I hope you can help me and make me feel more confident

Hehe, I used to be like this, I was very fat and didn't like to dress up. But I never feel inferior, you just have to be yourself. Recently, ** is not fat, although I feel that everyone's eyes have changed, but my mentality has not changed much, in fact, girls always look at themselves when they are young, everyone is like this, you just need to determine what you want to do, and then work hard to do well, you don't need to think about other people's eyes, because you don't live for others.

But you can be appropriate**, after all, being fat is not good for your health. You can do more exercise. It's also good for the mood.

To discover your own advantages, and then extend, can find and others resonate with the like, at that time everyone is familiar with the happy, more important posture refers to as you find people with common hobbies, you will slowly find that in fact, you are really not worse than others, you have your good, others have others' good, and laugh at the disadvantages is to exercise more, sports is the best way for you to find friends and friends, but also a shortcut to self-belief.

It's important to change your mindset. Going back to the past ten years, have you done all the things you really wanted to do? The so-called lack of confidence may be due to the fact that you are currently too worried about gains and losses.

You have something that others don't have, you have something to be envied by others, so you are unique, you have to have that self-confidence.

Why should you be confident, you can't live without self-confidence?

It's nothing specific, just don't care! Believe in yourself, you should know the French footballer, Ribery, he was in a car accident when he was a child and had a big wound on his face, but until now he is not willing to have plastic surgery, appearance is not as important as imagined!!

Sometimes I am also not confident and always feel that others are better than me. But after a long time together. You will find that the people around you may not be as good as you.

Can you calm down and think about it, are they really better than you? In fact, many times it is not that they are better than you, but that you don't believe that you are better than them. Only when you show your confidence in front of others will others look up to you.

Otherwise, even if you are capable, others will doubt your ability because of your self-indulgence.

You can think carefully about what others are better than me, and where I am not as good as others. How to do it can make up for my shortcomings and surpass them. Although there must be people around us who are not as good as us, there is no need to think of them as too strong, they may not be so good.

Then you have to enrich yourself.

Give yourself encouragement and tell yourself that I am the best.

Don't be too shy, if others can do it, you can too.

Because the formation of personality is a long-term reason, especially the role of the establishment of some cognition and thinking patterns in the early stage. Changing low self-esteem requires changing some unreasonable cognitions, ways of thinking and coping.

You have to go your own way of life and path, you can rely on your parents now, and what about later???

Face is earned by yourself, look at how proud other classmates are, on the premise that you have capital, you can also, believe in yourself, as your motto, a person doesn't even believe in himself, who else can you trust??

Adjust yourself, there is no specific medicine for this disease, only your thinking changes, no one looks down on you, in this world, you can give full play to your talents.

And residual heat, you are the best, because, you also know that you are timid and inferior, then, you are not a child with a mental disease.

Just do what you're most afraid of and take a brave step.

I used to be more afraid of showing than you, but I just got more and more confident in showing again and again. Being a class leader and other class cadres is a good opportunity to exercise.

Don't compare your own shortcomings with the strengths of others, I often comfort myself like this, what about the excellence of others, there are many reasons why I can't compare with him, we are all the same people, talent, living conditions, luck, hard work These are, his success is inseparable from his efforts, this is what he deserves.

I know this situation of yours very well, because I was too before. But there was a breakthrough, why? Remember the phrase, it works!

It's all human, and it's not a monster, so I'm afraid of you! "People in this situation like you say tend to be more dependent on others and don't stand on their own! But you have to take into account that if you don't have to rely on, you can't be by your side all the time, you are left alone, and you have to know how to survive.

If we continue to be decadent, will history change? In fact, many things are not as difficult as you imagined, but do you dare to try! I tried it, but I don't think it's a big deal!

For example, if I go to an interview, I don't dare to go alone, but the person who is going to go with you happens to have something! Can't go. Do you want to be like a child and let people carry it?

Aren't you going to go yourself? You have to think about how big you are, why don't you dare? It's the same as people, what are you afraid of.

Even if it doesn't work out, at least it's an experience.

Besides, you're not the unluckiest person in the world, but you have to think that you're much better than some people. Is it not that who is more desolate than you is even more incapable of living? Mindset matters! So it's up to you!

1. Paying too much attention to one's own and others' words and deeds is a characteristic of self-confidence.

Being too careful about one's words and deeds is manifested in not being good at expressing one's own opinions, usually having no attitude towards certain things, and not talking much in public, because they are afraid that it will be bad if they say the wrong thing; Caring too much about other people's words and deeds is very concerned about what others think of you, and in fact, it is also a manifestation of being too concerned about yourself.

Be good at ridiculing, good at self-deprecation, sometimes everyone is laughing together, just someone is kind to have fun, you put down your own shelf, talk with others, no matter how immature your opinion is, say it, try to express your inner feelings, contact more extroverted people, go to more crowded occasions, after a long time, you will naturally be lively and cheerful, and you will be full of confidence in yourself.

2. Introversion is also a manifestation of lack of self-confidence.

Introverts are often very unconfident and wandering, for fear that they will be disgusted by others if they have some negligence and do not do things well. In fact, you don't have to, as long as you do your best, before doing anything, you or grind to have a full preparation, what you want to say, what you want to express, first make a rough list, there is a spectrum of psychology, and when the time comes, show all these according to what you think, don't be submissive, hesitation will cause introversion of character.

3. Introversion and extroversion are only differences in personality, it can also be said that each personality has its own advantages and disadvantages, and extroverts may not all be good. In any case, I think happiness comes first, and only when you are happy, can life be glorious.

It's not that you will be outstanding in your studies, you just haven't noticed your own advantages, your first impression is that you have grown up tall, this is a characteristic that others don't have, you have enough spare time in college, why not use your height to play basketball, not to mention that participating in physical exercise can improve physical fitness, increase confidence, meet more new friends, and vent reasonably.

Some things are not suitable for holding in your heart, and doing more physical exercise is of great benefit to itself, and the biggest disadvantage of today's society when you are afraid of talking to strangers, especially for a college student, you always have to enter the society, except for a few familiar others are strangers. Learn the most basic and important survival rule when talking to people, make a few more friends, and talk well.

Actually, I'm the same, but I've never had an inferiority complex again, because I know what I like and I'm not optimistic about anything else, I will only work hard towards what I like, and one day I will definitely be discovered, in fact, you don't have to feel inferior, it's just that you haven't found the right method and strengths for you.

Many people keep themselves stagnant because of their lack of self-confidence, and they often suffer from emotional distress because of their lack of self-confidence. And self-confidence comes from?

Because the meaning of self-confidence is "trusting that you are capable enough to achieve the value you are looking for". Therefore, the basis of self-confidence is "ability", the basis of "ability" is "experience", the basis of "experience" is "trying", and the basis of "trying" is "feeling". "Feeling" is the inner state of wanting to try, which is the most basic driving force for self-confidence.

The basis of self-confidence is "ability", but ability itself does not necessarily produce self-confidence. Ability must be affirmed to turn into self-confidence! Everyone is born with nothing that can do it or have confidence.

With the continuous contact with new things in the process of growth, learning how to face and deal with them, with the results of things and people's affirmation, ability and self-confidence began to accumulate continuously. Therefore, self-confidence is built through constant affirmation during the process of growth. There are definitely two kinds:

From oneself and from others, preferably both. If there is only one, the effect of self-confidence will be reduced.

To put the above into an equation, it is:

Self-esteem, self-love, self-confidence, (affirmation), ability, experience, attempt, feeling of sleepiness.