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The psychological reason behind perfectionism is caused by the fact that the person has obsessive-compulsive disorder, anxiety disorder, etc.
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The most important characteristic of perfectionists is the pursuit of perfection, and this desire is based on the belief that everything is unsatisfactory and imperfect, so they fall into a deep contradiction to know that there is no perfect thing in the world, but perfectionists have an innate impulse, they invest this energy into those things that are closely related to their lives, and strive to improve them, try to make them perfect, and never tire of it.
However, often they are half-– although they are all automatic. Maybe there is a never-ending momentum at the beginning of the work, but then it will decay, the reason is that in the process of work, imperfections come and go, they can't take care of so much, and in the end, the only way to do it is to admit defeat.
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(2) Be critical of others: If a perfectionist is a boss, he is definitely a difficult boss. While we are critical of ourselves, we will also make the subordinates around us feel a kind of pressure, because we must be very strict with our subordinates.
3) Shame on ourselves: Because of our introversion and high standards, we are often ashamed of ourselves because we are not satisfied with something that we do well, and we often blame ourselves. Although we are smart and experienced, once we are promoted, we have no self-confidence and feel that we are not competent.
In addition, we have no ambition to climb up, and we always feel that our position is already too high, and perhaps a lower level or two may be more suitable.
4) Stubborn one-sidedness: We believe that everything should be judged objectively like a test with standard answers. We always feel like we're defending our beliefs and sticking to our principles.
However, these principles may not be taken seriously by others at all. As a result, we always fight alone, often losing battles.
5) Like to be noticed: We strive for a certain ideal. In a stable society or business, we are always quick to take a stand, feeling that compromise is humiliation, and if no one pays attention to us, we will intensify it until someone does.
6) Overconfidence: We are unrealistic, when looking for a job, if we are not a leading company, we don't need to talk, otherwise we will stand on our own. When we work in large companies, most of us volunteer to be responsible for more work than we can do.
As a result, the task was not accomplished, but he still did not stop swinging the bat, but wanted to make up for his previous promise with higher merits, and ended up becoming a often defeated general.
7) Nitpicking: Perfectionists are more likely to notice problems with small details and strive for improvement. We like to get to the bottom of things, and we will not be satisfied with just seeing the appearance of things, but can find problems that others can't find, and can find fundamental solutions.
In short, perfectionists always want things to go the way we envision them to go and achieve our own goals, and often feel anxious, nervous, and dissatisfied as a result.
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Perfectionism Features:
1.It is easy to have extreme thoughts, such as if you do not do a thing to the extreme, it is a failure, but perfection itself is an impossible state, black and white judgment will make people deliberately avoid risks and miss opportunities when making decisions, and too many limits on success expectations will also stifle their imagination and creativity.
2.Extremely demanding on oneself, the slightest dissatisfaction will be judged as failure, resulting in frustration and self-confidence. A small mistake can be magnified by a perfectionist troublemaker, and it breeds a lot of anger and negative emotions.
I always feel that I am not good enough, and I see every failure as my own reason.
3.There is no satisfaction in tasks that cannot be quantified and that there are no concrete standards to achieve, because there is no one to give them a clear standard and tell them: you have done it successfully.
4.He is very picky about the people and things around him, from the placement of objects to the specific details of project implementation, he must be completely controlled, and according to their standards and requirements, which is unbearable.
5。The more critical he is about others, the more he wants to be recognized by others, but except for the perfectionist himself, there are very few people who use the same set of standards as him, and they can't find a balance and fall into a situation of self-doubt.
6.Others do not agree with their own standards, but they continue to insist on their own positions, and when others put forward opinions or critical words, they will have a very heavy defensive mentality to defend their positions, which is difficult to understand. In the long run, there are no friends to talk to, unable to open up, and a feeling of being overwhelmed by the cold in a high place.
The above are the six points that characterize perfectionism.
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Summary. Hello, there are quite a few perfectionists.
Hello, there are quite a few perfectionists.
Perfectionist people have an amazing sense of vigilance against the criticism of others, usually in order to avoid being criticized afterwards, and often feel harsh on themselves, if the perfectionist is not timely, he may become a compulsive person in the later stage, and the onset of obsessive-compulsive disorder usually occurs in childhood or early adulthood, and the probability of occurrence for men and women is the same.
What percentage of perfectionism is there?
Hello, there is no specific data on this.
In the previous research on the destruction of the net, perfectionism, confusion and helplessness, and the supremacy of material suspicion and quality respectively occupied the blind date group68% and the proportion of the top three.
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We all love those perfect things, but there is no perfect food in the world, and there are no perfect people, so there is no need to worry too much about these problems, because too much pursuit of perfection will actually bring some adverse effects, let's take a look at the specific manifestations of perfectionist character?
We call this kind of personality perfectionism. The character of perfectionism is first manifested as stubbornness, rigidity, inflexibility, setting a high standard for oneself or others, which must be achieved, and feeling very painful and unacceptable when frustrated. In fact, if the pursuit of perfection becomes a psychological burden, living in the shadow of "perfection" all day long, it must be a very painful thing.
Therefore, perfectionist people should set their goals and methods more flexibly, and have a psychological preparation of "taking a step back and opening up the sky".
Perfectionist people are often unwilling to accept their own or others' weaknesses and inadequacies and are very picky. Some people don't have any good friends, they can't find a partner, they can't get along with anyone, and they often change units, why? That's because he doesn't look down on anyone, and even ignores the main advantages of others because of some minor faults.
Some people do not allow themselves to be nervous when they speak in public, and they can't tolerate their unnatural expressions when they are nervous. I don't allow myself to feel the slightest discomfort, I often suspect that I am seriously ill, and I often go to the hospital for checkups. In fact, everyone has shortcomings and shortcomings, and there will be nervous and uncomfortable experiences, which are normal manifestations, and we must learn to accept them and go with the flow.
If you have to resist the laws of nature, you will inevitably become more and more resistant.
Perfectionist people are conceited on the surface, but deep down they have low self-esteem. Because he rarely sees the advantages, always pays attention to the shortcomings, is always not satisfied, and rarely affirms himself, he rarely has the opportunity to gain confidence, and of course he will feel inferior. If he is not satisfied, he will not be happy, and pain will always follow him, and those around him will be unhappy as well.
Learning to appreciate others and oneself is important and is the cornerstone of the next goal.
Perfectionists tend to focus on details and forget the main goal, making others think that he has picked up the sesame seeds and lost the watermelon. Work is often inefficient as a result. Many times you have to "get out of the way".
The formation of a perfectionist personality has a lot to do with early education, but it can still be consciously adjusted in adulthood, and it is necessary to learn to turn a blind eye to oneself and others, so that we can see the good things in life.
Perfectionists actually have certain problems with their mental health, and in their hearts, they are actually likely to have a more serious inferiority complex, so don't put so much pressure on yourself in life, and learn to treat everything with a normal mentality. ;
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