What are the consequences of missing someone for a long time?

In fact, no one else is you, and no matter how good you are, you can't solve your own problems.

My girlfriend and I were high school classmates and were in the same class and table, we were together in 2004 and have been together for more than six years now. I would say that there were two years between us that were separated, she went to school out of town and I worked in Beijing, and this period was arguably the most painful period of my life, when we missed each other but couldn't see each other. But we finally persevered, we insisted on playing a ** every day, telling each other what we experienced that day, and no matter how hard and tired we were that day, we had to tell her vividly, and we forced to tell each other the happiest and unhappiest things for the first time.

That's it, now we live together, and we live well.

In fact, lovers don't need to be in front of each other, the most important thing is to communicate with each other, communicate thoroughly, there is no doubt between each other, there is no distance.

Have you ever watched the movie "Party A and Party B"? Played by Ge You. What is the last plot in it, a pair of lovers who love each other but have been separated for 20 years don't even have a common home, but they still love each other.

Of course, this is an exaggeration in the story, but you must communicate more with each other.

I hope my verbosity can make a difference, and I sincerely hope that you will be happy.

It will make you depressed. You'd better ask clearly, or you'll split it!!

First of all, it is important to emphasize that you love each other and love each other. Secondly, the work must be transferred to one piece, otherwise he will not be your husband in the future, and you will not be his wife; Again, if you really want to be together, what if you make some sacrifices, maybe it is this sacrifice that he will change his mind!

Yes.

When love comes, no one can stop it; When true love comes, you can't control yourself; It doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman, as long as you're in love with someone; You will miss him and worry about him unconsciously; This feeling occurs unconsciously, inadvertently; It's so sincere, it's so unrelenting; All of this is so unforgettable, so colorful and beautiful.

As a woman, you always miss a man; That means that you are in love with this man, because if you love someone, you must have a good impression first, and then you like him, and miss him all the time; You can't control your heart at all, you can't control your love at all; All of this is something that happens unconsciously, and you can't stop all of it. Then needless to say, you already have him in your heart, and you have fallen in love with him.

The arrival of love has a process; When you see a person for the first time, you must have a good feeling in your heart; So slowly, your good feeling will become stronger and stronger; Before you know it, you will start to miss him and worry about him; When he is by your side, you will think of him, but when he is not by your side, you will still think of him; This is love, born from the heart, and thinking is a process of love.

As a woman, you always miss a man, then it can be said that you have fallen in love with this man; You must not fall in love with him in the blink of an eye, in your heart, this man appeared very early; Love is because after you see this man, it slowly grows from your heart; So unconsciously, you begin to think about him, you will miss him; In the days to come, you will be out of control, and this is a process of love.

First: always fantasize, the scene with her!

When you miss a woman, you will miss her voice and smile, these are the most real. If the former couple is separated, and the man is still missing the woman, he will often think of the scene when the two were together, whether it was sweet or unpleasant, it made him open the box of longing when he was alone, and then he couldn't close it.

And those men who can't love will often fall into fantasies, imagining what kind of scene they will be with that woman? This is the fantasy effect that a man will have if he misses a woman too much.

Second: I always can't help but want to ask her out to play!

Thoughts are often unstoppable, as long as the man misses at the beginning, the thought will become stronger and stronger, and finally turn into wanting to meet her. Men miss a woman too much, they can't help but ask her out to play, sometimes they know her, they must reject themselves, but they still have to ask her, as if this will give her a glimmer of hope. This is just self-deception, and the man is just using this way to release his aggrieved emotions when he misses her.

After getting the answer, it's time to sober up.

Third: Always remember when you first met!

If a man falls in love with a woman, he will always think of that woman, especially when he meets her for the first time, he always feels that at that time, she is the most beautiful woman in the world, and that scene at that time is also the most romantic scene. When thinking of that woman, the man can't help but hook the corners of his lips, because the feelings born at that time have continued to the present, and the thoughts about her are still growing more and more intensely. The first meeting is always so beautiful, and when a man misses a woman too much, he will always remember the scene of the first meeting.

Fourth: I can't control it all the time, and I'll go to chat with her!

I believe that if a man has ever liked a woman, he will know that if he wants to control himself and not talk to her, it is basically impossible. Because I can't satisfy my liking just by missing, and my thoughts are too strong, I will naturally open the chat window with her, say such a painless word, or forcibly find a topic to talk about. When she responds to herself, she will be so happy, and if she doesn't wait for a reply, she will probably be sad for a long time.

Not only will women miss men late one night and can't extricate themselves; If a man falls in love with a woman, or can't forget the one he once was with, he will be equally unable to extricate himself. If a man misses a woman too much, it will be like having a serious illness, and the above 4 diseases will not be able to get rid of at all.

Missing may be a mental activity that everyone is familiar with, people are alive, there are desires, there are misses. Some people think about things, some people think about people, although the objects of reading are not the same, but the heart of reading is the same, even if the reality tells you that it is difficult to see each other again, but the heart is still unconsciously looking forward to the arrival of that moment. The Buddha pays attention to cause and effect, fate and part, so what kind of cause and effect does the Buddha say that he always misses a person?

The person you always miss is often the person who can't pick up and can't let go, that person has a different position in your heart than others, has left a deep impact in your heart, and has a deep relationship with you. You don't see him, just worry, at first you may be looking forward to the reunion of the two of you, and then you are more looking forward to his health and happiness, but the miss in your heart has not faded. If some people have kept it in their hearts for a long time and can't forget it, don't force yourself to hurt your body and heart.

The Buddha also said that if you miss a person for a long time, you will meet again, either in this life or in the next life.

However, don't give up on the people around you because you always miss the person in your heart, after all, you should meet whoever you meet, but there is always someone who is here for you. The person you always miss in your heart may meet again one day, but the person around you is the person in front of you, and the person in front of you may also be your sweetheart, and this person is also worthy of exchanging your heart with him.

If you hurt yourself or others because you always miss the person in your heart, then it's time to look down on that person, you should learn to accept, the fate of obsession doesn't have to be forced, you don't have to be too harsh on yourself, you can't forget it, you have to learn to accept, life has to move forward, and now you can't let go of people and things, the years will understate for you.

If you miss someone too much, you will get sick.

Because I miss it, but I can't see it, I will worry about it, and I think about it day and night. There will be a lot of burden in my heart, and my mood will become low.

You will lose your appetite for eating, and you will not sleep well because of something on your mind, which will slowly evolve into insomnia.

Once the diet is irregular, the sleep is not enough, and the mood is not good, the resistance will become worse, so some small triggers that are not easy to cause diseases have become big causes, such as blowing the wind is nothing, but because the resistance has become worse, it is easy to have a headache, brain fever, cold and flu when the wind blows. Irregular diet is also prone to indigestion, which increases the load on internal organs and weakens the stomach and intestines.

Therefore, thinking too much about a person can actually get sick.

Most people will sneer and tell you no, because in their eyes it is unscientific. Or tell you that there exists with other perceptual truths.

But I want to tell you that "yes", and my research also tells me that "a person's long-term longing for another person, a strong spiritual sustenance, will definitely affect some aspects of the other person in some form or another."

I have been studying "love" for so long, and I have always adhered to two principles: there is no standard answer to love, there is no perfect love, so I will also take everyone as my "mentor". Second, love is not only a theoretical product of psychology, nor is it just a product of philosophical thought, "it" should be pluralistic and cannot be prescribed, can you say that occultism, that is, metaphysics, has no influence?

I don't believe it, it must have an impact, under the argument of my research. There is a mystical product of "God", for example, the major psychological mentors, including myself, have an old-fashioned way to solve problems for some clients, and that is to indulge in the past.

For example, if you have just met someone of the opposite sex, and we have made you attracted to him through psychological methods, why do you expect him to send you messages and not send you? Why don't we let you send it, and let you go about your own business, and really don't "put" them in your head, but they miraculously send them to you? We don't rule out wanting to get caught, even if we don't rule out your strong attraction to him, we don't rule out that he is extremely bored, so I took the initiative to send you that message.

But when you are looking forward to sending you a message, they are really bored and timely, and they are very interested in you, and you deliberately did not take the initiative to send you a message, so why did they not send you a message?

This brings us to the occult "God" I mentioned earlier, which has a scale that measures the emotional investment of both of you in a relationship, which is silent and has no outward form of thought. Why didn't I send it to you? It's that you're emotionally invested too much, and you're expecting him to take the initiative to send you.

If you are emotionally invested too much, you will be high on the "scale". Pay attention to what I mean by emotional investment, and don't take this as the same thing as practical action giving in psychology.

The most simple truth in psychology is that the more you give, the lower your status in a relationship and the less "right to speak". I'm talking about silent thoughts, silent emotional giving, even if you don't fall in love and don't have contact, there will be a scale of "God".

Most people have experienced that "the more you want to find something, the more you can't find it, and the day when you don't want to find it will suddenly appear." "When will science answer this question for me and then refute my opinion.

So I'm telling you, there really is "God", it really has "one scale". If you invest too much emotion in a person and miss too much, they will really have "induction"!