What does it feel like to not have a sense of belonging to your family of origin?

I have lived in the family of my biological parents since I was a child, but I have no sense of belonging, and I only stay in my room when I go home every day, and the life in the house is only a restaurant, a bathroom, and a room. There is no way to communicate with the family, they don't understand it, and they are self-righteous. I can't quite express why this is the case, and I can't tell you how much I resist being with my family.

Let's just say that, when I go home and open the door and find that the door is locked, I will be happy, I feel that there is no one at home, and I am the only one who is steady. When my father came back, I would stay in my room and not go out, and I was afraid to talk to my mother because it was really hard to communicate and explain a problem. I can't say how much I want, it's just how I feel.

The original family feels too indifferent, there is no warmth at home, so there is no sense of belonging, I feel very desolate, no one cares, and I feel very lonely.

Probably even in adulthood, I still feel that I lack love, and I always want to get close and escape. Always inexplicably sad and will cry at night. For parents, I will feel sorry for their hard work, physically and mentally tired, for myself, I will feel uncared for, and I will feel depressed when I borrow from any relative's house.

Although there is blood kinship, it is not someone else's child after all. Be adaptable to other people's habits and always be sensitive. But my parents are not around for the sake of life, and I feel that I am in my twenties and so vulnerable.

That is, there is no family warmth, such people are actually very insecure in society, and it is not easy to trust others easily, they always feel that they are weak, and they often feel lonely. No self-confidence.

People who have a sense of belonging, a busy day's work, nervousness, criticism, and worries, can relax when they get home from work, and the next day is a new day, people who do not have a sense of belonging, do not have this opportunity to let the spirit elope. To go home is to go back to a box. It's like being in a hurry all day long, but you can't rest in peace.

When you encounter trouble, there is no one to help, no one can confide in, a person who goes to the doctor in the middle of the night, tears roll in the eyes, and you can't let it flow, because you know that crying can't solve any problems, and you have learned that a person has turned the impossible into something that can be done, and the loneliness in my heart can only be understood by myself. So give myself two years to find a sense of belonging in this city, and if I haven't found a sense of belonging after two years, I will definitely leave the city without hesitation and go to the place I miss the most.

I don't have a home, I don't have a home that belongs to me. I don't have my bed at home, and my mom won't ask you if you're comfortable sleeping on the sofa? The place of work is not home, and there is no place to go if you share a house with your boyfriend and quarrel with your face.

His home is not my home, I don't have a home. The world is so big, there is no place for me. That's why I hate the world.

I have a stable job, so everyone thinks that I have no worries about food and clothing, and I live a chic life. In fact, I am a person with low self-esteem to the core.

I don't think I was loved by my parents since I was a child, and now that I have children, I don't seem to love my children very much. Both longing for family affection, but also very indifferent to family affection.

I'm hurt and wronged, and I'd rather drink to kill my sorrows than go home and be ignored by my relatives, because they don't care about my feelings at all.

When I buy something, I think about what to do when I move, and most of the time I don't buy it. When you go out, you will worry about whether you have the key with you, and if you forget to bring it, you may not be able to enter the room. You don't want to cry when you're uncomfortable, no one can see it, and people who see it won't understand you.

No matter how luxurious and comfortable my family is, my home is also a prison for me seeking independence.

It's nothing, every time I quarrel, my husband goes out at the end because he knows that I don't have a family to go back to.

It's like a spectator, just do your legal duty.

Anyway, since I was a child, I felt like a straw, and I didn't even think I should get married and have children. It's good to live a life alone, no one is good to yourself, just be nice to yourself.

I feel like I can talk with confidence. But beware of tactfulness.

It's normal to reach a certain age.

Indifferent! I have no feelings for my parents and children!

Due to the pressure of my original family, I have become extremely insecure and dare not rely on who to trust, what should I do?

The message that can be captured through the questions you ask is: You know the cause of the problem, and you want to break out of this shackle, but you just don't know how to open this cage?

Don't dare to rely on anyone, who to believe, this mentality can be understood, whether it is caused by the original family or not, in real life, we often find that the person who hurts you the most is often the person you rely on, the person you believe in .......

On the one hand, we have to release ourselves, on the other hand, we have to protect ourselves, especially the negative things in the emotional and psychological aspects, we need to release them in exchange for our relaxation, otherwise once these things accumulate to a certain extent, they will explode at the right time, and finally hurt others and hurt ......ourselves.

For the negative emotions in the body, you can find a way to release them as you see fit, such as drinking some alcohol, such as finding a place where no one is there to cry, such as singing ......Wait, as long as you think it is appropriate, pay attention to a degree, after venting, wipe away your tears, continue to choose to live strongly, live for yourself, and tell yourself that I am not so fragile, I will not be easily knocked down.

It is really difficult to have a person who is worthy of your trust and trust, many times, even if it is your parents, brothers, friends, classmates, it is also difficult, but you can't find it, who is the most trustworthy and trustworthy person? It's just us, we rely on ourselves, we believe in ourselves.

Finally, a few suggestions for you:

1.Go out and socialize, and you'll find a different landscape.

2.Enrich yourself and improve yourself, only in this way can you increase your ability to resist pressure in life.

3.Face your joys, sorrows, and sorrows correctly, laugh when you're happy, cry when you're sad, get angry when you're angry, and so on, don't suppress your emotions.

4.Be industrious, and let your physical work properly exceed your mental work.

Remember: if you are unsociable and a weakness of your character, then not being alone is a defect of your soul.

It's not like there's nothing to be done about it! You can find someone who loves you very much to give you a sense of security! If you are satisfied with this answer, please click on the "...Then click "Accept". Thank you very much!

The establishment of a sense of security often needs to be analyzed from one's own state of mind, there is often an uncertain state of mind closely related to the lack of security, everyone will have emotions, will produce the performance of insecurity, but the degree is more or less, so first of all, we need to recognize that the insecurity is everyone's existence, to determine this insecurity as a normal state of emotional expression.

In addition, it is necessary to adjust one's own thoughts, for example, when there is a sense of insecurity, worry and fear, to adjust one's own thoughts, to see one's own unreasonable, absolute, and generalized unreasonable cognition, through the adjustment of cognitive patterns, you can establish a correct sense of security cognition, and the other is to constantly strive to enhance one's own ability to improve one's self-confidence and enhance one's sense of security.

You can communicate more with your parents, siblings, and a harmonious family atmosphere is more conducive to growth.

First of all, we have to admit our own shortcomings and the trauma brought to us by our original family, in that era, few families learned how to educate their children, and there was nothing shameful about it. At the same time, there are no perfect parents in the world.

Secondly, I must have a good attitude, thoughts determine behavior, behavior determines results, I am the master of my life, and only I have the right to dominate and have the ability to change. Since it is already like this, it is better to change than to complain, it was like this before, but it does not mean that I will still be like this in the future, the past is in the past, but the future is in my hands. Sun Li also grew up in a single-parent family, she witnessed her father's hard work in finding a third party and her mother after leaving, so she worked hard to make money to honor her mother, but she also didn't believe in love.

When she first met Deng Chao, she didn't dare to get married, but later, under the joint mediation of Deng Chao and Sun's father, Sun Li was willing to try and change, and she was happy after entering the marriage hall.

Finally, find the right way to do it and keep changing. For example, when I was a child, my father was very strict and not very close to me, after entering the society, I was a more old-fashioned, but at the same time insecure person, only desperately to make money, because money can give me a sense of security; But after making money, it is only a temporary satisfaction, I am still very anxious, and then I took the initiative to call my father more ** after understanding the influence of the original family, what difficulties do I usually encounter, what should I do when my husband and I think differently, my father will help me with a man's vision, and gradually I found that my inner strength is slowly becoming stronger, and I gradually have a sense of security, or I can try to complete ** and so on.

The circumstances in which a person is born largely determines what kind of person he will become in the future. The way parents educate their children and how they get along with each other is deeply imprinted on the growth trajectory of ourselves and our offspring.

The family of origin has a great impact on a person's life, especially in personality development and self-identity; If you're lucky enough to be born into a happy family, congratulations on having everything that others could only dream of! But after all, this kind of "luck" only exists around a few people, and most people live in the unhappy and even full of pain, conflict and contradictions, and these negative emotions will accompany them for life....

Psychologist Wu Zhihong once said: There is no perfect original family in this world, and there is no perfect ideal partner, some are just accommodating and tolerant of each other. Moreover, the more you love someone, the more you want to give them the best; But at the same time, you have to accept that they are not so perfect.

If you always want others to live the way you want them to be, you won't be happy.

Therefore, instead of spending time complaining about the harm brought to us by the family of origin, it is better to work hard to change yourself and make yourself better, so that you have the opportunity to get rid of the negative impact of the family of origin.

The family of origin is one of the most important environments in which a person grows up. If a girl suffers a bad influence in her family of origin, can she be happy? My opinion is:

Although the influence of the family of origin is great, it is not the only factor that determines whether a person is happy or not in life.

First of all, a girl's happiness is not only related to her family of origin, but also to her own efforts and changes in the environment. If a girl has a strong heart and a positive attitude, she can improve her quality of life and happiness by constantly working hard to improve her shortcomings and weaknesses. At the same time, if she can find a suitable working and living environment for herself, and establish a good social circle and intimate relationships, she can also get more happiness.

Secondly, although the influence of the family of origin is great, it is not absolute. Some girls may have suffered a bad influence in their family of origin, but they may also learn some important life lessons and lessons to help them grow and live better. At the same time, if they have the opportunity to be exposed to more different people and cultures, they can also draw new energy and inspiration from them to enrich their lives and experiences.

Finally, happiness is a relative concept, and everyone's definition of happiness is different. Some girls may think that happiness is to have a happy marriage and family; And some girls may see their careers and career achievements as the most important happiness**. Therefore, if a girl can find the happiness that she thinks is the most important**, and work tirelessly for it, she may get the happiness she wants.

Although the influence of the family of origin is great, it is not the only factor that determines whether a person is happy in life. Girls can improve their happiness through their own efforts and changes in the environment, and at the same time, they can also learn from the experience and lessons of their original family. The most important thing is that everyone has a different definition of happiness, and only by finding the happiness that they think is the most important thing**, and making unremitting efforts and dedication to it, can they truly get the happiness they want.