What should we do when faced with children who are only willing to pay and are unwilling to take car

Filial piety is our Chinese nation.

The traditional virtues of parents, it is not easy for parents to raise their children all their lives, it took half a lifetime of hard work and time, but it is not easy for young people nowadays, in order to live away from home, away from their parents, and can not be filial piety by their parents' side, in fact, their hearts are ashamed, so they are willing to pay, after all, it is absolutely impossible to survive in society without money, and you can spend money to take care of a nanny with money, as parents should also understand the difficulties of their children.

I'm afraid that some children don't want to take care of their parents and can't pay for it, so it really chills the hearts of parents.

If you are faced with children who are only willing to pay money and are unwilling to take care of their parents, then I suggest that the elderly should let them pay more money, and then the elderly go to the nursing home to rest, and there are many things in the nursing home that can be worth the elderly to enjoy, such as raising birds to watch the newspaper play chess, drink tea and chat, which is very good, and will make a lot of old friends.

So I suggest that if they don't want to take care of their parents, then they should pay more and also go home more often to see the elderly, which is a good way to go.

When the parents are old, the son and daughter are in middle age, and the work and career are in the heyday of the unit, and the child needs to spend a lot of energy in the learning and training stage. It's really not that you don't want to take care of your parents, but people are indeed lacking in skills when they reach middle age, which makes people exhausted, and even overwork and sudden death. It was at that time that I was working and taking my children to school in the morning and evening, and after I renovated my parents' house and took it to the city to settle down, I also fell ill.

So in this case, you can only pay to hire a nanny to take care of your elderly parents. Of course, it is not excluded that those unfilial children who gnaw at their parents when they are young, have nothing to do all day long, and are idle, and ignore their parents when they are old and need to be taken care of, in that case, it is impossible to force them to take care of their parents' bedside, and they can only be financially forced to pay a certain amount of alimony every month, and send the elderly who have no one to take care of them to nursing homes or hire nannies to take care of them.

Personally, I feel that the more successful people are, the farther away from their parents, they are only willing to pay, unwilling to take care of their parents, to be precise, it is not that they are unwilling to take care of their parents, but they can't take care of them for work reasons. However, some people say that it is better for parents and children to live separately, as the saying goes, distance produces beauty. Uncle opposite my house, such a big house only their old couple lived, he was very happy every day, in the morning before we went to work he was downstairs square dance, and in the evening with a lot of aunts and uncles square dance.

I met a lot of friends, and I lived every day to the fullest. It's much better than those who don't want to pay and don't want to take care of their parents. In fact, the old people nowadays also want to open it, live separately from the children, and the children come to see it once a weekend.

Filial piety is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. Then filial piety to parents should be done, respect and care, obey wishes, do not lose food and shelter, clean clothes and warmth, and medical treatment. Let the parents live healthily, happily and with self-esteem in their old age.

Children should be filial to the elderly, this is a matter of course, this kind of filial piety, often not just money, is the spiritual comfort, is the soul of care, is a warm greeting. In the face of only willing to pay, unwilling to take care of their parents, it is not that the children are not filial, living in the moment, it is really involuntarily, to blame can only be blamed, this hateful society, the pace of life is accelerated, a day does not work hard, that comes to eat, drink and wear, there is no money where filial piety, I hope that parents and children want to be tolerant and understanding of each other, children should often go home to see, to give parents spiritual comfort! ‍‍

Your children may be busy with work and don't have so much energy. Those who have money will pay, those who have power will contribute, don't compare, whoever is filial is whom, and those who accumulate blessings. Since you have the money, you can find a nanny or a part-time worker to help, let the family do the big work, clean up and cook a meal, and buy a grocery store.

Now it is convenient to have a washing machine, gas, running water. Calm your mind, good people are rewarded. ‍‍

Find a better nursing home, it is better to have professional care than children, children also have to work and have a family, it is a mistake to raise children to prevent old age, filial piety is natural but don't hinder their lives, how to support his family without even work, and serve you every day? Don't be too selfish and considerate of each other, have money to contribute, make a strong contribution to filial piety, and take care of the children and the elderly who are incapable! Long live understanding!

No conscience (unless the parents are not responsible for the children before) Don't say that there is no time, filial children will come to take care of or fight ** if they don't have time, after all, it is not safe to hand it over to others.

My colleague's mother-in-law is over 90. It is inconvenient to take care of it at home. Finally, it was sent to a nursing home.

Very nice, accompanied, all professionals, exercising every day. The family goes to the nursing home every day after work. Very satisfied.

More than 5 thousand a month. It's inconvenient to chat and take care of when you're at home. It's lonely.

When I arrived at the nursing home, I was accompanied by a special person. Say hello when you meet. It's not an ordinary nursing home, it's a hospital-like companion center.

It depends on the person's situation. There is one that can't move, ** will be higher.

Since the money is paid, if the elderly can take care of themselves, then so be it, after all, the children are also busy, and it is common to have no time, if the parents are paralyzed in bed and the children are not taken care of, it is necessary to solve the problem through legal means.

It's useless to go to a nursing home or nursing home, and they have their own work and life. What I'm most afraid of is that I don't have money, I don't have the strength, and I'm helpless when I'm old.

It is much better than those who don't care whether the old man lives or dies, sometimes people have to accept their fate, and sometimes they have to be content.

This kind of behavior is wrong and illegal. It is an offence for parents not to pay their children for maintenance. Parents have the right and obligation to raise and educate their minor children, and if parents do not give their children living expenses, they may file a lawsuit with the court to request that they pay their living expenses.

The period of payment of living expenses is generally until the child reaches the age of 18. Parents who are over 16 years old but under 18 years old and whose main livelihood is their labor income and can maintain the general standard of living in the local area may stop paying living expenses.

Legal basis]: Article 26 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China Parents have the obligation to raise, educate and protect their minor children. Adult children have an obligation to their parents to support, support and protect them.

Article 1067 Where parents fail to perform their obligation to support them, minor children or adult children who are unable to live independently have the right to demand that their parents pay child support. Parents who fail to fulfill their obligation to support their adult children, or who lack the ability to work or who have difficulties in living, have the right to demand maintenance from their adult children.

If the parents do not provide the children with living expenses, the children can find a job and earn money to support themselves through their own efforts. Of course, before that, it is necessary to prepare for Yuxiang according to the actual situation, such as learning some useful things and accumulating some practical abilities and knowledge. You can also seek help from family, friends, or local relief agencies.

In short, even if parents are unable or unwilling to provide for their children's living expenses, their children can overcome difficulties and achieve their goals through hard work.

Parents have the obligation to raise and educate their children, and parents shall pay the living expenses of their children attending school. If the parents fail to fulfill the obligation to support them, the child who is a minor or who is unable to live independently has the right to demand maintenance from the parents.

According to the Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China:

Article 21: Parents have an obligation to raise and educate their children; Children have an obligation to support their parents.

If the parents do not fulfill the obligation to support them, the children who are minors or who are unable to live independently have the right to demand that the parents pay child support.

In the event that a child fails to fulfill his or her maintenance obligations, the parent who is unable to work or who is in difficulty in living has the right to demand maintenance from the child.

Infant drowning, infant abandonment and other acts of infant mutilation are prohibited.

According to the relevant provisions of the Supreme People's Court's "Several Specific Opinions on the Handling of Child Support Issues in Divorce Cases by People's Courts":

The people's courts hear divorce cases.

The issue of child support shall be properly resolved in accordance with articles 29 and 30 of the "Marriage Law of the People's Republic of China" and relevant legal provisions, starting from the interests of the children's physical and mental health, protecting the lawful rights and interests of the children, and taking into account the specific circumstances of both parents, such as their ability to raise and their conditions for support.

On the basis of the above principles, combined with trial practice, the following specific opinions are put forward:

11. The period of payment of child support allowance is generally until the child reaches the age of 18. Parents who are over 16 years old but under 18 years of age, whose main livelihood is their labor income**, and who are able to maintain the general living standard of the locality, may stop paying child support expenses.

12. In any of the following circumstances, adult children who have not yet lived independently, and their parents have the ability to pay, they shall still bear the necessary childcare expenses:

1) Unable to work or not completely incapacitated, but their income is not enough to support their livelihood;

2) Those who are still in school;

3) There is no ability and conditions for independent living.

That's because you know that money is hard-won, money has to be spent on the blade, and it can't be wasted, it's because you've formed a habit, in fact, it's also very good, why do you have to change it. If you really can't bear it, then think: I will return it to my parents in the future, and if I really feel guilty, then prepare a small notebook and write down what money my parents have spent, which should reduce the guilt.

How to say it! I think there are several reasons for this. First, it was not easy to make money in the past, and after a long time, I developed the habit of not being willing to spend money.

The second is that I am older, I have experienced more things, I have seen many things, and I don't care much about material enjoyment, but about spiritual enjoyment. The third is to be low-key and don't like to show off. The fourth is to plan for you, earn as much money as possible for you, so that you can live a better life, which can be seen from whether your parents care about spending money on your life.

It depends on how reluctant to do it, spending some money on friends is for the sake of human affection, and in the parents who don't need human affection, they will also like you and love you, but think about it from another angle, if your parents are sick and need hundreds of thousands, you will not hesitate or even if it is not enough, you can be willing to smash the pot and sell iron, but for others, at least I can't do this part, so there is nothing reluctant to be reluctant to, don't be too guilty, the feelings for your parents will always be greater than for your friends.

Many things need to be affirmed first, and then look at some of the shortcomings.

If the children are rich and free and filial, then it must be good to contribute money and effort and always be by their parents' side.

But now many people can't help themselves, their parents are in their hometown, their children are working in the city, if they return to their hometown to accompany the elderly, there will be no job opportunities or income will be greatly reduced, and they still have wives and children, maybe this small family will not be able to take care of.

I may also want to take care of my parents, but I may not be able to get an extra room because of the shortage of housing right now. It may also be that both husband and wife have to go to work, and they can't take care of their parents on weekdays, and if they live together, they may have to take care of them, cook for them, and take care of their children, which will add a burden to their parents. Another biggest problem is that living with parents can easily cause conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is not good for the small family and everyone in the long run.

If you want to raise your son but you can't wait for your family, what is the best way? That is, the money that the children should pay is in place, and they usually have to interact more with their parents.

If you are not far from your parents, then go to see your parents more often on weekends, or visit your parents once or twice a month, and let your children live with their parents to accompany the elderly during the winter and summer vacations.

In today's society, it is good that children are willing to pay, and the elderly can at least have no worries about food and clothing, and if they have difficulty moving, they can go to a nursing home, and it is also very good to live there.

In the face of only willing to pay, unwilling to take care of their parents, it is not that the children are not filial, living in the moment, they really can't help themselves, they can only blame, this hateful society, the pace of life is accelerating, if you don't work hard for a day, where does you get to eat, drink and wear, and how can you get filial piety without money, I hope that parents and children want to be tolerant and understanding of each other, and children should often go home to see and give their parents spiritual comfort.

There is money to contribute to the force, but now young people do not work on the food, can not do it themselves, pay the elderly to the elderly to the best institutions, the elderly do not want to go, if you are healthy, you can also be at home, my neighbor in the eighties grandmother lives alone, the children go back for the holidays, usually occasionally, she also cooks a table full of dishes, she said I don't go to the children's house, where is not comfortable, just at home by herself.

Now they are not all filial children, excluding those who gnaw at their parents when they are young, do nothing all day long, idle people, and when their parents are old and need to take care of them, they ignore their parents, in that case, it is impossible to force them to take care of their parents' bedside, and they can only be financially forced to pay a certain amount of alimony every month, and send the elderly who have no one to take care of them to nursing homes or hire nannies to take care of them.