The family is eccentric, to what extent can it be biased

In the movie "The Life of the Disgusted Matsuko", there is a scene that is still fresh in my memory, when Matsuko was very happy to accept his father's gift, he got his father's cold briefcase, and the gift was for his sick sister, "My father only loves my sister, and I am just a person", and even later she became angry with her sister, almost strangled her sister, and finally ran away from home.

Do you have such eccentricity in your family?

1. Just because my younger brother is younger than me, I have to let him eat and eat, every time I quarrel is not my fault, I am the one who is scolded, and I do the housework;

2. I study well, work well, be filial, and I have been the best since I was a child, but my parents never praised me, as if I should be like this, but preferred my sister more, didn't care about me at all, and only kept good things for my sister;

3. Since I was a child, my parents often forget that every time my brother celebrates his birthday, he discusses it a long time in advance, eats cakes, eats chicken, eats poached eggs, and gives all the chicken legs to his younger brother every time, so that I can take care of my younger brother in everything, don't just take care of myself;

4. My sister bought whatever she wanted to eat, even if it was a scooter, a game console, etc., I proposed to learn the piano, but I was scolded, saying that I used money indiscriminately. Many of the things I use now are leftovers from my sister, and I haven't bought new clothes for a long time, and I wear my sister's old clothes;

5. The hard-earned money to honor his parents turned out to be squandered by his younger brother, and he said it many times, but he just couldn't change their minds, and his younger brother wanted to use the best for everything.

Negative effects of eccentricity.

Even if a child who is left out in the cold has good popularity and good work, because he has not been recognized for a long time, negative emotions are easy to affect his life, he has low self-esteem, and even leads to doing things compromisedly and hurting himself.

Because siblings themselves are left out in the cold, they can only express their dissatisfaction and hostility by beating and scolding, snatching things, etc., or seek more attention from their parents, which is not conducive to the development of sibling relationships.

In fact, for children who are favored or neglected, parental partiality has a negative impact on them. One party may be pampered and arrogant because of excessive favoritism, which is quite unreasonable; One party may have suppressed low self-esteem due to long-term cold violence, or even embark on the road of suicide.

Family eccentric sentences to talk about feelings:

1. People are mostly selfish animals, they will only be wholeheartedly for one person, because they only have one heart; Maybe it's a little bit like another person, but most of it is for others to see, or even for yourself. Just like parents of two children, they will always favor one person.

3. Since I was a child, I have never experienced what it feels like to be biased by my parents, but now I feel that no matter what you do or how you do it, she thinks that others are good, the things others buy are good, the way others take care of their children is good, and even being called by others is good.

4. Eccentric parents, patriarchal parents, from the moment they are eccentric, don't expect justice! It is still eccentric until death.

5. How can parents who have given birth to several children be fair to every child, that is just a lie of parents deceiving themselves. My parents are just eccentric and boundless, and they tell me about fairness.

The heart does not grow in the middle, and eccentricity is normal. Parents have the responsibility to support you, but they have no responsibility to love you, and who to love is their choice, and it has nothing to do with you. Just like the world doesn't revolve around you, you don't have the right to ask anyone to love you.

Hello, for eccentric parents, it is recommended to do the following:1Don't care too much about what your parents do, especially when they are biased, you can choose to ignore it...

2.When you really can't ignore their eccentricity, try to avoid being in the same place with them...3.

In daily life, try to avoid conflicts with them and let yourself not be influenced by them4.Adjust your mindset and take it when you hear them say something nasty"The left ear goes in, and the right ear goes out"method, don't go to the heart...

5.Then try not to fight for anything, just give something and then it's okay, because they are already partial, no matter how much you say, it's useless, it will only increase their harm to you...6.

Treat your parents as you should support them, because this is the obligation of a daughter.

1. Talk to the elderly at home, if the old people are eccentric, you should find an opportunity to talk to the old people at home, tell the depression in your heart, if the old filial piety at home can hear the voice of the child, there are changes, and your situation will be better.

2. Make yourself better, if the old man happens to ruin his heart and makes himself very unhappy, he must make himself better, better, more promising than his brothers, and the old man in the family will always compare and find his own advantages.

3. Be kind to yourself, if the old man is eccentric, don't complain too much about the old people in the family, as long as he is not an only child, the old people in the family are also partial, rather than waiting for others to hurt themselves, it is better to treat themselves well and make themselves happy.

4. If the old people in the family can't get through, they must recognize the reality, the interests of the family are paramount, the old people in the family will sacrifice the interests of other children for the sake of eccentricity, happiness and even life, no matter how the other children please, the old people in the family will not change, so give up the illusion, don't try to beg for the love of the old people in the family through their own efforts.

5. Finally, if you can, leave the location of the original family as much as possible, the distance produces beauty, and living in a different place may still maintain surface harmony. Most importantly, try to reduce the chances of the elderly in the family disturbing their lives and well-being as much as possible.

Respect your family's ideas, but express your opinions and try to avoid arguments.

2.Try to understand your family's thoughts, and try to communicate with your family members so that they can understand your thoughts.

3.If the family is too biased, you can communicate with other family members to find a common solution.

4.If possible, seek outside advice, such as a home therapist or counsellor.

I think there will definitely be some small conflicts and disagreements between family members, and in my family, maybe my parents will be better for my younger brother, so I don't have much opinion to understand this situation.

If there is an uneven bowl of water in the family, how to solve it?

1. Ask your parents for an explanation, or just say what is in your heart and tell them that you are hurt.

In the face of your parents' partiality, you can say it directly to your parents, and maybe you can change your parents' practices. Let them pay more attention to your business.

However, sometimes speaking up doesn't necessarily change the situation, it just lets your parents know that what they're doing has hurt you severely. It's the same parent, why are they in two situations?

2. You can be a silent person, not to compete with others, and silently bear this unfair treatment.

In the face of their parents' partiality, they bear it silently without resistance, which may greatly hurt their hearts, and they are even unwilling to pay attention to their parents. Slowly drifting farther and farther away from your family, the loneliness in your heart can only be soothed by your partner. Or turn this unfairness into motivation and make a career of your own.

3. Divert your attention, turn your anger into unbridled strength, strive to make a career, and become independent as soon as possible.

In the face of the status quo that you can't change, you can only divert your attention, have the ability, leave home as soon as possible, and be filial to your parents. Try not to mix things at home, so as not to enter a state of cutting and messing. Distract yourself.

4. Family and everything is prosperous, repay grievances with virtue, and impress parents with their sincerity.

If you have a softer temperament, you always hope that the family can be harmonious, and it will be good to do your own thing, and one day your parents will crack and show your goodness.

People are always in the midst of blessings and do not know blessings, and only when they are about to lose do they understand who is the person who is truly good to themselves.

The family has a bowl of water that is uneven, and there will be eccentricity, which is indeed an uncomfortable experience.

Therefore, as parents, we must educate our children in the right way, and we must be fair and just to our children, so that they can feel more love and warmth in life, and will also make their lives better

1.Learn to be more considerate and understanding of each other.

When you communicate with others, it is best to learn to understand others, if the other party's personality is more sunny and cheerful, then we don't have to be too serious, and if the other party is a more serious character, then when we communicate with others, we must fully understand and respect them, to communicate carefully and carefully, if the other party is a friend who doesn't know much, it is best to maintain respect and appropriate communication on daily topics.

2.Maintain a respectful style of communication.

When we encounter problems that we don't understand, we should ask others for advice, respect others when communicating, don't talk endlessly, but learn to remain silent, let the other party express their opinions more, and when we encounter things we don't understand, don't rush to express them, we should learn to listen carefully, and give people a humble and serious attitude.

3.Communicate topics that everyone enjoys.

When communicating with people, everyone likes to communicate their own topics of interest and like to express their good knowledge to others, so we must first learn to understand and listen to others' opinions, so that the other party can feel your sincerity and feel that communicating with you is a very pleasant process, because everyone hopes that they can be understood and respected by others, and the exchange of each other's expertise and knowledge is precisely to understand each other and have a common language with each other.

4.Learn to listen politely and carefully.

When communicating with others, it is necessary to learn to listen carefully and carefully, do not interrupt others, and listen more patiently, so as to understand and respect others, and only in this way can we reflect our sincerity and modesty and courtesy, so as to gain true friendship. 5.When communicating with others, if we can properly express praise for the opinions expressed by others, this is undoubtedly to give the other party a feeling of respect and recognition, and the other party will also agree with our understanding and respect, and the other party will also have a new understanding of us, which effectively promotes the happiness and smoothness of communication.

Parents can be biased: only give the child they like to eat delicious food, and only buy toys for one child.

Spoiling deprives children of the opportunity to learn the rules. Parents who dot on their children often unprincipled to meet their children's unreasonable demands, give in to their children's crying, and fail to effectively prohibit their children's inappropriate behavior, and their children's hearts cannot establish a sense of abiding by the rules.

Not following the rules, feeling angry when the outside world asks him to follow the rules, rebelling unreasonably, becoming persona non grata in relationships, so that he does not enjoy the joy of friendship.

Parents can be biased to cause consequences:

From the perspective of the family, I don't understand the mind of my parents. Not understanding what your parents are doing for you. There is no one in his eyes, he thinks he is the only seedling in the family, and he is pampered and proud. In the future, when you enter the society, you will be sluggish after hitting walls everywhere. It's hard and stressful everywhere.

In terms of love and friendship, I will not cherish the feelings of lovers and friends. Take your lover (friend) for granted everything you do. Because since childhood, I have grown up in doting. There are very few good friends. Love is not as good as it should be. The most important thing is that the people rebel and leave their relatives.

Hello dear, I have experienced such an experience myself, let me tell you how I feel.

At first, I might feel very angry, but when the anger is gone, I think it's my biological parents after all, so everything can be forgiven.

A bowl of water is uneven. Those who say this are usually the children of the elderly, who accuse the old man of favoring one child but not that one. It should be said that in rural areas, the phenomenon of mountain dismantling is very common.

The main reasons are the following three points. The first reason is that absolute fairness does not exist, not only the elderly in rural areas, but also ourselves, cannot achieve absolute justice. Some people are leftists and like equality; Some people are right and like to be free.

But no one is an absolute centrist, you have to be partial.

The second reason is that the elderly in rural areas generally have several children, and the personalities of these children are different. In the past, there was a saying like "the boss is stupid, the second is sharp, and the naughty and mischievous is the third". For the old man, he may like one personality and not the other.

Correspondingly, he will like children with this kind of personality.

The third reason is that when the children of the elderly reach adulthood, they always have to "separate". And in the process of separation, it is inevitable that there will be unfairness of one kind or another. In the past, when we were working collectively, when everyone shared the grain, some people would complain that they looked relatively small, let alone divide the family?

Rural people do not hide their affairs and have to express any complaints, which can easily cause discord between brothers and sisters.

The above three reasons can be said to summarize several possibilities for the phenomenon of "uneven end of a bowl of water". But I still think that you just need to do your own thing, and there is no need to compare between brothers and sisters. Because in any case, a harmonious family is the backing of a person's career, and the so-called family and everything is prosperous, right?