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In a family, if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, then there is indeed a lot of pressure on the man. Because if your wife and your mother are arguing, you don't know who to help. After all, if you help your mother sometimes, you will be disliked by your wife afterwards; But if you help your wife, then your mother will also say that you don't care about family affection.
Therefore, since ancient times, the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been difficult to solve, so as a man, you must coordinate the relationship between two people.
Because in a family, relative to the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as a son or as a husband, it is quite a regulator between the two of them. So when your wife and your mother don't have a good relationship, then you must find a way to adjust the relationship between the two of them, rather than obviously favoring one person or the other. If you are clearly partial to one person, then the relationship between the two people will become more and more contradictory.
So if your wife is arguing with your mom, then I think you can separate them well and reason with them after they have calmed down.
Of course, you can't say to your wife: As juniors, let's let our elders go. If you tell your wife that, then your wife will definitely be even more angry.
But if you tell your own mother: It's not easy for my daughter-in-law to marry me all the way, mom, you can bear with it. If you really say such things in front of them, then I don't think you should think about having a peaceful family environment for the rest of your life.
So as a husband and as a son, then between his own mother and daughter-in-law, as long as he is fair and right。For example, if it's really someone who does something wrong, then I think you can say that. Instead of not saying a word, or going out to avoid the situation.
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There are many times when men are not at home, and some conflicts occur at this time, and they cannot be adjusted in time for a while. Only afterwards did I know that at this time, there was still a problem in the adjustment of mustard, and over time there would be greater contradictions.
Also, when I'm at home and angry, I can't see any contradiction at all, how can I break it?
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I have a deep understanding of the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, maybe when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are in conflict, the wife may be even weaker, and sometimes she doesn't even have the ability to argue, but some things will also be-for-tat, so I think that the harmony of the family needs the harmony of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship.
If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good in the family environment, then there will often be serious disputes due to certain things, which will make it more and more difficult for the children in the family. Because if he helps his mother and wife quarrel, then the love between husband and wife will be very sensitive, and it is very likely that this period of married life will not go to the end. But if the man speaks for his daughter-in-law, then his mother will be heartbroken, and his mother will say that her child has married her daughter-in-law and forgot her mother, and the man will bear the title of being unfilial to his parents.
Therefore, this man doesn't know what he should do, and he doesn't know what kind of behavior can make the relationship between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law better.
Which loss is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not very good, and in the end, they will be very stiff, but in the end, it is all the men in the family who are hurt by the result of the hail pin theory. Because he would otherwise lose the woman he liked, or he would quarrel with his biological parents and mother, the man in the family who was not very good between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was the saddest, and he did not expect to see this kind of scene the most.
So as long as there is a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there will be no real winner.
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The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very important in married life, which not only affects the relationship between husband and wife, but also affects whether the family atmosphere is harmonious, and in serious cases, it may even lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law that affects the relationship between husband and wife is superficially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but in fact, it is also related to an important person, that is, the son and the husband. This man is the bond between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, and the conflict between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law often arises because of this.
Even if the vast majority of mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are dissatisfied with each other, they will show tolerance and generosity for the sake of their sons and husbands, at least maintaining superficial harmony. Although they occasionally complain to men about each other's wrongs, as long as the problem is not put on the surface, it will have little impact on the relationship between young couples. If the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law are short-tempered and can't get used to each other, it is obvious that such a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship cannot get along, not only noisy and noisy on the surface, but also say that the other party is not in front of the man, and such a relationship will seriously affect the relationship between the husband and wife.
It is a matter of whether the family atmosphere is harmonious, if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not live together and do not meet many times, even if there is a conflict between the two, it is unlikely to affect the family atmosphere. But if the mother-in-law and the young couple live together, the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is very important. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good, even if it is not as close as mother and daughter, at least it is polite and calm.
If the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more intense, living together is a disaster. Because you don't see you when you look up, and you see people who affect your mood every day, the family atmosphere is definitely not harmonious enough, and your life is not happy. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law may lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife, and it is said that falling in love is a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families, which is very reasonable.
Because after getting married, the other party's parents become their elders, and if the relationship with the elders is not good, the elders are likely to be unwilling to let themselves marry their sons, and even if they get married, they will divorce their sons. In addition, in addition to the mother-in-law who interfered with it, there were also some daughters-in-law who couldn't stand the devastation of their mother-in-law and took the initiative to end their marriage. It can be seen that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has a lot to do with the marriage of husband and wife.
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It's not a contradiction, I think the daughter-in-law is the weak party, but when dealing with the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, now the mother-in-law will also take care of the daughter-in-law's feelings and will handle it very well. Mother-in-law has only one son, although there can be many daughters, generally have very high expectations for their sons, and hope that their sons can honor themselves well in the future, there are many such mothers-in-law, they think that the son is to prevent old age, the traditional concept has been ingrained in their thoughts, the son is their treasure, and naturally they want you to treat her son as a treasure, so there will be friction at this time. The daughter-in-law teaches her man in front of her mother-in-law and lets her man do something, so that the mother-in-law will feel uncomfortable, and her precious son will be instructed by the daughter-in-law to do this and that, so the smart daughter-in-law will try to praise her husband in front of her mother-in-law, so that the mother-in-law will be happy, and it will be easier for her to get along with her mother-in-law.
Daughter-in-law respects her mother-in-law Although her mother-in-law did not raise you, she raised her husband, so since you love your husband, you must understand your son's feelings towards **, and you must respect his ** with him, you also have parents, if **husband and your parents talk back and ignore it, will you be happy? So give your mother-in-law more smiles and chat with her more. If you are good to him, he will naturally be good to him.
Take care of your mother-in-law as if she were your own mother, and try your best to understand the personality or other shortcomings of the elderly. At the same time, when there is a conflict with your mother-in-law, don't make the "low-level mistake" of "fighting for a husband" with your mother-in-law. No matter how much your husband loves you, you can't replace her mother's weight.
Moreover, you can only be his wife, not his mother, and in that case, your marriage will be in danger. Treat your daughter-in-law as your own daughter, don't have the distinction of "other people's girls", get along with her with the mentality of treating your own children, and all problems will be solved. For the sake of a happy home, let us all learn to be wise mothers-in-law, wives and husbands!
The position of a man in dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very important, and a man who can do things pleases both his mother and his wife. Principle 1: Don't do bad things and send microphones, only good words; If you don't have one, make it up yourself; Principle 2, be careful, when you find that there are signs of conflict between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you should buy some gifts out of your own pocket to please the two women, but you must inform each other that it is the other party's money. Principle three, do not praise each other's benefits in front of your mother or wife, this will make each other jealous, and you can talk about the small problems that are not eye-catching, but you can't say the fatal big shortcomings.
Be sure to praise the woman in front of you for being good, and criticize another woman for being bad.
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It is particularly important that men must do a good job as a conciliator, must say good things for each other, must not be eccentric, and must create a particularly good family environment.
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Hello, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, in fact, is not the fault of one person, but the responsibility of both parties, whether it is a daughter-in-law or a mother-in-law, once there is a conflict, it means that both people are problematic.
Some mothers-in-law are very strong, in this case, they will feel that the daughter-in-law is appropriate to laugh at this outrageous, and some daughters-in-law on one side are very strong, no matter how good the mother-in-law is, the daughter-in-law is not satisfied, the son swallows his anger, and there are many mothers-in-law who have suffered a lot of grievances. So it depends on the situation, not that it is very strong, it depends on the situation. In the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law is often not the weak side, but the daughter-in-law is the isolated and helpless side of the son-in-law.
1. Don't compare your mother-in-law with your mother.
Mother-in-law treats her daughter and son better than her daughter-in-law, that is nature, there is no need to be jealous. The mother-in-law is kind to other concubines, and the daughter-in-law can also understand it, because everyone has people who are inexplicably pleasing to the eye, which is normal. Mother-in-law is good to her husband's brother, that's more understandable, that's your husband's problem, it's none of your business.
Don't compare your mother-in-law with your mother, Sakura Haru's daughter is the meat that fell from her mother, can she have no feelings?
Second, there is a kind of man who loves to avoid problems, loves and mud, on the surface no one helps anyone, in fact, it is to throw all the problems to his wife, let his wife suffer all the grievances, he has neither the courage to face the contradictions, nor the responsibility and responsibility as a man. Therefore, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting worse and worse, and the wife is becoming more and more aggrieved.
3. In fact, there is no bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in this world, only a husband who does not act. When every woman gets married, she wants to live a good life, but in the end, because of her husband's inconsiderate and undistressed, she is forced to become strong.
Fourth, as a husband, if you want a good relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and you want your wife to be gentle and considerate, then you must show your attitude, because a woman's state after marriage depends on her husband's attitude. As a husband, when there is a conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he should stand on his wife's side without hesitation, but most men do not do this well, so it indirectly leads to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law getting worse and worse.
Therefore, getting along in a family, as a husband is also very important, if the husband does not deal with it correctly, it will exacerbate the conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and only the sensible mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship will get along well.
Good luck.
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The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, it must be the reason for the man's inaction, if the man can handle it well, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not have a conflict The relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, it must be the reason why the man has not handled it well, because the man is the husband of the mother-in-law. It must be the man's fault, because he didn't treat his mother as his own mother. This is difficult to deal with, generally because of the man, if the man can handle the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law very well, then there will be no bad relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law.
I think that if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, it should be due to both, and there are some reasons for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I think it's the mother-in-law's reason, because the mother-in-law doesn't like the daughter-in-law, so the relationship is not good, and the mother-in-law should be kind to the daughter-in-law. If the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, it must be the responsibility of the man, because there is no blood relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law, so the man must handle the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law.
As the saying goes, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in a beautiful family is very important, and if the relationship is harmonious, the family will be happy and enjoy the joy of family! The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law refers to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in a family, which has been very complex, special and difficult to deal with since ancient times. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should first adjust the mentality of both parties, and communication should be the main principle. >>>More
The medical blood type advises harmony halfway and gives up.
Look at your wife is also a college student, the quality is too low, you are the same as me, she followed you when she was not married, it doesn't matter what happens, we will have everything when we slowly struggle, and then hurt you and your family again and again, forcing an old mother to die, sad or yourself, the old mother said that you married your wife and forgot your mother, and the wife said that you are not capable, he will keep saying that you are dead, I don't believe you try, there will be more and more, and finally you will only have a shell left, you can get by, Husbands and wives are eating together, so why not understand their husbands. Brother, sympathize.
Oh, the feeling you said is the same as I used to, my mother-in-law also loves to be clean, the house is well tied, I was like that when I first started, and I didn't like to talk too much, because I didn't know it well. Every time my boyfriend would teach me, saying that he would help his mother to collect the bowl, I didn't want to go, I didn't think the would let me wash it anyway, but he taught me, saying that it was one thing for her to let me do it, and whether I went or not was another thing, I was very obedient, so I went, and before my hand touched the bowl, her mother said no, let me play, and I went to play immediately. Oh, I don't know if your mother-in-law is the same as my mother-in-law, anyway, what is said above is similar to my mother-in-law, my experience is that first of all, be good to his son, and chat with his old man after he is acquainted, don't say that his son is not ha, even if it is wrong, you should not criticize her son in front of her old man. >>>More
One of the reasons why the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot be handled well in marriage is because the mother-in-law is dissatisfied with you, so no matter what you do, the mother-in-law will not like you, so the conflict between you will always exist. It is also possible that there is a misunderstanding between you and your mother-in-law, so your relationship has been very stiff.