What was it like for my brother to get married earlier than me?

The experience of my younger brother getting married earlier than myself is that I feel that I have been invisibly urged to marry, and every time I see my brother and my brother-in-law together, I feel that I am old.

Envy that my younger brother has happiness one step ahead of him, and he can find the person who will join hands with him for a lifetime so early, and it will also give him the motivation to find the right person as soon as possible.

My younger brother is more capable than himself, and I am of course very happy to be able to find the right person to marry before I get married, and I sincerely wish them!

I feel so lonely all of a sudden, even my younger brother has found someone I like and got married, and I am still alone.

I don't feel much, it's like that if I get married early, I don't think there's anything wrong with it, and there's no need to be so clear.

It's very bad, the younger brother will dislike the sister. My cousin is like this, my cousin got married in the second year of my cousin's marriage, and my cousin said at the wedding: "My sister is not married yet, can the marriageable young men here save her".

will feel that my younger brother is much luckier than himself, and he can meet the right person at the right age, but he is so old and not married.

Probably I have to be urged to marry every New Year's holiday, no matter the three aunts or the seventh uncle, as long as they meet me, they have to urge me to hurry up, and I am also very helpless.

will be taken special care of by relatives and friends at home, that is, all kinds of marriage urging, resulting in many people coming to introduce their partners and being forced to go on a blind date helplessly.

I don't think this is a problem, marriage is just the starting point of love, why can't it be the young first? Have a good mindset.

We don't understand your question.

1. Isn't the bride price given by the man to the woman to the woman's parents?

I hope you can answer this question for me, what we understand here should be for the woman's parents. It has nothing to do with the man. The man can ask how much the bride price is on your woman's side, and he has a good number in mind. But I think it's a bit too much to think that the man will give the woman a bride price, and after marriage, the bride price will be returned to you. Can't the man and the woman's parents get any money at all, it's not a question of whether the money is or not, it's a question of whether you respect your parents. If your man doesn't give you a penny to your parents, it's really too much, 10,000, 20,000 is okay, as long as you have it.

How much is not a big problem.

2. As long as your woman's bride price is appropriate, the man can indeed give it in combination with it.

I think you women are doing a good job on your side, and you don't need to feel too guilty or embarrassed. After you have done this, the rest is the man's. If the man asks too much, for example, the bride price that the man gives to the woman's parents, the man wants to give you the younger couple. I think this is a very excessive thing, indicating that your boyfriend's character is problematic. Whether the bride price is required.

For you two, I think it lies in the woman's parents, it's okay to give it, it's okay not to give it. That's not something you have to think about.

3. In your question, I think you are too inferior.

In your question, we can see that you have a bit of inferiority complex between men and women, and generally when you encounter such a problem, you will look towards your own family, and I hope you understand your boyfriend at the same time.

Understand that as long as you do something reasonable (e.g. reasonable and humane bride price), we think you will have no problem. The rest is what the man needs to deal with.

At this time, it is time to look at your boyfriend's character and responsibility.

This is a very real problem. Because, now in real life, there are too many examples of this kind of patriarchy, selling women to raise children. Therefore, it is normal for men to have concerns.

As long as your family does not have this kind of thinking and treats your children as equals, all these problems will be solved.

Besides, the man is an only son and can enjoy all the resources of his parents, so he is naturally afraid that you will not be able to help and will be held back! In fact, if you really reach the stage of talking about marriage, these problems will be brought to the table and cannot be avoided. I don't understand the rules of your marriage, most of us are only children here, and most men and women get married when they buy a house together or one buys a house and the other decorates and buys furniture.

As for the bride price, the man gives the number, and the woman adds some more to marry back. Of course, all aspects of the family environment are different, and they cannot all be the same. It is understandable that the daughter feels sorry for her mother's family and does not want her family to spend money, so should she take the bride price money back to her daughter or buy something for her marriage?

To put it bluntly, the man is afraid that you will ask for a huge bride price to supplement your brother. You have to weigh this by yourself, and think more about yourself.

Now the Internet is full of examples of blind dates, your boyfriend probably also saw the kind of sister or sister similar to the brother demon, he must have concerns, I feel that you should take his concerns into account, in fact, this matter is very easy to deal with, that is, the bride price is for your brother or not for your brother, you can ask your boyfriend if his decision in two cases, so that you can take a certain approach according to his attitude towards these two situations, Tell your parents not to do things that may cause the man to be unwilling to get married for the sake of your life's events!

Since you and your boyfriend have already talked about marriage, you have to face the current situation in your family, your parents' attitude towards your marriage is very important, you should communicate with your parents, as long as your parents are not too harsh on your boyfriend's family, your boyfriend's family will not have an opinion. If your parents need your boyfriend to be responsible for your brother's wedding and house expenses, your love can only be defeated by reality in the end.

This may be your boyfriend too much, your brother is a girl, your parents. Raise. How could he be contacted?

As long as your brother isn't the kind of person who is lazy and lazy, I don't think it will cause any trouble for your future husband. People are also men, so why should they rely on your husband to support him? Well, quite the opposite.

you。You want sisters and brothers and sisters. It will be cultivated because of family affection.

Take care of each other. The kind of personality that accommodates will be of great help to your family life in the future and will bring a lot of benefits, so if your boyfriend understands this, he should cherish you and not use your younger brother as a shield. I hope he understands this, and I wish you all the best of luck.

The bride price is for you, not for your parents, as long as you don't give it to them, isn't it?

Since the bride price is given to the woman, it is the freedom of the woman to dispose of it, and it is not appropriate for you to care about how others use it.

Your boyfriend doesn't have the right to take care of your brother.

You can talk to your boyfriend about this kind of thing, tell him directly what you think, save him from thinking blindly and more likely to have problems, I wish you happiness.

How to use it can be negotiated by both parties in advance.

In fact, this is your own reason, don't complain, so find the reason from yourself.

Let's talk about it after the two sides have coordinated first.