Some psychological problems, I hope you can help solve them

Hello gdzqlw!

According to your requirements, first, the reason why this situation is happening is because of the conflict in your heart. In fact, you care a lot about other people's opinions and hope that you can get the attention of others, so when you are exposed to something new, you want others to pay attention, but you are afraid that others are better than you and learn faster than you, so it makes it the opposite. Therefore, the inner contradiction and conflict point is here, which will lead to anxiety.

Second, your second point is the same as the first point, but in a different way. Both of these points show that you care a lot about other people's opinions, which leads you to pay too much attention to yourself, and try to behave normally and calmly in front of others, but it backfires, and instead makes yourself nervous and overwhelmed.

The above situation is a manifestation of inner insecurity, which leads to the rational self not accepting oneself and wanting to change, which leads to such an inner conflict. But because you don't like to express yourself and suppress all these things in your heart, the results that will appear in every experiment will dampen your enthusiasm. The first step to improve is to vent your inner emotions, show all your dissatisfaction in a way that suits you, and then analyze yourself in front of you, the direction and progress that suits you, arrange it reasonably, step by step, failure is what our method is wrong, summarize the experience of failure, and then gradually move towards success.

Usually give yourself regular emotional venting.

Wishing you a happy day!

One: You talk about always feeling that others are learning from you, and I want to give you several answers, first: people have commonalities with each other, just like some people can understand others very well.

feelings, because he has also experienced them. Second: As you say, someone else.

It's normal to learn from you, it's the same as the trend, it's good.

The family will definitely learn, which is enough to prove that you are excellent. Third: You say always feel.

When others are paying attention to you, it's because you're too nervous, and it's your elite that you're nervous.

Consciousness, you are too demanding of perfection, so you have excess tension.

Two: You say you are timid, but in fact, most people will tell you that it is lacking.

Exercise, this kind of exercise is too general, I think what you lack more is a kind of self-confidence, and self-confidence is precisely cultivated. You can face the mirror and prepare yours.

Presentations and other activities. Look at your face and learn how to change yourself. And you said that you are too timid, this is normal, I used to watch ghost movies and didn't dare to walk at night.

However, this kind of timidity will not affect your normal life, as you grow older and more experienced, you will overcome them one by one, I believe in you and you also have to believe in yourself.

Your question. 1 You always feel that someone is learning from you, and you don't want others to do the same thing as you. It's because you want to have something unique that others won't have, and to prove yourself what you're capable of.

But you must know that there is a sky outside the sky, and there is a mountain outside the mountain, and you can't restrict others because you are afraid that others will be stronger than you. What's more, you can't limit others, only by working hard can you surpass others.

2. You say that you are very timid and afraid of the night. According to traditional Chinese medicine, this is called bile deficiency (probably this word), and it is likely to be related to your life experience as a child. This requires you to adjust your mind and strengthen physical exercise; Speaking up in class requires you to have courage, and it mainly depends on your mastery of textbook knowledge.

If you don't have a good grasp and only know a little about it, you certainly won't have the courage to speak. This requires you to learn the basics well. Also, don't be afraid to be wrong.

It is often at this time that you can be deeply impressed to improve your understanding and mastery of what you have learned.

Finally, I wish you a happy mood and progress in your studies.

Difficult questions, first of all, (1) you may have a sense of superiority of the family economy when you were a child (used to enjoying it exclusively). You've always thought you were the best. The heart does not allow others to be better than you.

Solution: To be honest, except for the parents who love you the most and the people closest to you who have been paying attention to you, other people's attention is only temporary, and you may not remember who you are when you turn around. To put it bluntly, no one wants to emulate a certain person except for some people who imitate the words and actions of celebrities.

You just want to feel at ease when you do things, and you don't need to think about what others think.

Furthermore: the world is bright, don't care too much about whether you are wrong or you are right in the classroom, the so-called victory is not arrogant, defeat is not discouraged! As long as you participate, it is the beginning of the step forward and the beginning of victory.

Here's a way to not be nervous: take a deep breath before preparing for a question--- take a deep breath again, face it with a natural mindset, and you'll know when you're done: that's it!

If your personality is focused on actively learning or doing things, rather than worrying about what others do, you are a winner. Again: others are not imitating you, just like eating, you are eating three meals a day, what about others?

Hehe、、、 don't be angry, the medicine is bitter!

1.I think you are a bit self-centered, why others see that you have good aspects can not imitate it, you have to know that others to imitate you shows that you are stronger than others, there are places worth learning, I think if you really don't pay attention to you, you will feel so lonely, the same others have good places, you can also go to learn from it, I think that person is me, I will feel very happy, because I know what others don't know, I do what others haven't done.

2.This question is also directly related to your first question, because you can't fit into the big family, like to isolate yourself, you should have more contact with the people around you, learn more about other people's ideas and opinions, discuss more with others, start with your best friend, slowly expand the social circle, try to ** more, usually participate in more activities, start from the aspects you are interested in, I think your courage will slowly grow.

Hope you succeed!!

1: Is your personality a bit autistic, why don't you try to participate in some group activities to make your life fuller, maybe a little better.

2: I used to have a mental period like yours, I did this, first find a place where no one is around, such as reading articles, reading poems, and when I go out in the morning, I say "I am the best" seven times to myself in the mirror, don't be afraid of mistakes, and see that everyone makes mistakes.

1: It's a possessiveness, and I've had periods like this.

When I was studying, I was always very good at Chinese, and most of my living expenses were used to buy books, such as.

When someone borrows a book like me, I feel very uncomfortable.

It is a possessive desire for knowledge and a sense of superiority.

And this desire for possession is very typical of inferiority complex, fear of others surpassing oneself, fear of oneself.

Lose that sense of superiority that stands out from the rest.

This situation suggests that the landlord think about it from a different angle, there is no eternal winner in the world, you can't.

Always be better than others, you think your R language is good, but those who learn R language are not better than you.

Is it? Those who are good at R are not necessarily better than your English.

So the landlord will feel that he is living more happily when he opens his heart...

2, Ibid. The landlord's inferiority complex is more typical, and in a word, inferiority is to measure oneself by other people's rulers.

Self-confidence is to measure yourself by your own ruler.

1: I think you may lack self-confidence, and you are always afraid that you are worse than others. And you always wish you were special.

2: Or is it a sign of your lack of self-confidence.

In fact, these are all things that are at work with your self-confidence, and as long as you believe in yourself, these things can be solved. Confident people are the most beautiful.

There was a period of time when I really had some situations similar to you, and my grades were not good, but I was very strong, and I had to do better than others in everything, but I couldn't actually do better than others, and I once felt very lost, and now I think about myself really too arrogant, too frivolous, and I always feel that everything is better than others. I wasn't pretty, which was one of the reasons for my low self-esteem, and I later found out that this kind of life would make me have a tendency to fall, and I always asked myself not to allow myself to have any flaws. Finally learning to carve uniformly, I read aloud speeches and sang.

My classmates admired my courage and actually did a good job and regained my self-confidence. I told myself that it didn't matter if I wasn't beautiful, I could speak. My smile is also the most beautiful in the world, and it's unique.

1 Try to think about others, do your own good work is your own, and slowly get used to it.

2 Do more things that you didn't dare to do or rarely did before.