I don t know why, always can t accept someone 30

After reading the comments of other netizens, I think this is too exaggerated, they said that you should go to see a psychiatrist? Wrong, it's not necessary, this is a very common psychological reaction of girls! I'll talk about it from my point of view!

I'm also a girl, and now I'm in the second year of junior high school, and I usually don't want to stand out like some girls who don't have my personality (not in terms of outstanding grades), and I found that they also want to lead boys to their ideas, I think your personality and ideas should be similar to me, and you won't be like those girls, seeing boys, that is, the same age or about the same age as you, but knowing you, you will feel a little nervous, and I'm the same, but it's not too obvious.

You don't want to do that, or they'll think you're a big hater to them if you don't want to gossip! Sometimes guys are nice to you, needless to say Thai tightness, you try to relax, they are nice to you, maybe it's just pure help, you think so, it's OK!But you don't need to hide your embarrassment, and deliberately show too enthusiasm, which will also cause gossip, even if you are not afraid of these, you can't be too intimate with boys, maybe when you grow up, you will feel much better, I think we should all be like this!

It could be a shadow of how little you have been with boys or who have been hurt by boys in the past.

I suggest, take it one step at a time. If not, it's best to see a psychiatrist, maybe it will be better for you!

Maybe it's because you're thinking too much about us boys, and not everybody thinks so badly of what you think, like me

If you have a mental disorder, go to a psychiatrist.

I'm too young!

It's normal. Try to find common ground.

And the similarities between the two people.

It's much more relaxing to have a topic.

In order for others to accept your opinion, it usually takes several factors: First, the prestige of the person who delivers the message. The higher the degree of prestige of a person, the better the degree of acceptance, which is commonly known as the "authority effect".

The positions of experts, professors, and pundits are easy to trust.

The second is the position. The more objective and neutral the position, the stronger the attitude of influencing others. But if the message provided by the transmitter is one-sided and too protective of one's own feelings, it will make people doubt their motives.

The more obvious example is the "small composition", which everyone will not believe anymore when they see it.

The third is persuasive intent. The intention of the transmitter is not manipulated and controlled, so that there will be no resistance to the receiver, and it will be easier to receive information and opinions, and it will be easy to accept the other party's ideas.

Therefore, from this psychological concept, it can be seen that the reluctance to accept the opinions of others is not so simple, and only lead infiltration is only defined as unsatisfactory or self-righteous is not rigorous, maybe these two phenomena, but there are deeper reasons behind it.

It may be that this rough person gives you advice, you feel that you are not neutral, there is a practice of control and oppression, which makes you feel uncomfortable, and you don't want to listen to him;

Maybe there is a problem with the communication message delivered by this transmitter, the way of providing it is not good, the content you get feels incomplete, and you have doubts in your heart, so you are unwilling to accept it;

Or personal personality problems, if the personality is more paranoid, unwilling to listen to the opinions of others, internally comparing themselves, rebellious psychology, defense mechanisms play a role, it will also lead to reluctance to accept the opinions of others.

The most important thing in the library below is that we read and study. Goodbye, experience, but when we're in the library below. I often encounter those unconscious classmates not only did not study well, but also affected others, some classmates hit ** in the library, this is also my most unbearable behavior, in fact, in the library, it is rude to hit **, because no one wants to know what's wrong with you, I don't think anyone wants others to know their bad things, in that environment, a little sound will be obvious.

There are also students who make loud noises in the library without regard for the feelings of others, in fact, not only the library, but also other quiet environments, some careless people may not pay much attention to their movements, and when they do, they will make loud noises. Then he moved the stool and moved the table from time to time. The action is very large, and the slag number will interfere with the attention and reading interest of others.

There is also a strange phenomenon in the library, there are always some students who go to occupy seats. Nowadays, there are many people in the library, and they often can't find a place, so if there is no need to occupy more seats, try to occupy as few seats as possible, everyone Qiliang wants to be able to read in a comfortable environment, and I have encountered this phenomenon many times, because no one is standing but he may not come to the library to read in the end, so this behavior is also unacceptable to me.

The behaviors that I can't accept the most are those who quietly litter the behavior**, only care about themselves, do not consider the feelings of others, and damage the things in the library. In such a good environment, there will always be some people who are not good, many people just throw garbage in it, eat some snacks in it, and there are some smelly things, which seriously affect others. There are also people who feel like they are in their own home in the library, and they take off their shoes when they want to, and sleep when they want to, which are all bad behaviors.

I feel like I'm like you.

It's not ugly to open yourself.

But I always feel that others will feel ugly.

Speaking will be considered first.

I'm afraid that if I say the wrong thing, I will make others unhappy.

It's also polite when talking to people.

Actually, I also feel very tired.

I don't think we're confident in our hearts. Inferiority. Ay.

I want to change too.

But it's good to have one thing in mind.

Generally speaking, no big mistakes are made.

It's generally not annoying. Ay.

Since childhood, the people around us have made us believe that "we are not good enough". We recognize that we need to work harder and be more progressive, in order to be recognized, accepted or loved.

There is such a lyric, "I love you, but you love him" This situation also exists in reality, so what would it be like to be liked by someone you don't like?

When you are sad and sad, the other person comes to tell you sad stories, and when you are thirsty, they bring you a jar of chili oil.

When he refused, he spoke lightly and disagreed, and he still didn't finish the entangled entanglement, and he was afraid of hurting the other party when he spoke heavily, so he couldn't bear it.

When chatting, I diverted the topic of the other party again and again, for fear that one accidentally gave the other party a chance to confess, not that I don't understand the world, but that I understand your heart too well.

I'm grateful for the other person's liking, and I'm sorry that I couldn't fulfill this liking. Look at what the other party is doing now, look at the hope in the other party's eyes, and sigh that he is not the same, and he has been another person, and his eyes are full of light.

If you don't reply to the message, you feel impolite and disrespectful, but if you reply more than once, you are afraid that the other party will misunderstand, and you will see this and the correct sentence as an opportunity.

The other party helped me once, but it made me feel that I owed too much and could not forget it for a long time.

I also told myself to try to get along with each other, but the more I tried, the more I felt that I couldn't get along, and the more I didn't like it.

The more the other party gives, the greater the pressure in his heart, and he feels that he is spinning deeper and deeper, and he can't extricate himself.

Others cast their faces full of envy, but they don't know how helpless they are at this moment. It's like watching others harvest a lot, but they don't know the hard work and sweat behind him.

I often see through it, but I can't say it, and there are some things that I don't want to understand, and I can just know it in my heart. I'm afraid that if I put it bluntly, my friends won't be able to do it.

Sometimes, the other party can help solve the problem easily, but he still chooses to solve it in another way, because he is afraid of eating people's mouths and taking people's hands short.

could have been like friends, talking and laughing together, but at this time, they could only choose to be silent, bowing their heads and playing with their mobile phones, silent.

I'm afraid that the other party is waiting for me, because at this moment, I may be waiting for others. The gift that the other party has been thinking about is just a pile of miscellaneous things with nowhere to put in his own eyes.

Sentiment. Those wishful thinking infatuated people, being decisively rejected, is often not a thing worth being sad for too long, just like the treasure in the showcase, although it is a pity to not get it, but when you turn around, you can often see more beautiful surprises, there is a give-and-take.

Those who are liked, if they really can't accept each other, then don't let the other party be suspicious, don't let the other party feel the light of hope, tell the other party directly, and decisively refuse is the greatest respect that the other party deserves.

A slap doesn't make a sound, love is the same, love is mutual. Two people, you and I are willing to walk together, and it will last for a long time, and wishful thinking is often in vain.