What to do when you hate yourself for being incompetent?

Go with the flow, plain is true. Your efforts are always rewarded. Learn to adjust the criteria for self-evaluation, evaluate your ability to act according to specific events, work hard is necessary, and after hard work, be relieved.

Change what can be changed, accept what can't be changed. Life is like a relay race, just like that, the road is not smooth without smooth sailing. The road ahead of you is very rough and bumpy, you have to have confidence in yourself, everything will pass, come on, let's work together.

In fact, I just want to tell you that life is our most basic thing, and the ** of life is ourselves, if you don't pay attention to this issue, maybe your life will be very bad. So life, love, career, friendship, if you want to get it, you have to maintain a good attitude and live a good life. It's wonderful, to live your perfect life, do you understand, the ** of life is yourself, grasp the current life, I think you will be very happy, I wish good people a safe life.

You can do something you love to enrich your life. Every day, we must maintain a good attitude, be happy, happy, and happy, and be in a good mood like anything else. <>

Putting aside external influences and expectations, we put our hearts and souls into action on what we love. When you hate yourself for not being able to do anything, it means that you realize that you are not really trying, at least objectively, that your efforts are not enough, or that you are not doing the right thing. As a 2 consecutive years of 359 and finally 413 passed the exam, no one is incompetent, if you feel that you are really incompetent, it can only mean that you are misplaced resources, there is no useless garbage, only misplaced resources.

That's all, good luck. Others don't understand you, don't you understand yourself, be kind to yourself. Know what you want to do, and then do what you have to do.

You can't help the pressure from your family, just hide from it and talk about it after the exam. Don't give yourself a back path, especially when preparing for the bar exam. Why hate yourself, do what you have to do, do what you can, just do it with your heart, no matter whether you succeed or fail, you have to believe in yourself.

I will reflect on myself and then work hard. Get a good night's sleep, think carefully, don't be impetuous, maybe the opportunity is right in front of you. Less desire, less comparison, more contentment, balance, live according to your own ability, don't let other people's living conditions affect your mood.

Change what can be changed, accept what can't be changed. Don't lose yourself. In fact, if you put this problem here, it means that you hate and desire to solve this problem, and you have chosen to face it, instead of running away, then you should expose your unhappiness to a place where everyone can help you solve it.

Do what interests you most. If you don't succeed in your career, find ways to improve your skills and start with what interests you most. Or look for other opportunities for success. Plan to do activities that will bring you happiness and confidence, especially on weekends, such as cleaning your room, riding a race bike, writing letters, listening to **, shopping, etc.

In addition, it is important to have a regular life. Try to eat on time, have a regular routine, and arrange a period of physical exercise every day. Participating in physical exercise can improve a person's mental state, improve the function of the autonomic nervous system, and benefit people's mental health.

Make good friends. People who regularly associate with friends are in a much better state of mind than those who are withdrawn and alone, especially when things are bad, and "friends are good doctors." Making friends is first of all a confidant who can confide in your heart, but also to make some funny, funny, and pleasant friends.

Make it a habit to keep in touch with friends frequently, so that you can avoid and heal feelings of loneliness and alienation, and reduce symptoms of depression. <>

Yesterday, I opened Mr. Lin Yutang's "The Biography of Su Dongpo" again, Lin Yutang said that Su Dongpo has never hated anyone in his life, because hating others is a manifestation of his inability.

I am quite touched by the saying that hating others is a manifestation of my own inability.

I wonder, when do we tend to hate others?

Is it resentment when you are treated unfairly?

Is it jealousy when you feel inferior to other Minghuai people?

Or is it the loss of wanting but not getting?

I feel that it all has to do with a person's ability.

Suppose that one day we are capable of reaching this point.

Strong enough that others have to be fair to my big silver, strong enough that we ourselves don't think inferior to others, strong enough to have the ability to get what we want,...

At that time, will the hateful factor in our hearts disappear naturally?

Therefore, before we want to hate someone in the future, we have to think about it: Am I strong enough to be self-defeating?

After all, hating others is a sign of one's own inability.

And only when we ourselves slowly become stronger, will the bad feeling of hatred go away from us!

Don't be discouraged, don't give up, everyone has their own shining point, they all have their own good side, and now you are just hitting a wall in the field that you are not good at.

We must believe that there will always be opportunities, don't compete with ourselves, take advantage of the trend, follow the trend like a Tai Chi pusher, and learn to use the surrounding resources. Cherish the present, the contented are always happy, don't have too many ideas, of course, it doesn't mean that you don't have a mind to live, don't think too much, cherish the work in front of you, don't eat in the bowl and look at the pot, because every time you work, it may bring you a new beginning. Sorry is a kind of sincerity, it doesn't matter a kind of demeanor, if you pay sincerity, but you can't get the demeanor, it can only show the ignorance and vulgarity of the other party.

The road is bumpy and unpredictable, and the wind is strong to train the men.

What is failure? Nothing, just one step closer to success; What is success? It is that all the roads leading to failure have been passed, and there is only one road left, and that is the road to success.

Firmness of purpose is one of the most necessary sources of strength in character and one of the weapons of success. Without it, genius would also be in vain in the maze of contradictions.

I'm glad to answer this question for you, and I see your description of this problem, and my personal opinion, and the movie for you, is this: First of all, you describe that you hate yourself for being incompetent, so first of all, everyone will experience this, it is not hate, this is a kind of helplessness, if you feel that you are incompetent, you feel that you are not comprehensive, then we can continue to work hard to improve ourselves to change this situation, just thinking in our hearts, regretting is useless, we still have to work hard to change, so that we will not regret it in the future So that you don't have any regrets, and that will solve the problem.

If you have missed it, you will face and accept it calmly, treat yourself as a guest, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and it is better to slowly improve yourself if you hate your own kung fu, not necessarily how strong you are, but you have been working hard, so that you can grasp the opportunity when it comes.

No matter how much you hate yourself, hatred can't change your current life and thoughts.

So only by adjusting your mentality, if your mentality is good, everything will get better, and if your mentality is not adjusted well, you can only say that your mentality will get worse and worse.

You are incompetent and unique in the world, you must cherish yourself, life can not be compared, as long as you work hard, work hard.

I was born to be useful, 360 lines, the line is the champion, don't give up on yourself. Just work hard, and leave everything to Providence.

I have failed in everything I do, I am very unsuccessful, I hate myself, but I have to work hard.

Don't give up on yourself, everyone has their own usefulness, find out their own shining points, give full play to their own strengths, and be an extraordinary person.

Work hard slowly and you won't regret your efforts.

Then try to be useful.

In our lives, we will meet the people you love the most, the people who love you the most, and the people who will spend your life together.

First of all, you will meet the person you love the most, and then you will experience the feeling of love;

Because you understand what it feels like to be loved, you can discover the people who love you the most;

When you have experienced loving and being loved, and learned to love, you will know what you need, and you will find the most suitable person for you and be able to get along for a lifetime.

But sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person;

The one you love the most often doesn't choose you;

What loves you the most is often not what you love the most;

And the longest-lasting, it's not your favorite or the person who loves you the most, it's just the person who appears at the most suitable time.

How many people will you be in someone else's life?

No one deliberately wants to change his mind, he really loves you when he loves you, but he really doesn't love you when he doesn't love you, and there is no way to pretend not to love you when he loves you;

In the same way, there is no way for him to pretend to love you when he doesn't love you.

When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you have to ask yourself if you still love him, and if you don't love him anymore, don't refuse to leave for the sake of poor self-esteem;

If you still love him, you should want him to live happily, hope that he is with the person he really loves, and will never stop him, if you prevent him from getting real happiness, it means that you don't love him anymore, and if you don't love him, what right do you have to accuse him of changing his mind?

Love is not possession, you can't tell the reason for really loving someone, you only know that no matter when and where, good or bad, you want this person to accompany you;

The real relationship is that the two can stay together in the most difficult situation, that is, without the slightest requirement.

After all, feelings must be given, not just wanted to be gained;

Separation is an inevitable test, and if your relationship is not stable enough and you have to admit defeat, true love will not turn into resentment. So in the end.

It is to choose which one to believe in fate, and everything will go naturally.