In marriage, a woman should not save private money

Although marriage is a relationship between two people who support each other and are honest with each other, I will definitely save private money.

Not only will I save money for my own house, but I will also manage the family's finances. I think it is still good for women to save some private money, first of all, they have confidence, secondly, they have money to use when they encounter difficulties, then they can buy some small gifts for themselves, and finally they can make investments.

01. Be confident.

Money is definitely a person's confidence. It is best for a woman to be financially independent in marriage to earn money, if your husband is very good, he is willing to support you or you are a rich second generation, I didn't say it, but most women don't have this condition, so you must be financially independent. If you just want someone else to raise you, you might as well take a look at the following two scenarios.

Scene 1: You have done housework for a day and brought the children for a day, and your husband comes back and collapses directly on the sofa, and then you complain to him that you are tired of doing housework and taking care of the children at home, but your husband says, "You stay at home every day to enjoy happiness, I go out to work hard for you to earn money, are you embarrassed to say that you are tired?"

But what you don't know is that your husband's entertainment is just him going out with his friends to spend all day drinking.

Scene 2: You have a big fight with your husband and he yells, "Get out of my house!"

Because I am in a foreign country, I can't go home, and I don't have the money to go out to live in a hotel, let alone have my own small house. There is no way, you can only compromise at home, and even if you are beaten, there is nowhere to go, because you rely on others to support you.

02. Have money to use when you encounter difficulties.

You have money yourself, and you have money to use when you are in trouble. I remember seeing an incident where there was a couple who had an accident and both of them had an accident and both of the woman's legs were amputated but she was still worried about her husband. This husband was not injured multiple times, and divorced her directly, even with the divorce agreement.

It's all sent by others, and there is no penny left, it's really wolf-hearted, at least when people are better, I feel that I can't accept it and then divorce.

As you can see from the above, not everyone is reliable, and he is most likely to abandon you in the event of an accident, and he will not even pay for your medical expenses. Therefore, people still have to have money in their own hands, and these money are their own guarantees.

03. You can buy yourself a small gift.

It's a bit heavy, but it's not alarmist, and now you can talk about it. Private money can buy small gifts for yourself, or gifts for your lover and children. A sense of ritual in life.

It is still very important that these private money can improve a great sense of happiness in life. Or if you don't have that much budget when you buy something, but you like it very much, you can also fill it with private money at this time.

04. You can make investments.

Private money can also be invested, not only in money, but also in oneself. We can use our private money to learn some skills, such as musical instruments or dance. Don't say what specialties you learn at such an age, these things are things that can make us express our feelings when we are in a bad mood, and live to learn.

It's never too late to learn, and I don't rely on this to eat, it's just a hobby.

This needs to depend on the plot.

1) If the wife subjectively for the family, for the children, for the husband, secretly save private money, once there is a high stool short for emergency use, this is understandable, if you don't steal some money, the man squandered the family savings all the money, to really something, can't take out the money, and have to go around looking for someone to borrow, borrowed to say that you can't borrow that? Besides, you have to beg for help, if this situation is not bad, you will be able to save private money.

2) Secretly save some private money for her parents, she thinks that her parents are old, it is not easy to raise herself, and she should be filial piety as a daughter, but she always goes home to buy things or spends the family's money on her parents' medical treatment, which is easy to cause her husband's dissatisfaction, and the quarrels are constantly contradictory, so the wife in order not to make her own home, the war is raging, it is better to save some private money secretly, spend it conveniently, and secretly buy something for her parents, and you don't need to ask for instructions to report to see her husband's face and act.

3) The wife and husband seem to be safe and sound on the surface, but the undercurrent is surging in the heart, and the wife's life creed is "there are unforeseen circumstances in the sky, and people have good fortune and misfortune" Which comes first tomorrow or the accident? Who doesn't know? So she took precautions and saved a small amount of money by herself, and once her marriage broke down, she could deal with more private money.

This is also one of the reasons why she secretly saved her private money.

In fact, theoretically speaking, the wife should not save private money, which is unfaithful to her husband and a manifestation of external intentions. But in real life, it may not all lead to discord and divorce between husband and wife because of saving some private money. According to incomplete statistics, half of the couples now have to save private money, they are not to be distracted by who to turn their backs on, what to do, but to put the money in their pockets to spend freely, do not spend every money, and the other party is asked for instructions and report, the other party is willing to do it, unwilling to be another bad quarrel, too tired.

I think it is feasible for two people to deduct the family's reserves and the rest of the normal household expenses, half of each person, at their discretion.

Money is the economic foundation and lifeblood of the family, the husband and wife must distribute the common money, and at the same time leave the money at the discretion of both parties, so as not to steal me and be a thief, there is a good saying that "parents are more important than the mountain, and the love between husband and wife is as deep as the sea" I hope that our husband and wife will not be separated from us forever on the other side of the sea because of a few hanging money.

In marriage, both men and women should not save private money, because marriage is confessional, and there is nothing to hide from each other, only in this way will the marriage last.

Why save money for private housing? Do you sometimes take it out to the person you want to lend it to? I'm afraid that the other party will be unhappy, so I will save some money for emergency use.

In this case, tell the other party about the money, and then plan something, so that you don't need to hide these secrets, and directly tell him, how much money I have saved for my own personal use, no matter what I do? You don't have to interject, and then you can keep some for yourself, and the rest has some investment, or what kind of financial management? And then the two of them are talking to each other, which is also very good.

Of course, saving private money does not necessarily have to be hidden, just tell her directly, it can also be some of her own private assets, which can also exist.

Two people together, no matter what, as long as the way they get along is comfortable, as long as the two people accommodate each other and trust each other, it is better not to hide anything from each other, and it is better to say it publicly, otherwise it will be difficult to persist if you lose trust.

I saw a Q&A in the emotional circle, and it has been at the top of the emotional circle for the last two days. Because this question is too discussable and too resonant.

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This mother told that she was married for the second time, and she didn't know if she was not very firm in her feelings, and she would always feel insecure. She asked if she wanted to save some private money when she was taking care of her children at home. This Q&A is quite hot.

Since September 10th, it has been in the top position of all posts in the emotional circle for nearly two months, and the comments have been bombarded, with 659 comments, which shows the discussability of this issue.

Now I have to share my opinion. I, like many mothers, believe that women need to save some private money. Whether it's too scheming or not, as everyone says, men will become, it doesn't matter, the important thing is that your man can take out generously when you need money, but how many men will be generous after changing their minds and paying for everything for you?

It's good when two people are together, but when two people part ways one day, how can a woman who blindly takes care of her children at home have the ability to support herself? Or is her husband an iron rooster who doesn't pull out a dime, except for living expenses every month, there is no extra money for his wife, if you don't save some private money, if you need money one day, you will go to ** get it?

Of course, these statements of mine seem superficial. If you have enough confidence in your love, or like the landlord, your husband will hand over all your salary to yourself, so there is no need to save private money, and saving private money also depends on the situation.

The issue of saving money for private housing has been put aside for the time being, and in the last two years, I have deeply realized the importance of a woman's own financial independence. After several arguments, I wanted to run out for a drink, but when I opened the bag, I found it empty, which was actually an excuse. Since the beginning of this year, my husband has limited the cost of my living expenses in order to repay the debt, fixed how much money he gave me a month, and when he asked him for money after spending, he would always sigh, and then he would be suspicious, doubting where my money was going, and he would not consider how much it cost me to bring two children.

I have never thought of saving some private money, probably because it is a fixed monthly living expenses, so that I have no spare money to save, or maybe because I have long been accustomed to this kind of life, I will not consider saving private money, and when it is really time to use the money, I heard my husband's "interrogation" and suspicion, I also did not think about saving some private money, the only thing I want is to make money quickly, I don't need to look at his face when I make money, and my money is spent comfortably.

Finally, let's make a summary, whether to save private money or not depends on the relationship status of the two people, and a woman's economic independence is a must.

In marriage, a woman should save a little private money, which will make the woman feel secure enough.

Although it is said that when two people are married, they can put the money in the same place and use it together, but women will inevitably need to use money, such as buying something they like. If you need the consent of the other party in everything, you will be tired.

Although sometimes it is necessary to ask the other party's opinion when buying something, it is inevitable that the other party will object. At this time, if a woman has her own private money, then she can decide according to her own wishes without asking for the consent of the other party.

1. Give yourself a sense of security.

Women need to save money for their own homes.

There is a good saying that it is better to rely on others than on yourself. No matter who you are, in this era, it is difficult to survive without some money. Even if you are married, you need to save some private money, and if you have private money, you will have a sense of security. Especially, if there is a marriage change.

If a woman has private money, she will not be too embarrassed.

2. In case of emergency, women need to save private money. After getting married, there are more places to use money, if the family is a man who manages the money or the man spends money lavishly. When a woman uses money, she has to ask her husband for it, if her husband doesn't give it to you, and you don't have any money yourself, it is very difficult for a woman at this time.

In particular, when the woman's parents are sick, if they have money, they don't have to worry about having no money to use when they use it.

3. To buy what she needs, women need to save private money. Just like men love shoes, women love bags. If a woman has money, she doesn't have to look at her husband's face to buy things. You can't go wrong with earning your own money and spending it yourself, saving some money by yourself.

4. Women manage money and don't need to save private money. If in a family, it is the woman who manages the money, then the woman holds the financial power in her hand, and at this time, the woman has a sense of security when she has money, and she also has the right to control money, so that she does not need to save private money. Some women feel that husband and wife have a very close relationship, and there is no need to hide private money, so that husband and wife can trust each other.

In fact, the author believes that no matter what the situation is, after getting married, a woman still needs to save some private money, because a penny will also stump the hero. For women, saving some private money gives them a sense of security, and they can also be used in case of emergency, and they will not be too passive when they use their own money.

I've been married to my husband Bai for ten years, and I don't think women should be saved

There is private money. Having a DAO private money will make two people have a special estrangement. And it would be better for two people to be financially independent. I use my mobile phone and the Internet to share with my children at any time, and I have a stable income of several thousand yuan a month, and it is very simple and easy without investment, which is very good.

There must be, because there will be a lot of things in a lifetime, and it is best if you don't encounter something, and if you encounter something, it will test marriage and human nature. At least women keep private money to leave a way back for themselves, just don't have crooked thoughts.

Tonight, I learned that Bai's husband gave 6,000 thousand to his parents for living expenses, and his father can make money, and he usually has money on festivals! I said that I was uncomfortable, so I decided to save money for myself, I said that I was going to look for a job in September, and he didn't want him to say that he wanted me to teach children at home! I don't care, I can only save private money when I go to work!

At present, he spends more than 15,000 yuan a month, and he always spends money lavishly, and he doesn't know how to save money, so he gets angry when he thinks about it.