Let s talk about the psychology of those who like to be self cooked?

I just want to socialize with the people around me, and then I want to integrate into the new environment as soon as possible. This kind of person is still very easy to socialize with.

Quickly adapt to the new interpersonal environment, some jobs must be hot with people, such as the reception of foreign affairs in the unit, liaison activities, news reporters, sales positions, etc., which do not require in-depth communication, only require a good impression for the first time. ‍‍

My personality belongs to the introverted and shy type, for people who come to chat with the eye (this premise is very important), I am not guarded, easy to chat, a little familiar (because I think there are not so many bad people in this world, everyone is a similar environment, and they are all adults, just chat and talk easily, and make the atmosphere so embarrassing shows that you have low emotional intelligence and no personality charm!) ）

Start with a greeting, ask about the person's identity, and talk about hobbies; You can also start with an action and help the other person do something. I just want to take the initiative and then maintain a good relationship with the characters.

People who are familiar with each other will have a wider personal space, so their circle of friends can accommodate more people. People who are slow to heat up tend to have a narrower range of personal space, and the people around them need to pay more to squeeze in, so they will have a greater sense of distance at the beginning of the relationship. ‍‍

As an introvert, I used to be full of distrust of people I knew well, and I used to think that such people were villains and utilitarians who were good at pandering, etc. But after studying psychology and carefully observing such people around me, I realized that what I felt was an "unnatural" closer distance was actually just my feelings. ‍‍

I feel like I'm the kind of person I know! It's embarrassing! Ask me what kind of psychology I have, it's the kind of person who doesn't want to embarrass the atmosphere and thinks that he can mobilize the atmosphere, so he gets acquainted with others!

This kind of person can quickly get acquainted with the person he meets for the first time in an unfamiliar environment, there is not much sense of distance in his heart, he is natural, active and enthusiastic, and he quickly gets to know and establish relationships with people, but this kind of person's communication has breadth but no depth, and most of them are general friends. ‍‍

First of all, to explain, "self-acquaintance" is the first time you meet, behave like an old friend of the other party, and casually do not pay attention to any etiquette or concerns. On the surface, they are extremely cheerful and unafraid, and sometimes seem to ease the atmosphere.

You are like some dinners or banquets, not everyone can know each other, but sitting at the same table, at this time there are always one or two "self-cooked" people, will calmly take the initiative to chat, find topics to liven up the atmosphere, this is worthy of praise, because if they are all "stuffy gourds", how embarrassing the atmosphere should be, how to eat this meal, isn't it?

But some "self-familiar" people sometimes behave too self-righteously, really treat themselves as outsiders, just like the old ghost in **, sit down without people's consent, use other people's things, and interrupt other people's conversations to ask this and that, regardless of whether others want to or not, and even make some disgusting actions that seem to be very intimate. Such a person is naturally not welcomed.

There are some people who are particularly self-familiar, it must be because her personality is more outgoing, lively and cheerful, so that she is not afraid to communicate with others, and she is particularly self-familiar.

Second, self-cooked people appear to be too enthusiastic for people who are slow to heat, and third, self-cooked people make people feel too clingy.

In the dear, I am a heart counselor, worry-free heart whispering teacher asked questions.

Answer pro! To hate a person is not to like him very much, that is to say, he has a different personality from you, and from the heart he is more disgusted with the person he knows, he may be more disgusted with you in his heart, so he hates it.

Isn't it, the self-acquaintance is bothering you?

Ask a new colleague how to deal with the familiar ones.

Clause. Second, the enthusiasm for her can be ignored.

People who are familiar with you in person are born with an innate character, so it is not without feelings, ignoring you, and turning a blind eye to him will also stay away!

Did she bother you, dear?

Because some people are willing to beat their excitement and say some of their thoughts casually, some people, especially the introverted character, have a lot to do with it.

Because this is a social way for extroverts, through words and actions, they express their desire to get a quick response and achieve social success. Some people like it and some people hate it.

It's determined by character.,Outgoing.,Cheerful and lively people are particularly self-acquainted.。

It's a very outgoing personality, and it's good at talking and communicating, so such people are self-acquainted.

The reason why we hate self-familiarity: It is that we have a thought in our hearts that rejects strangers, and he is approaching and breaking our bottom line, so we feel annoying.

There are some people who are familiar with each other in a friendly mentality, and they want to make friends with all the people who are destined to know each other, their purpose is: multiple friends and multiple roads, first of all, they can open their hearts, and sincerely return to the stupid and you to socialize, like this kind of people, we also have to treat each other sincerely, who doesn't want to have fun in life, friends everywhere?

NEED NOTICE:

There is a type of person who shows a high degree of enthusiasm when they meet, but there is a little Jiujiu in their hearts, and they intersect with you to see if there is any use value, and even when you are in adversity, not only do not help each other, but also take the opportunity to say cool words, which can be described as extremely annoying. For this type of person, the only way to get away from it or simply ignore it is to make him feel bored.

There is also a type of person who makes you feel disgusted from the heart when you see it, and the other party is not aware of it, and is still like a magnetic dump falling into the ashes and pestering you, indicating that you are an old friend, taking the opportunity to dip or rub oil, this kind of person is the most annoying, but can not clearly express anything, and can only be treated in a cold way.

In short, in a complex society, as long as you behave in a proper way, know what kind of friends you should make, and make your words full of fun and sublimation!

Have you ever met the kind of person who calls you brother and sister as soon as they meet? Soon after we met, I asked you for all kinds of help and told you all kinds of things about her, but you weren't really interested in listening to it. This kind of person is self-cooked.

Self-acquaintance means that when two people meet for the first time, they are like old friends, chatting about the world, without so many cumbersome etiquette and concerns. She didn't think that the two of you had just met, and even that they had known each other for a long time, enough to be called good friends.

Self-cooked also refers to a person who is very cheerful and enthusiastic, very easy-going, not afraid of life, can eat on any occasion, and can deal with others very easily. Because they are lively and cheerful, they think that everyone they meet is a good friend. You can make a heart-to-heart for the first time.

People who are familiar with each other are easy to be ambiguous with the opposite sex because they are ridiculing or chatting too hot. So, does this mean that people who are self-cooked are more attentive?

It's easy to misunderstand people who are self-cooked. It's easy for a nervous person to think he's interesting to himself. In fact, they are just too talkative, and talking about it doesn't necessarily mean liking. It's a personality issue, maybe they don't bother themselves.

Today, however, the meaning of self-cooked has changed dramatically. More to describe a person, who has just met but confides in all his own things, and talks a lot to make people tired and unconscious. As soon as they meet, they treat each other as good friends, and even find someone to help unceremoniously.

Actually, you don't want to pay attention to it and don't want to listen anymore, but she still thinks that she is very good and thinks you love to listen. Wow! I really don't know how to describe it.

Do you think she really wants someone to help her, or does she really want to be your friend?

In fact, there are very few people who really care about you, and some even feel that self-cooked people can't stand it. Except for your parents, other people, especially people who are rarely acquainted, people who take the initiative to be close to you, are they attracted because of your personal charm? Probably not, they just want to find someone to talk to in you, to say something that others don't want to hear, because they talk too much, and there are no friends around you who have the patience to listen.

What's more, it's boring things that don't concern you.

Some are self-cooked, and the scary thing is not "self-come", but that they naturally skip the stage of "giving" at the beginning of making friends, and then go directly to "demand". There is no pay, only return. Why haven't I encountered such a good thing!

There is no mutual help, no comfort when she is sad, and she doesn't take you to heart, but asks you for tolerance and on-call "help" for her to do whatever she wants.

For this kind of self-cooking, I just want to say, how far away are you!

Stay away from self-cooked and live a good life.

To put it simply, self-acquaintances do not strictly follow the process of interpersonal communication, and they directly omit polite etiquette without going through a series of processes, which will make people feel a little abrupt.

Before we associate with strangers, we will set a bottom line in our hearts, that is, the difference between raw and acquaintances.

You can omit some unnecessary honorifics and humility in your words with acquaintances, and get straight to the point, and there will also be topics related to privacy and personal life.

Physically, you can step into each other's personal safety distance at will, and there may be some intimate contact, such as holding hands, hugging, whispering, etc.

In getting along, you can help each other.

Dealing with strangers, on the other hand, is limited to simple basic communication.

I think the reason why you hate someone you know is probably because he wantonly intrudes on your safe distance without a period of time or your consent, maybe he is hooking up with you, he is not so polite in his words, he speaks casually, or he unilaterally treats you as his friend, and makes you do something, making you feel very uncomfortable and disrespected.

There are many kinds of human personalities, and some people are introverted and rarely talkative.

There are also people who are cheerful, lively and intelligent. There is another type of person, that is, people who are very self-acquainted.

Self-cooked and lively and cheerful are not the same thing, and the two should not be confused.

I also have some people around me who are very familiar with me, how to say, for these people, I don't like them.

Especially for some people who are relatively introverted, staying with someone they know well for a long time is simply a disaster.

I have a classmate I know who is still on good terms, and when we first met, we didn't speak. At that time, we had just been placed in the same class.

I don't know when she came over and took my hand to look at my hand, and then told me that we would walk together every day from now on, and help me occupy a place in class.

And just like that, we became good classmates.

I think it's okay to borrow a computer if you have something, but it's not appropriate to take it away without thinking about it.

Self-acquainted people often can only think more about themselves when doing things, and lack to think about problems from the other person's point of view, so I don't like it.