good, they can't say bad things to others, which is not good for themselves.

It's a lot of trouble anyway, and some people just hate it, but you just can't say it.

Even if you don't like someone a lot, it's good to have less contact with them, and don't tell people that they're bad.

And it's important to be sure of what kind of person you want to make friends with If you make a good friend, you must not betray him Now people are very prickly Betraying him will be remembered for the rest of his life But someone can forgive me I appreciate this kind of person more.

And it's better not to make friends with people you don't like, it won't end well.

I haven't thought of anything else, but for the landlord, the most important thing is to say less bad things about others, and hold it if you can.

I hate this kind of person.

If you want to change what's simple, talk less and listen as much as you can.

It's as simple as that, do you believe it, you 44 look at it in a month, listen to others more, give her a smile, talk less, you just nod and smile.

Is it a simple thing in a few months your friends will definitely say that you have changed.

Good luck with your transformation.

Learn to speak ill of yourself and apply what you want others to say to yourself.

Think differently, what would you think if someone did something to your face and behind your back?

Of course you can't do that, you have to change it.

Why don't you correct your shortcomings when you know them? In the past, those shortcomings have caused you to lose a lot, now that you know it, you should pay attention to it, and you should correct it immediately You can also empathize, if others say bad things about you behind your back and hurt you, what will happen to you? Wouldn't you be angry?

Will you ignore the person who hurt you?

Say a lot of good things behind others' backs, say some advantages (not to say flattery, sycophants) firmly believe that these people will hear, treat people sincerely, popularity, and it will get better If you really can't say good things, then the best thing is that you don't say anything, don't comment on a person casually.

I'm not a professional either, I just say my opinion, hehe I hope the landlord can change his shortcomings and have good popularity!

I never speak ill of people. Still unpopular. I cried.

You already know why you're unpopular

Then you should know what to do.

Now that you've found the root of the disease, why can't you prescribe the right medicine? Just don't speak ill of others.

Dear, I'm glad you realized that this is a problem. In fact, it is addictive to speak ill of others, and luckily you brought it up to show that you want to change this bad habit. We all know that misfortune comes from the mouth, which means that an important letter that speaks with a mouth, and no words from our mouth are a side reflection of our character.

People don't talk about anyone behind their backs, they mainly listen.

Discover more about other people's strengths, and when you want to talk about their shortcomings, think about their strengths first.

Avoid people who like to gossip, and the environment can sometimes have a big impact on us.

Too fond of saying bad things about others, is it aimed at one person or everyone?

If it is against one person.

First, maybe you are jealous of her in your heart.

Second, maybe some of her actions are not in line with your three views, and they are not pleasing to the eye.

Third, it makes things difficult for you at work or in life, and makes you unhappy.

If it's for everyone.

You should see a psychiatrist, or read more books on the psychiatrist.

You should try to avoid speaking ill of others, as this will hurt others and create unnecessary contradictions and conflicts.

As the saying goes, "no one says behind everyone, and no one says anything behind everyone". Being said badly by others is something that everyone will encounter, and it's not strange. Everyone will say that "no one is perfect".

There are two sides to life in life, there is a good side, and there is also a bad side. No matter how good a person is, it is impossible not to do wrong things for decades in a lifetime. So, everyone has shortcomings, there are mistakes.

You are wrong, others say to your face that you deserve it, let alone behind your back? So you don't have to worry about it, just correct it later.

Of course, it is not excluded that others will misunderstand you and say bad things about you that are not true. When you encounter this kind of thing, you can explain it or you don't have to explain it. Those who are clear are self-purifying, and those who are turbid are self-turbid.

Because sometimes the more you explain, the more unclear it becomes, and it is self-defeating, and the more you wash, the dirtier it becomes. For example, when you come out of a widow's house, you are seen by someone who says you are having an affair with a widow. You're going to deliver something or something else, not a relationship.

At this time, you go to someone to explain, can you explain clearly? This may have spread, who do you talk to to explain? As long as you're not having an affair with her, time will wash everything for you.

Also, when someone frames you and deliberately says bad things about you behind your back, you can also take it calmly and ignore it. If you mobilize a crowd to fix him, he will not admit it, and if you don't get it right, he will entangle you and make you fall into the trap of beating him. Therefore, the more you think about it, the more you take it seriously, the more you will achieve the effect and purpose of his false accusation.

Only by ignoring him will he return in vain and end up boring.

Bad things are usually said in the after-dinner chat. Some of them unintentionally lost their mouths, some deliberately provoked, some deliberately framed, and some took revenge to vent their anger ......In the past, in the countryside, I often encountered face-to-mouth scenes for some quarrels, most of them were red-faced, the public said that the public was reasonable, and the mother-in-law said that the mother-in-law was reasonable. Now, the phenomenon of judging the length of people behind it is not less than it was back then, and it is even worse.

Why is it rare to see scenes of "three confronting each other"? This is because society is becoming more and more civilized, and people's quality is generally improving.

In real life, those who tell you that others say bad things about you have a purpose, and it cannot be ruled out that they are suspected of stirring up trouble and currying favor with you. So, you have to be different as well.

In short, knowing that someone has said bad things about you is no different from not knowing. Because you just have to believe that behind your back, someone will say that you are good or bad. The so-called bad words are the gossip we often say.

The best way to deal with other people's gossip is to try to be yourself. As long as you work hard to do a good job of yourself, you will not be blamed, and the blame will be self-defeating. These gossips will also be self-defeating.

This is the embodiment of the strong.

Summary. Hello dear, glad to answer for you. First of all, if it's the first time you hear him say bad things about you, I think everyone thinks differently and has a different attitude towards things, so you don't have to care about everyone's opinion.

And what we have to do is to calmly analyze the reasons, our reaction should not be too intense, first judge whether there is a conflict with this person before, whether we have offended others. As long as you do things right, you don't have to pay attention to other people's opinions. Because only the little ones will slander others behind their backs.

If you say bad things about you many times in a row, choose the right opportunity to expose the person who said bad things about you in person, of course, this is a necessary counterattack, if you keep quiet, as if it is a fait accompli, you will be in trouble. It is necessary to choose the appropriate occasion and opportunity to expose the three bad methods of the detractors in public. Only in this way can you keep yourself innocent.

The reason why the villain slanders you behind your back is because you are afraid that you will expose him to your face. As long as you walk right and behave properly, you are not afraid of being slandered by others.

What to do if someone says bad things about you.

Hello dear, glad to answer for you. First of all, if it's the first time you hear him say bad things about you, I think everyone thinks differently and has a different attitude towards things, so you don't have to care about everyone's opinion. And what we have to do is to calmly analyze the reasons, our reaction should not be too intense, first judge whether there is a conflict with this person before, whether we have offended others.

As long as you do things right, you don't have to pay attention to other people's opinions. Because only the little ones will slander others behind their backs. If you say bad things about you many times in a row, choose the right opportunity to expose the person who said bad things about you in person, of course, this is a necessary counterattack, if you keep quiet, as if it is a fait accompli, you will be in trouble.

It is necessary to choose the appropriate occasion and opportunity to expose the three bad methods of the detractors in public. Only in this way can you keep yourself innocent. The reason why the villain slanders you behind your back is because you are afraid that you will expose him to your face.

As long as you walk right and behave properly, you are not afraid of being slandered by others.

Dear, those who slander others will eventually be recognized by everyone. If you don't have a good temper, I advise you to stay away from people who like to speak ill of people behind their backs, because if you have been with someone behind your back for a long time, you will feel that every time they say bad things about you. Only we stay away from them, that is to say, "out of sight, out of mind", lest you see them and affect your good mood.

Sometimes avoidance is a virtue, and when you really can't listen to what they say, you can choose to leave, and not listening to what is going on outside the window is the best way to deal with gossip.