What do perfectionist mindsets look like?

The most important characteristic of perfectionists is the pursuit of perfection, and this desire is based on the belief that everything is unsatisfactory and imperfect, so they fall into a deep contradiction to know that there is no perfect thing in the world, but perfectionists have an innate impulse, they invest this energy into those things that are closely related to their lives, and strive to improve them, try to make them perfect, and never tire of it.

However, often they are half-– although they are all automatic. Maybe there is a never-ending momentum at the beginning of the work, but then it will decay, the reason is that in the process of work, imperfections come and go, they can't take care of so much, and in the end, the only way to do it is to admit defeat.

Judging Criteria If you're going to determine whether you're a perfectionist, look at the following questions:

He has very high requirements for himself and his passion, and is extremely proud and inferior. There is no room for a speck of sand in the eyes.

The seventh answer is: No I can do a lot of things easily The eighth answer is: I don't need special planning for a few minutes Things the ninth answer is: Yes Typical obsessive-compulsive disorder.

He or she feels that he or she is always right.

It's too simple to use sensibility and reason.

In fact, the personality is very complex, and it is roughly divided into three categories and nine types.

The first type is that the instinct group relies on instinct to do things, and will not do it until they think about it.

The second type is that the brain group relies on thinking to do things, and it is slow to act after thinking about it, but it makes fewer mistakes.

The third type is the heart group, which experiences everything with the heart, and needs psychological satisfaction from the heart.

Brain center, body center.

Heart Center 5 Wisdom Type.

1. Perfect type. 4. Artistic.

6. Loyalty. 9 and peace type.

3. Career-oriented. 7. Rich type.

8. Ability type. 2. All-love type.

I'm the perfect type too.

The world is imperfect, oneself is imperfect, life is imperfect.

All kinds of "systems" can only be felt by the perfect person.

But it's not that simple for everyone.

There will be different performances for different occasions and things.

I think I am also an intellectual type (intellectual), an artistic type (super sensibility), and a career type (a fanatical pursuit of career).

It still depends on the industry and hobbies he is engaged in to grasp the essence of the individual.

Perfectionism is the functional fear of failure deep down. Perfectionist people are more tired of living, and it is more tiring to associate with them. They pay more attention to the results, and their ideal life should be made up of beautiful results.

They have only two options in life: to be excellent; Garbage to the top. Life is a process, we should enjoy the process, not the result, do one thing will definitely encounter a lot of difficulties and setbacks, we should face up to it rather than escape, life is like this, where is success without failure?

They think that failure is completely unbearable, in fact, the more you fail, the more things you will learn, you can face failure, and find precious things from failure is the real success. Edison failed 5,000 times before he invented the light bulb, and someone asked him, "Why did you persist after so many failures?"

He said: "I didn't fail, I successfully verified that the 5,000 methods don't work, then my chances of success are getting bigger and bigger."

The opposite of perfectionism is excellence. This is the normal concept of life, life is a long journey, and every scenery on the road is worth appreciating, whether it is success or failure. We are all human beings, and we must also experience failure, failure is a normal thing, and people who can appreciate the scenery of failure are the real success.

Excellenceists face up to their shortcomings and see where they need to improve, rather than running away and being afraid. I don't know if I can help you.

Psychologically, we interpret perfectionism as a motivation for procrastination.

We all love those perfect things, but there is no perfect food in the world, and there are no perfect people, so there is no need to worry too much about these problems, because too much pursuit of perfection will actually bring some adverse effects, let's take a look at the specific manifestations of perfectionist character?

We call this kind of personality perfectionism. The character of perfectionism is first manifested as stubbornness, rigidity, inflexibility, setting a high standard for oneself or others, which must be achieved, and feeling very painful and unacceptable when frustrated. In fact, if the pursuit of perfection becomes a psychological burden, living in the shadow of "perfection" all day long, it must be a very painful thing.

Therefore, perfectionist people should set their goals and methods more flexibly, and have a psychological preparation of "taking a step back and opening up the sky".

Perfectionist people are often unwilling to accept their own or others' weaknesses and inadequacies and are very picky. Some people don't have any good friends, they can't find a partner, they can't get along with anyone, and they often change units, why? That's because he doesn't look down on anyone, and even ignores the main advantages of others because of some minor faults.

Some people do not allow themselves to be nervous when they speak in public, and they can't tolerate their unnatural expressions when they are nervous. I don't allow myself to feel the slightest discomfort, I often suspect that I am seriously ill, and I often go to the hospital for checkups. In fact, everyone has shortcomings and shortcomings, and there will be nervous and uncomfortable experiences, which are normal manifestations, and we must learn to accept them and go with the flow.

If you have to resist the laws of nature, you will inevitably become more and more resistant.

Perfectionist people are conceited on the surface, but deep down they have low self-esteem. Because he rarely sees the advantages, always pays attention to the shortcomings, is always not satisfied, and rarely affirms himself, he rarely has the opportunity to gain confidence, and of course he will feel inferior. If he is not satisfied, he will not be happy, and pain will always follow him, and those around him will be unhappy as well.

Learning to appreciate others and oneself is important and is the cornerstone of the next goal.

Perfectionists tend to focus on details and forget the main goal, making others think that he has picked up the sesame seeds and lost the watermelon. Work is often inefficient as a result. Many times you have to "get out of the way".

The formation of a perfectionist personality has a lot to do with early education, but it can still be consciously adjusted in adulthood, and it is necessary to learn to turn a blind eye to oneself and others, so that we can see the good things in life.

Perfectionists actually have certain problems with their mental health, and in their hearts, they are actually likely to have a more serious inferiority complex, so don't put so much pressure on yourself in life, and learn to treat everything with a normal mentality. ;