Fables about self preservation

The fable of The Fox Eats Grapes is well-known, but in fact, this story also reflects a psychological phenomenon that is more common in people's daily lives.

When people encounter difficulties and resistance in study, work and life, they consciously or unconsciously produce an adaptive tendency to relieve tension and restore emotional balance. Just like the fox in the fable, belittle what you can't get in order to balance your own psychology, which is a self-protection mechanism of human beings, which is called "sour grapes psychology" in psychology. This psychological adjustment mechanism no longer has the derogatory connotation of fables.

The "sour grapes mentality" is our psychological guardian to justify things and comfort ourselves with reasons that we can accept to avoid more serious psychological damage.

Famous American actress Sonia Smitz spent her childhood on a dairy farm outside Ottawa, Canada.

At the time, she was studying at an elementary school near the farm. One day she came home and cried very aggrieved, and her father asked why. She said intermittently

One of the girls in the class said I was ugly and that my running posture was ugly. When my father heard this, he just smiled. Suddenly he said:

I can touch the ceiling of our house. Sonia, who was crying, was amazed and wondered what her father wanted to say, so she asked, "What did you say?"

My father repeated: "I can feel the ceiling of our house." ”?

Sonia forgot to cry and looked up at the ceiling. Nearly 4 meters high ceiling blue year, can my father touch it? She didn't believe it.

The father smiled and said proudly, "Don't believe it? Then don't take that girl's word for it, because some people don't tell the truth!

Sonia understands in this way, you can't care too much about what others say, you have to make your own decisions!

At the age of twenty-four or five, she was already a well-known actress. Once, she was going to attend a rally, but her agent told her that because of the bad weather, only a few people attended the rally, and the atmosphere at the venue was a little cold. What the broker means is that Sonia has just become famous and should spend her time on some big ones.

activities to increase their fame. Sonia insisted on attending the rally because she had promised in the press that she would attend, "I will make good on my promise." As a result, the gathering in the rain, because of Sonia's participation, more and more people in the square, her fame and popularity skyrocketed.

Seep Huitan. Later, she made her own decisions, leaving Canada to act in the United States, and became famous all over the world.

Taking your own ideas, of course, is not to go your own way, but to be loyal to yourself and believe in yourself. In a rough life, many times we have to make our own decisions!