The economic conditions of the family are not good, and my husband wants to force me to have a secon

Updated on parenting 2024-02-25
28 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Since the economic conditions of the family are not good, then don't have a second child. Because you have to be responsible for a child when you give birth to him, you have to do your best to give him a good ideal life. You have to give him the best education and give him everything he needs.

    And when you don't have the ability to give it to him, when you're not ready, then you still don't want to regenerate. And your husband wants to, and in that case, I think you should talk to him well.

    First of all, the two of you already have a child, and this child will cost you both a lot of manpower and material resources, since you two can't even take care of this child, why do you want to have another one? If you have another child, both of those two children will not have a good life, and it will be very painful. You have to make this clear to him, tell him about the seriousness of the matter, tell him about the consequences of the matter.

    There is also a series of problems about having a second child, you have to tell him how much it will cost to have a second child, including confinement, buying necessities for the child, and supporting the child in the future, which are all a lot of expenses. So where should this expense come from, with the current financial ability of the two of you, you will definitely not be able to afford it, then you can't go to your parents after giving birth to a second child, then you will become a gnawing old family.

    In the end, if he is still resolute in giving birth, then you don't have to talk to him, as long as you don't want to give birth, no one can force you. There are many measures you can take to prevent the arrival of this child, you must be firm in your own thoughts, you have to think about your first child, you can't let both children be miserable and unhappy. Trust that over time, your husband will understand your concerns.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I think you should make it clear to your husband that if you have a second child, the economic pressure you will face, the quality of life of the whole family will be reduced, and the education and training funds for one child will be reduced.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Having a second child requires the consent of both people, not his unilateral decision, you can have a good talk with him, tell him the economic situation of the family, since the economic conditions are not good, then having another one is not good for both children.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    I think that whether or not to have a second child in life should be decided after the family has discussed it together, so whether or not to have a second child should be considered from all aspects, as long as the conditions allow, you can consider having a second child.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Talk to your husband, coordinate with your family, and think about yourself. What are the requirements for the family's economy to have a second child, don't wait for the birth and have no money to support.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Personally, I think you should make it clear to your husband, as the saying goes: no more good, one top ten, don't blindly ask for quantity, and don't pay attention to quality. Besides, if the family situation is not good, if you want to give birth, you need to think carefully!

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    If your first child is a girl, your husband may force you to have a second child not only because of your own wishes, but also because of your in-laws. It is recommended that you have a good chat with your husband first, explore his specific considerations and difficulties, and then decide what to do for yourself.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Explain clearly that having a second child will cause a burden on the family economy, and even reduce the cultivation of the first child, and should pay attention to the quality of children's education, rather than pursuing the number of children, and should be more realistic to themselves.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    The issue of having a second child needs to be decided jointly after discussion between two people, and the husband has no right to force you, and the family situation is not good, if you want to give birth, you need to consider carefully!

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    First of all, understand why the husband wants to have a second child, if there is no proper and reasonable reason, if you don't want to give birth, you can say what you think, and it is not good for the child to give birth if you don't want to give birth.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    If the family's economic conditions are not good, it is recommended not to have children for the time being, because having a second child will create a lot of burdens.

    First of all, pregnancy in October itself will incur a lot of expenses, nutrition, inspection fees, lost work expenses, etc., and in the last few months, you can't work and go home to raise the baby, and you have to have someone to take care of it, which not only costs more, but also one less person's economy, which is even worse for families with poor economic conditions.

    It will also cost a lot during the birth of a child later, and the birth of the child, confinement, and the child's expenses are all unavoidable expenses, not to mention that the child will also spend a lot of money when he or she goes to school in the future.

    Therefore, if the family with poor economic conditions can consider not having a second child for the time being. Wait until you can save some emergency money before thinking about having a second child.

    If a family with poor financial conditions is planning to have a second child, think carefully before making a decision:

    1.the multiplication of economic pressures and the resulting family crisis in the coming period;

    2.The problem of one spouse having children and the other spouse having to bear the burden of the family;

    3.the problem of a significant decline in the quality of life of the family;

    4.Couples have problems with reducing emotional communication because of taking care of children.

    If after considering these issues, you feel that giving birth to a second child will not affect the relationship between husband and wife, then give birth.

    Children are the hope of parents and the source of happiness for parents, and the birth of children also teaches parents how to take responsibility. Parents give life to their children, and children make their parents' lives more complete. Now that the two-child policy has been opened, many families basically have at least two children.

    There are three reasons for having a second child: the first is that I am afraid that a child will be too lonely, the second is that the more children, the greater the hope of the family, and the third is that some families do not have sons, so they do not hesitate to have a second child, or even a third or fourth child, until a son is passed on.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Family conditions generally do not recommend having a second child, and people's reasons are nothing more than how to raise children if they are poor and white. Now that the cost of living and raising children are so high, why bother to let two children suffer.

    If the child is born as a leek, the child himself is unwilling, and then the child will blame the parents for why they gave birth to themselves and let their lives be so difficult. If the family conditions are average, it is good to raise a child well, let one child get out of the original class, and don't pull another child into the water.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Children are the hope of a family, many families want a second child after giving birth to the first child, but sometimes some family conditions are not allowed, for example, the funds are a little tight, and they can't afford the growth of the second child, but their husband still wants to have a second child, at this time the wife has 3 ways, the first directly told the husband that the family conditions are not good and do not give birth; second, let her husband work hard to earn money, set a goal for him, and he will live if he can complete it; The third is that if he insists on divorce if he wants to be born, he really doesn't understand the difficulties of the family at all, and a husband like this is angry if he stays, so he divorces directly.

    1. If the family's funds are tight, but the husband still wants to have a second child, the wife can do this, and the first way is to refuse directly.

    We all know that raising a child is not only time-consuming and laborious, but also costs a lot of money, according to incomplete statistics, raising a child to grow up requires about 1 million expenses, so many families are more afraid of having a second child, the family does not have a certain amount of savings and does not dare to have a second child, if the family is tight at this time, the husband wants to have a second child, directly refuse the husband, if he wants to give birth, let him have his own child.

    Second, the second way is to set a goal so that the husband can finish the family, and he will be born when he achieves the goal.

    Or everyone retreats a sock to prepare for a stupid step, the wife can set a goal for her husband, such as working hard to earn money and save her savings to 300,000, so that the conditions at home are better, and she is not afraid that the second child will suffer after it comes out, as long as she reaches this goal, she is willing to give her husband a second child, and I believe that it is understandable for her husband.

    3. The third way is that if he doesn't understand his wife at all, he will divorce directly.

    The last approach is aimed at if the husband knows the situation at home and insists on having a second child, he will directly tell the husband to divorce, he is not mature at all when he is a child, such a person will not take care of the family, he does not have to be with him, and he will be more angry than harmonious in the future, so he will divorce directly, and he will be clean.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    At this time, you have to be clear about your position, don't give birth, because giving birth to the chain will bring you more pressure, and the matter of returning to the state with children will basically fall on you.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    I think we should discuss with him and explain to him that the current economic situation is not suitable for having a second child, and if Jing Tong has a second child, it will seriously affect the quality of life and the situation of the core of life, unless he can achieve a promotion and a salary increase, he can have a second child.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    First of all, I think you still have to talk to your husband about your concerns. After all, it is not appropriate to have a second child and an early brother now, and it is better to prepare when the conditions are better in all aspects.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    You can communicate well with your husband in the preparation hall and tell Bo Yuan that it is not the time to have a second child now, and when the conditions are good, it will be okay to regenerate.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    I think you can have a child if you have a strong ability to bear it, but it is better not to have a child if the family is not financially capable of doing so, whether it is for the family or for the child.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Not raw! It doesn't matter if you have financial capacity, you spend more and spend less! The main thing is that no one has a baby, the old people have their own lives, and it is too much trouble for them to bring a baby, and it is impossible for us to resign and take the baby! So the main thing is that there is not enough energy!!

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    This also depends on yourself, if you particularly want it, then don't think about financial ability, there are many kinds of raising children, if you prefer to raise children like a rich man, then you simply can't have children.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    I don't think it should be born, because it will cost a lot of money to educate a child well, and if you have another one that may exceed the limit of the family's bearing, not to mention the inability to educate the second child, it will make the family life very urgent.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    I don't think it's going to be a good time to have a second child, because having a second child will be a lot of burden, and the cost of education for a child is very high, so you can wait for the economic situation to improve before deciding whether to have a second child.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Personally, I think this depends on your personal choice, if the family economy is average, raising a child is enough, then choose not to have it.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    It is not long to have a child who is poor, and it is not long before there is no child. The most regrettable thing in life is not that you are poor and raise children, but that you have money and no offspring.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Don't give birth if the economy is good, have fewer children and have better children, and have a happy life.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    Now the cost of living is relatively high, having one more child will have to add a lot of living expenses, if there are not enough economic conditions, not enough to support a child's life, there is a baby in the family, life can be relatively rich, if one more, the quality of life of everyone in the family will be reduced, then parents or do not consider having a second child. If the family conditions are relatively good and having two children can also allow them to live a better life, then parents can consider having another one and be with Dabao. Personally, I think that there are many benefits to having a second child if the family conditions permit.

    First, don't be alone, have playmates. Nowadays, there are many only children, and it is inevitable that they will feel lonely at home, and they may not be able to find playmates in the neighborhood. Take my own baby as an example, he is lonely and bored at home every day, and I have to take him to a nearby park to play with children of about the same age throughout the holiday.

    Second, both boys and girls also have a sense of security. Two children in the family can also feel more secure. Even when I usually bump into it, I don't worry so much.

    And when they grow up, if in the future there is one who goes farther because of work or life. The other one can also be around. For myself, if it weren't for the fact that my parents had several children, I probably wouldn't have been allowed to marry far away.

    Think about them too, the daughter who was finally raised, the daughter who was married for a few years can't see it, of course, it's okay now. Fortunately, they have my brother's family and my sister's family, and they can take care of and enjoy the blessings of children and grandchildren. Third, if you have a second child, the older baby will be more obedient.

    Seeing that many children with Erbao families around him are more sensible and well-behaved than before, when he (she) sees his or her parents taking care of his or her younger brother or sister, knowing the hard work of his parents, he will also help take care of Erbao. Although raising a baby requires a lot of economy, it depends on the concept that the poor and the poor support the rich and the rich. In general, it is still good to have a second child if you have the financial conditions.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    It is recommended not to do it for the time being, the change is always faster than the plan, the economic conditions of the family are already bad, and it is good to have a second child again, and it is good to have a second child when the economic conditions are better.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    Whether or not to have a second child has little to do with family conditions, the key is whether you are willing or not. Some people say that having a second child with poor family conditions is to drag down the elderly, drag themselves to death, and drag down the children.

    First, the family conditions are average.

    I gave birth to two babies, our family conditions are really average, and it is a bit poor, I don't think having a second child is a wrong decision at all.

    Let's talk about the current situation of my family, I just bought a house this year, my husband goes to work alone, borrows a lot of money for the down payment, and repays the mortgage every month, and two children go to kindergarten at the same time this year, positioning Haikou, a second- and third-tier city, with a first-tier consumption place.

    The economic conditions in this situation are already very poor, and the parents of the family can't help, and the parents of the husband's family can't help.

    Second, it is said that having a second child will drag down the elderly.

    I think you are all adults, and your parents gave birth to ten or eight children in their generation, and they didn't ask the old people for help, so they didn't raise their children differently!

    You give birth to your own children, raise children, what does it matter to your parents, your parents raised you, and you have to raise grandchildren.

    The one who said this was either gnawing the old clan, or the giant baby.

    Three, drag yourself to death.

    In my situation, how can I still live well! Didn't I complain? The pressure is all given to me, why do you have an extra child and drag yourself to death?

    One child is raised, and two children are also raised in the same way, big deal, as a parent's hard work, so what can it be, young people don't struggle, do they struggle when they are old?

    Fourth, drag down the child.

    My child eats and drinks, is happy every day, and the relationship between the two siblings is very good, so why is it dragging down the child.

    You have to compare with the rich, can you?

    Then you compare with Wang Shiling!

    You don't have a single child, it's not as good as others.

    As parents, have we really thought about what our children need?

    Is material life really so important to children?

    In the end, I don't regret that I had two children, we don't need the help of our parents, we can afford to raise children, my children don't need to compare with others, and my children prefer a loving home to material satisfaction.

    Everyone will have pressure, not because of having one more child, crushing yourself to death, saying that you must be too fragile, you are indeed not suitable for having a second child, more suitable for not having a child.

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