Broken up Why do men still want to be friends with women?

When we broke up, we said that we would still be friends in the future. But are they really friends? Maybe it's a few years from now.

A relationship, a journey, too much joy and touching together, too much helpless heartache, from true love to hurt each other, can you still be friends at the moment of breakup? If you can, you must not have really loved. Or it is the result of a person's grievances.

There is no floodgate for feelings, and it cannot be closed with a single pull. It's hard for two people to love each other at the same time, and it's even harder not to love each other at the same time.

There is no love, no hate, and only when you are indifferent to the throbbing in your heart can you become friends.

But you and I, the two people who just broke up, maybe one of them is still in love, maybe from love to hate or resentful, maybe because of the throbbing of one of the other party's eyes, how to become friends?

The person who once loved deeply can only watch silently, can't ask, can't manage, doesn't need to care, can't complain, everything about him has nothing to do with you, so how can you bear to be his friend?

The person who once resented deeply no longer cares for you, no longer pampers you, his good and your bad can no longer be seen, you are just two parallel lines, so how can you still be his friend?

Unless we haven't loved, I don't care who you are or what your identity is, I don't care at all, I never care.

Even if we don't love it now, there are so many memories along the way, what should I do not remember at the moment when I face you?

Or I still love you, I don't want anything, I don't regret it, no matter who you are to me now, no matter who you are guarding now, I am willing to always accompany you, hide my love for you deeply, not let you know, not be seen by you, and be willing to be a friend with you like a shadow as long as you are happy.

Lovers are so close, friends are so far away, if you can't be lovers, maybe you will say just be friends.

But even if the car drove away and returned to the original point again, it would be a different time, a different character, and a different scenery.

We've already taken a step forward, but how can we measure the same size and go back? Keep going until you meet up again with someone else you can love.

To break up is to break up, to decide, never to mention being friends.

If you don't love him (her) anymore, let go and don't make excuses for your selfishness, don't keep him (her) if you still love him/her, and don't ask him (her) to turn back.

When you break up, you only talk about breaking up, not about being friends.

Just the most familiar strangers.

Of course, some people may think that once a man and a woman get acquainted, it is easy to become a lover, in fact, this is a serious misunderstanding that has always existed, and it is because people have not seen this misunderstanding clearly, so there is this problem. There can be pure friendship between men and women, and men and women can become friends.

You don't understand his heart yet.

He wants to be friends with you.

It means that he can't forget you at all.

He still loves you.

I'm like that too.

I broke up with my girlfriend.

I still want to be friends with him.

Because I still love her.

And he wants to see you happy.

You're so happy.

Because it is the most familiar stranger! Anything can be done! Notice what I'm talking about.

I don't think I'm going to be friends anymore since we've all broken up!

So as not to bring unnecessary trouble to your family in the future!

It's meaningless, there's no need for this, the fate of the two is gone, and it's impossible to be friends.

Men choose to be friends instead of getting back together with you, or it may be because the macro belt compound is not cost-effective. In a friend relationship, a man's contribution to you can be intermittent and immediate, and when he wants to be intimate with you, he will invest a lot in you in the short term, making you mistakenly think that he still wants to get back together in exchange for intimacy and ambiguity with you.

When he has enjoyed enough emotional experience and intimacy, he can withdraw at any time without having to take on the responsibility and dedication of maintaining the relationship. What's more, if your personal value is not high enough, it doesn't matter to him whether he will lose you or not.

The common reason why a man wants to be friends after a breakup is that he himself thinks that there is nothing wrong with continuing to be friends, or because he still likes you and can't let go of you, or he just treats you as a spare tire, for the following reasons:

1. Some men think that there is nothing wrong with continuing to be friends after a breakup, but it is a way to face the breakup calmly.

2. In most cases, a man still wants to be friends with you after breaking up, most likely because he still likes you and can't let go of you, but maybe your personality makes him very tired, or he can't take care of love and work, so he is very irritable, so he can only choose to break up.

3. Treat you as a spare tire or substitute, and if necessary, it will compound with you. Those who do this are scumbags. The basic situation is that the male disadvantage tremor had a better choice during that period of time, but the result is still uncertain, so he uses being a friend to hang you.

Once the results are not optimistic, I will turn around and get back together with you.

4. I feel guilty about you and want to make up for the harm done to you. Hurt you less by continuing to be friends. Usually in this case, it is the boy who thinks that the other party is a good girl and can't bear to hurt her.

5. Everyone is in the same circle of friends. It's a very helpless reason. Because there are many mutual friends around you, the man hopes that you can continue to maintain friendship after the breakup, so as to ensure the stability of the dating circle.

There have always been two different views on the topic of being ordinary friends after a breakup. Some people believe that being able to be ordinary friends after a breakup is a sign of maturity and sanity; And some people think that it is unrealistic and self-deceptive to be ordinary friends after a breakup. Let's take a look at this topic from different perspectives.

1.First of all, theoretically, being able to be ordinary friends after a breakup is a sign of maturity and sanity. After all, two people may have experienced a lot of good times in the process of falling in love, and may decide to end the relationship for some reason.

But this does not mean that the feelings between two people are all gone. If two people can really let go of the past and re-establish a new relationship, maybe they will become good friends.

2.Secondly, from a practical point of view, it is not an easy thing to be ordinary friends after a breakup. Two people after a breakup may have a lot of emotional issues to face, such as inability to let go, jealousy, distrust, etc.

These problems can affect the friendship between two people, and eventually lead to the breakdown of the friendship.

3.The third argument, from the perspective of personal personality and emotion, the ability to be ordinary friends after a breakup also largely depends on the personality and emotional state of the two people. If both people are mature, sensible, and tolerant people, it may be easier for them to maintain a friendship.

But if one of them still has strong emotional dependence and attachment, then friendship building becomes difficult.

4.In the end, I don't think there is a certain answer to the question of being able to be ordinary friends after a breakup. This is a very personal choice that needs to be decided on a case-by-case basis.

If the relationship between two people does not disappear completely, and they are both able to deal with the breakup rationally, then they can still try to become friends. However, if the emotional problems between two people are more complicated, or there are many emotional problems that cannot be let go, then it is still recommended to keep a distance for a period of time and wait until each other is emotionally stable before trying to become friends.

In short, there is no definite answer to the question of whether you can be ordinary friends after a breakup. This needs to be decided on a case-by-case basis. If the relationship between two people is relatively simple and they are both able to deal with the breakup rationally, then you can still try to become friends.

However, if the emotional problem is more complicated, it is still recommended to keep a distance for a while and wait until each other is emotionally stable before trying to become friends.

For now, after a breakup, you generally can't be friends, even if the guy is willing, the girl can't accept it.

Some people do, but most people probably don't.