How can I make myself less competitive?

If he's still talking about his former girlfriend in front of you, then you should be distracted by him

His object now is you, and the eyes should be you, not his past, and if he is so memorable, then the only happiness he has now will also fade in his memory

It's not a question of whether you're competitive or not, what girl wants her boyfriend to talk about his past in front of her, and not to mention the comparison, since he's with you now, shouldn't he let go of the past? Since he can't give up the past, why is he still with you

I hope you can untie the knot and create a beautiful love together

Addendum: Do you want your boyfriend to see a shadow of you or his ex in his eyes?

Men are like this, what they can't get is the best, and they don't know how to cherish what they get

You want him to see a unique you, a charm that only belongs to you, and not to put him first in everything, a little woman who has no opinions, no position!

You care a lot about your boyfriend's words, it's not that he's competitive, it's that women are jealous. It's not true, but coming out of your boyfriend's mouth just makes you feel uncomfortable. There are some things that boys forget when they say it, but you still remember it for more than a year, which means that you care about his words very much, you can tentatively ask him if he remembers the previous words, and can you talk about his attitude towards you now?

People sometimes have to look forward, if it doesn't sound good, it's good to not hear it, why bother to get along with yourself, if his ex-daughter is really so perfect, then why did he break up, I think it must be that your boyfriend was angry with you at the time, but after saying that, he forgot.

It's obvious, since the conditions of the ex-girlfriend are not as good as yours at all, it means that he loves not these external things, but his ex-girlfriend who loves him more, your conditions are very superior, just find one can be a hundred times better than him, his heart is still in the ex-girlfriend at all, as the saying goes, 'the lover wants to find the one you love, the husband wants to find the one who loves you', if you find a husband whose heart is not completely here, you will regret it in the future Or break it now.

What is lost will know how to cherish and understand that it is the best Maybe after he calms down for a while before he realizes how good you are He didn't grasp you is a mistake At this time, he will completely forget about his ex-girlfriend and feel you wholeheartedly If he really loves you, he will come to recover you.

These things, you can talk to him directly, maybe it will dissolve this knot in your heart.

In fact, it is easy for two people to fall in love and difficult to get along.

In getting along day and night, it is inevitable that there will be some unpleasant words and even inappropriate behavior.

As long as we communicate with each other and understand each other, we will dissolve all kinds of knots.

I wish you all happiness!

Maybe your boyfriend isn't suggesting your ex-girlfriend's family conditions.

Maybe it's because of you. Let him have a sense of distance, that's why he said this, communicate with him well, don't share with him. He loves you.

Because if I don't love you, I won't be with you. Saying it must just make you nervous about him. I just care about him.

It's only been a year, and you've felt that you've changed a lot of discomfort, but if you're really together in the future, will you be happy?

You know that reflecting on yourself and he doesn't know is enough to show that men and women know more reason than him. If you didn't say something too ostentatious before he said that, then everyone can tell you: it's him who is at fault!

If two people who are in love are not happy together, love will lose its meaning.

Life is not long, why not let yourself live happily, do you have to be all hot people to follow your heart, in order to laugh? That's or how tiring it is.

People are self-aware, and if your one really doesn't know how to examine himself, he is not worthy of your love.

Does that kind of man want him to do it? Love the rich and hate the poor.

Two lovers can at least share hardships with wealth and wealth together, so that they can be repaired in the same boat for a hundred years.

No matter how much he has experienced with this kind of person, he will still be selfish.

Change it before it's too late.

Author: kevinchenyun - probationary level 1 2009-6-1 14:09

Agree. The guy on the first floor was pure.

This kind of man was changed as soon as possible. Otherwise, it will only add to the trouble.

It's useless men who say such things. A man who loves you won't say something that hurts you.

This kind of man is dead b.

I think he was too inferior and deliberately said this to attract your attention.

And it's not a bad thing, but if it's affecting your life, if you're distressed, you have to try to get out of its control.

My girlfriend is an extreme grade-based patient, and she can't even compare her grades with people close to her.

Because we don't get good grades, she will be proud (but she is very unhappy in her heart, thinking how can she be like this), and she will be jealous when we have good grades (I wanted to fight envy, but she is, she is really unhappy, very unhappy, knowing that she shouldn't but can't control it).

If that's the case for you, I think you might need to change it, and if it's in the normal range, that's fine.

First of all, I want to understand when and in what way you feel that you are competitive.

That's a good question. Impetuousness brings unstability, inner emptiness and restlessness, competitiveness brings people not necessarily happiness, but pressure and depression based on a sense of achievement. Therefore, there are imitation shirts to tell people to realize the collapse of the mountain to the fate.

Go with the flow, don't force it, the good and the bad are bland in the heart, such a mentality is not easy to pain, indifferent does not mean that you don't want to be motivated.

Look down on everything and change it from the bottom of your heart. You may always be aware of the problem, but you are rarely determined to correct the mistake. This is your biggest flaw, learn to overcome your own flaws.

1. Learn to face the reality, you can't be better than others in everything.

2. Open your heart, make more friends, communicate more with family and friends, and slowly your mind will become open-minded.

It would be nice to fail a few more times yourself.

I'm depressed to death, this is a person's advantage, please, what does it matter, some people can't get it if they want to.

Friend, I understand you very well, I was very good when I was in college, the president of the student union, the cadre of the department, the cadre of the class, but I graduated from college last year, and I hit a wall everywhere when looking for a job, and we are now high or low, so now everyone has a calm mentality, starting from the starting point, it is normal to be competitive, and I am also not allowed to allow others to be better than me, but the reality is like this, there will always be someone who is better than you, look at other people's points, study and find your own shortcomings, make up for it, and you will be fine.

That's because you haven't seen a real cow person, so you can't obey it. Of course, it's not a bad thing to be competitive, he can make people motivated. It is not necessary to eliminate, just maintain this balance properly, and let the competitive spirit help you continue to move forward in your studies and career.

Others don't have to be too competitive, they will be very tired, and their interpersonal relationships will be bad.

Good thing, why change it? It's good to face it correctly and deal with things calmly.

Find nothing bad, how much, what you have to overcome is, don't take other people's pain as your own happiness. There is nothing wrong with being competitive, and it can motivate people to go in a good way, for example, if you see that others are better than you, you will be unwilling, and you must do a good job yourself. So, you don't need to change them all!

Then it's only up to yourself to restrain yourself.

If you are interested, please read "Don't Think You Are God" in My Space, and good luck!

It is good to be demanding of yourself, everyone wants to do better than the average person, this is not a bad thing, but there are two aspects to competitiveness, do not show it on the surface, it is correct to be competitive from the heart.

Then you can find someone who is more competitive than you to be your friend, and fight poison with poison, maybe you can!

Usually competitive people are not really people with connotation and strength, martial arts, the top of a Ge, the bottom of a stop, stop the fight for the martial arts, that is, stop the sharp weapon in the hand is the real martial arts person.

Learn to endure and calm down when encountering things A look at the book Chicken Soup for the Soul should give you some comfort in your soul.

Fight for !! appropriately When it's time to fight, you have to work hard, even desperate to fight! When you shouldn't fight, don't fight, let others make a mess of a little thing!

Competitiveness is not a question of whether it should be or not, competitiveness is a kind of character, but not people with this kind of character will fight at any time, to be rational, but also to have ambition and dignity. In fact, everyone will have the ambition of the bird, but the ambition of the bird does not only refer to lofty ambitions, everyone will have many wishes in their hearts, if a certain wish will often make you have a goal and confidence when you are disappointed, then, this is the ambition. Zhi, no matter the big ambition or the small ambition, as long as you yearn for it, you have the confidence to achieve it, and strive for it, it is the ambition of the bird, as long as it remains unchanged in your heart, it is the ambition of the bird!

Therefore, we must not only be pure-hearted, indifferent, but also competitive, and have the ambition of a bird, just like life, we must have both sweet and sour, but also bitter and spicy, so that life can have a taste!

Happiness is like this, the sweet and sour are mixed together, and it doesn't taste weird.

Do the impossible. I gradually understand how to give up.!

If you want to change your competitive and irritable personality, then let yourself travel a little more. At the same time, you should also be with some more docile people.

I think I still need to calm myself down, and listen to more songs when I have nothing to do, which is very helpful for my relaxation.

If you want to get rid of your competitive and irritable character, you must let yourself be more rational and indifferent to some things, so that your temper will be corrected, and it may not be a good thing to be competitive, so you should also let yourself calm down and don't want to fight for everything.

I think if you want to get rid of your competitive and irritable personality, you can make a friend with the opposite personality. In this way, when we are on the verge of a temper outburst, he can premonition our emotions in advance, and then help us calm our irritable emotions, so that we can change our competitive and irritable personality.

I want to get rid of my competitive and irritable personality Every day before going to bed, self-reflect and think about what I did well and what I didn't do well. And on the new day to be corrected.

I think if you want to get rid of your competitive and irritable personality, you must learn to be patient, because only patience can make the world peaceful, and you must learn to think about others, and only by thinking about others will you solve conflicts.

I want to get rid of my competitive and irritable personality Write a diary every day, write down what you do all day, and self-reflect, think about what you did well and what you didn't do well today. And correct it in the future diary.

I think it's hard to get rid of your competitive and irritable personality. Because I feel that these personalities come from within, I think it's hard to change.

I think if we want to get rid of our competitive and easily irritable personality, then we should first reconcile our own mentality, balance our mentality, and then change our own personality.

If you want to get rid of your competitive and irritable personality, you need to learn to calm down and let yourself learn to control your personality, so that you can slowly get rid of your competitive and irritable personality.

Everything pays attention to modesty and introverted, enrich your inner beauty, good luck!!

Take things lightly and don't pay too much attention to them.

It is to calm yourself and calm down.

Think about what you already have!

You don't want to be too yourself, you can fight and you can win, but don't be discouraged by a failure, if you are easily irritable, then when you are angry, calm down first and think twice.

I used to be impatient, but as I got older and encountered more things, I learned to slow down and learn how to think.

I don't think you should compete with others for everything, and then you don't have to care too much about anything, and don't care too much about what others think.

Find a group of roommates who are more inkblot and have a softer personality to run in with you, and after a few years, you will find that you have a temper, and you are really not irritable at all.

It's actually very difficult to change a personality, unless you've gone through something big, for example, in a field where you're all elite, and you've become less prominent, and you're not so competitive.