How do you mature with people who have different values from you?

If there is a big conflict, choose to keep your distance. In my opinion, once people have their own fixed value system, they tend to reject people who have different views from their own, so when you encounter people with huge conflicts of values, please choose to keep your distance. Therefore, I would like to warn everyone, do not choose people with very different values to spend their lives with, so it is inevitable that no one is wrong, but they can't get along well.

There are many reasons for the formation of values, such as the environment in which they were raised, the education of the family school, the influence of the mainstream or non-mainstream value system of the society, and so on. This is very similar to the diplomacy between countries today, seeking common ground while reserving differences and respecting each other. If two people have different values and want to be happy with each other, it is important to be tolerant of each other.

Just like the difference between different religious beliefs, it is only faith, and there is no difference between high and low. The sea is inclusive, and there is tolerance. I hope that you will be open-minded and become friends with more people with different values.

It's really hard, but please respect everyone's ideas anyway. Don't have a sense of superiority or inferiority, and don't criticize and refute others fiercely, you can put forward your own opinions in a tactful way, such as "What you said has some truth, but I think this may also be the case". If the other party is very arrogant and messing around, then you can hehe, sometimes it is a skill to remain silent.

Stick to and refine your values. Respecting and understanding other people's values doesn't mean we have to listen to what others have to say. If you are easily influenced by other people's ideas, it is very dangerous and unassertive.

We must learn to have full respect for the values of others, to use them appropriately, and to maintain an attitude of persistence in all the most principled aspects of our own values.

There is no such thing as the only right value. When we collide with other values, the most common mistake we make is to think that our own values are right, and the ideas and opinions that conflict with us are biased. In fact, there is no such thing as a completely correct value, because everyone has a different personality and cares about different things, so they naturally have different values.

Don't try to find absolutely correct theories and practices, and don't try to criticize or deny a certain idea at will.

If your loved ones have a huge conflict with your values...If so, it's useless to escape, you have to choose to have a good talk, make it clear what you care about each other and don't care about, because the family's views are different but the purpose is the same, just find a way to solve the problem and live together peacefully, you don't have to listen to you or listen to me. Because we are family, we must learn to respect each other.

People with different values do not need to argue, but seek common ground while reserving differences. As I said in the second point, even if we may not agree, it does not mean that the opinions that are different from our own concepts are wrong, but because the life we want to live is different, because the person we want to be is different, there is no need to argue about right and wrong. Because we can neither easily convince others, nor do we have to.

Each of us has limitations. In addition to understanding that other people's values have other people's truths, we should not easily deny them, but also understand that our own current recognition of right and wrong is often one-sided, we can't see the whole picture of things, we can't think from everyone's point of view, many times, a lot of thinking is just because we have experienced too little, don't be too self-righteous.

Learn from other people's values. Since our own ideas are sometimes one-sided, when we conflict with the values of others, this is actually an opportunity to help us test and reshape our values. There are always some parts of other people's ideas that we have not considered because of our own limitations, and we must learn to respect and understand them carefully.

What is the purpose? If you have it, follow him, and if you don't, you can communicate as much as you want.

If you want to communicate with others, you must do 2 things: 1) understand and even appreciate the other person's point of view... Any kind of understanding has its existence and reason, maybe the focus is different, maybe the value orientation is different, but to understand it...

2) Have your own independent opinions... The so-called communication, "threesomes must have my teacher", is to trigger their own new ideas and the ability to analyze problems in the communication with each other. . . Have a highlight worthy of others and you...

The above is about communication ... If you say "I don't want to be strangers to the people around you", then it's easier to deal with... It's the way to socialize ...

The general direction is to "respect others", "praise (note, not to pat yourself on the back, but to praise him for his merits)" and "humble heart"......Someone said that if you want to get acquainted with others, you have to "talk more nonsense" (Khan, I'm also a little confused). If you think about it, social networking is not a negotiation between countries, and it is true that there is not much serious talk about it, and most of the time it is "talking nonsense". nonsense", does not touch the interests of all parties, and perhaps makes people feel more relaxed and safe...

There are five ways to get along with these people.

1. No, no research.

It is to study the problem with people who do not agree with the three views, and try to avoid contradictions. People with different views are like two trains running in opposite directions, and there will never be an intersection point. Therefore, people who do not agree with the three views try not to study the problem together, because there is no commonality and no intersection.

Even if they study the problem together, they will blow their own trumpets and sing their own tunes, and in the end, they will end up fruitlessly, and they may break up unhappily. 2. No argument or refutation.

That is, people who do not agree with each other do not argue with each other and do not refute each other's views. Originally, two people just had different views, and they had different views and ideas on the same thing. When the other party is expressing their opinions, the best way is to keep silent without speaking or squeaking.

Not arguing with them, like Shenchen, and not refuting the other party's point of view, is the best way to reduce the contradictions or friction between two people.

Third, it is necessary to reduce conflicts of interest.

It is to try not to engage in personal exchanges with people who do not agree with the three views, and to minimize conflicts of interest. In real life, people who do not agree with the three views can not have personal contacts, and try to minimize contact. If it is really unavoidable, the big interests act according to the normal rules, and the small interests can be allowed to let go, minimize all unnecessary troubles, and try not to have conflicts of interest with them.

Fourth, we must refrain from tolerance.

It is to work or live with people who do not agree with the three views, and learn to refrain from tolerating. Under normal circumstances, the disagreement of the three views is a taboo for people to get along with each other. But in real life, due to various reasons, two people who do not agree not only do not avoid it, but also work together, and even live under the same roof.

At this time, we should learn to tolerate, learn to refrain, and learn to "live in peace". When you work with people who don't agree with each other, because you're your own colleague, you have to learn to refrain from your attitude, your words, and your behavior.

Living with people who do not agree with the three views, because they are your own relatives, you have to learn to tolerate: tolerate the ignorance of the other party, tolerate the arrogance of the other party, and tolerate the unreasonableness of the other party.

Fifth, we must stick to the bottom line.

It is to stick to the red line and moral bottom line of life. In the face of major events, I would rather risk turning my face with him than always stick to the red line of my life; In terms of maintaining social justice and public good customs, we must maintain integrity and kindness, and we must stick to our own moral bottom line.

There are many ways to get along with people who don't agree with each other, which varies from person to person.

Hello dear, this question is up to me to you. I think couples with inconsistent values can also come together, because there are so many couples in the world that it is impossible for every couple to have the same values, each with its own temperament, lifestyle, habits, etc., so it is more necessary to understand each other!

1.Reconciling contradictions.

No two people have exactly the same values, it is normal for you to have different values, and what matters is whether you are confident that you can overcome the conflict. In fact, different places can also be wonderful.

2.Communicate to see if you can resolve these conflicts and make concessions. If not, we certainly can't force ourselves to be unhappy.

3. Empathize and consider from the other party's point of view, why are the values different? At the same time, you can think about your own values. Reflect on yourself.

Don't blindly blame the other party's values are wrong, you might as well think more about yourself, if there are contradictions, whether you have done something bad and can be improved. Will the values of two people change after getting along, and it is more difficult to change values.

4.Find a few more objective and reliable friends to analyze to see if you can continue, and more importantly, respect each other and appreciate the differences between you. In this way, it will be much more comfortable to get along together, so the main reason is how the two people get along!

Dear, I hope mine is helpful to you, oh, I wish you a happy life.

1. Strictly abide by the borders.

The difference in values is too great, and if you get too close, it is easy to conflict. On the premise of maintaining basic interactions, try to distance yourself and respect each other without causing additional interruptions.

2. Don't try to change the other person.

Values are very subjective things that are difficult to change as adults. Don't think you can convince the other person to change his attitude to the way she sees the world – that's impossible. Don't expect your actions and ideas to be approved by the other person, because people tend to approve of people who are similar to their own lives.

Expecting something that doesn't make you happy will only increase your unhappiness.

3. Don't talk about the length of the person behind your back.

When people say bad things about others, they always think that the bad words they say will not reach the ears of the other party; But the other side often not only knows, but also hears the version that adds fuel to the vinegar - it is easy to create unnecessary enemies for yourself. Since there is still a need for everyone to interact, they should maintain a superficial harmony, and tearing their faces is not good for each other. Resist the urge to speak ill of the other person and avoid misfortune.

The world of adults is not just about people who are in tune with themselves. Colleagues in the company, customers, relatives, family members of the other half, teachers for children...There are always various roles in life that need to cooperate with each other. When you encounter a situation where your three views are too different from your own, but you have to cooperate, please give full play to the spirit of the ancients, gentlemen who are harmonious but different.

I don't agree with you, but I respect you. Respect each other, act like adults, and work together to do what you should do in a low-key and smooth manner.