How do I talk to my child, how do I talk to my child? Is your chat method right?

Talking to your child like this, his minor problems will be reduced.

1. Don't force the child to collapse, everyone has an inner world that they don't want people to peep at, what if he is the child you gave birth to, you can't enter this world. Parents should understand this distance and not force their children to ask questions they don't want to ask. Asking questions will only make your child more resistant to you and unwilling to talk to you.

2. Don't always deny children, just ask us when we are chatting with others. When we say a word, others will question and deny it, do we still have the desire to talk? It's definitely gone, it's the same with the child, we deny the child, and the child naturally doesn't want to continue chatting with me.

3. The attitude can't be too serious, I have the impression that my father's attitude is always very serious, which makes me afraid to talk to his old man, and I have been afraid since I was a child. I think many children are like me, knowing that our father loves us, but they are afraid to be close to him because they are too serious. The attitude of our parents should not be too serious, it will scare us away.

4. Don't be too verbose, and your mother is always too verbose, and often a casual sentence will be pondered by her old man for a long time. And then I'll ask you what's going on. You have a lot of troubles, and you have to deal with your mother, so naturally you don't want to talk to your mother.

5. I always can't understand you, those children who have a bad relationship with their parents are actually really pitiful, and in the eyes of outsiders, they may be very unfilial. Who knows, there are thousands of kinds of suffering in their hearts, and every family is different, but the same thing is that their parents don't understand their feelings, and how painful it is not to be understood by their own parents.

6. Only listen and don't preach, the way children like to talk to their parents should be only listening and not preaching. Everyone understands the great truth, but everyone is annoyed when they hear it, and philosophers do not live by the great truth. The great teachings of parents will only become the preaching we hate, and what we want is the understanding and listening of the father and the mother.

Let's take a look at the conversation between a host and a child

Interviewer: What do you want to be when you grow up?

Child: I want to be an airplane pilot.

Moderator: What if one day your plane flies into the sky and suddenly runs out of fuel and stalls?

Kid: I'll tell the people on the plane to buckle up, and then I'll jump out with my parachute

…Started to make .........

Hearing this, are we adults ready to preach?

However, at that time, the host then asked.

Moderator: Why are you doing that?

Kid: I'm going to get fuel, I'm coming back.

Because children's expression skills are limited, they often can't express the full meaning of a sentence, so be more patient and listen to your child's words.

The real attitude and inner words of children, because we are eager to preach and deny, make us adults unable to see and hear clearly.

When we adults think back to the chats we usually have with our children, are they often these rough sentences:

How was the exam today?

Did your teachers praise you?

Did you get a little red flower today?

Do your classmates have a good relationship with you?

Always ask your child about these things, but have nothing else to say. After a long time, you are not annoyed, but the child is already annoyed

So how do parents talk to their children?

First, learn to listen and shut up.

Parents should first learn to listen and learn to shut up. Let the child finish the conversation, and let the child talk nonsense more. Parents just need to keep their ears up and be neutral.

Second"Nonsense" about children, show interest.

How do you show interest in your child's topic? Even if the adults on the rockside are really not interested, you have to restrain yourself and pretend to be interested Adults are followers of the topic, and children are the outputs of the topic. When the child speaks, he echoes from time to time and shows great interest.

When your child sees that you are so interested, he will definitely say what he thinks or does not want to say. Only in this way can parents go into the hearts of their children and understand them deeply.

Clause.

3. Chat with your child and try not to have negative sentences.

For example: You wrote your assignment quickly today, but there are mistakes...

This "but" is the negation. Let's switch to another way of saying it:

Your assignment for today was written quickly, and if you pay a little more attention or check it more often, your assignment will be perfect

Experience, is it better than the first statement, or do we adults have a better way of saying it, we can use it to share...

The expression of the same thing, in another way, in another tone, is different, the listener feels differently, and the final result is even different.

1. Experience the child's feelings, and communicate with the child is first to establish an emotional connection with the child, when the child is emotionally recognized, he can slowly soothe his emotions. What parents have to do is that when the child is dominated by the right brain of emotions, do not reason immediately, but through the connection between the right brain and the right brain, that is, the emotional connection, transfer the child's consciousness from the right brain to the left brain, and wait for the child's emotions to transfer to the left brain before they can start reasoning.

2. Communicate with effective language, effective language is actually simple, short, and repetitive language, which is especially important for younger children. Many parents complain that their children are disobedient, in fact, a large part of it is because the child simply does not understand what they are saying, for young children, parents speak too fast, too long, too complex or vague language, children are like listening to the book of heaven, if you want your child to follow their own instructions, you must first make the instructions simpler, it is best to break them into steps.

3. Gentle tone, psychologists have found that when parents talk to their children, the more gentle the tone of speech, the easier it is for you to pay attention to your parents' words. If your child makes a mistake, don't lose your temper right away, stop and look at him first, and tell him about the mistake in a calm tone so that he can listen.

4. Accurate expression, so that children can understand, as an adult, when speaking, they will use some language skills to make the words more in-depth. However, when talking to children, we must pay attention to the fact that children's small heads do not understand too advanced words, and parents should use statements to express only one meaning in a sentence, so that children can understand and be able to respond to parents and communicate effectively.

<> "I don't know how to talk to my child and memorize these mantras.

Into the heart of the child).

1.Mom and Dad didn't expect you to think of it!

2.Do it boldly, it doesn't matter if you do it wrong, the important thing is that you did it seriously!

3.There are always more solutions than difficulties.

4.It's time for us to make the game!

5.Have faith in yourself.

6.I like the way you smile.

7.You have a lot of point, and I'm going to go on.

8.You are smart enough to solve this puzzle in the simplest way.

10.You've worked hard, and if you stick with it a little longer, this problem will be solved.

11.You're growing taller again!

12.Let's see which of us gets home first.

13.Do you want to eat what you want, and let's make it together?

14.Child, you are so sensible and help your mother with a lot of housework.

15.Are you really capable, do you still need your mother to help you?

16.Think about what is your happiest thing about today?

17.I'm sorry, I misunderstood you.

18Are you having fun with your friends today? Let's talk about it.

19.What do you think about this? How do you want to solve it?

20.We don't understand this question, but we can find the answer together.

21.Cry if you want to, and you'll be stronger than before after crying.

22.This month we overspended, let's see who has more ways to save.

23.If you don't want to say it to your mother, you can say it to your father.

24.There are a lot of things we need to learn, so don't worry, come the same.

25.Did Mom and Dad do anything wrong today?

26.You think about it for a moment and don't rush my question.

27.Mommy needs to take a break, you have to take care of yourself!

28.Which question do you feel unsure of?

29.People love to hear your stories.

30.You must know that it is better to rely on others than on yourself.

31.With your reminder, mom won't forget to bring her keys!

32.Do it again and see how different the results are.

33.The little rabbit needs you to take care of it.

34.It doesn't matter, you can ask for more advice and check more information.

35.You are so polite, we should all learn from you.

1.When mom and dad talk to the baby, the voice should be gentle, and talk to the baby more often every day so that the baby is familiar with your voice.

2.When mom and dad chat with the baby, they should look into the baby's eyes with their eyes in their eyes, and make Bao Ju Sakura laugh more happily.

3.When mom and dad are chatting with the baby, they can take a small toy and play Song Xiang with the baby together, so that the baby can move more.