Girlfriends are all right, how to find your own presence in love?

There are two ways to gain a sense of being: active solicitation and passive acceptance, most people think that it is difficult to actively acquire a sense of existence, which is a bit unnatural, or it is not very satisfying to obtain satisfaction, I always feel that the sense of presence obtained in this way is deteriorating, in fact, it is a natural psychological barrier, when you take the initiative to tell him that I am tired, I need comfort, I have a stomachache and need care, and the result you get is to be taken care of, which is actively needed.

In the early days of a relationship, it is usually a situation where, in order to prove your presence, you will engage in such acts and prove your presence。Prove that I love you, for example, this is how a smart woman is used, when you want to care or want to go and play, you will not directly expose your sense of need and make him uncomfortable, on the contrary, you will get results through communication and at the same time let the other party have an understanding of the existence and value around you, passively accept the passive acceptance of the sense of presence, everyone is happy.

When he cares about you, I will buy you food when he is hungry, if the road is too far and I don't want to take a taxi, if my stomach hurts, I will help you buy medicine, and happily say that I will help you share,If he cares about you from time to time, and it happens that you need to care again, then the sense of presence will come, when he needs you, help me pour me a glass of water, help me take off my bag, help me with my umbrella, and then wake me up, if he needs help, then you will do your best, then the sense of presence will come.

When he listens to you, listens to your stories, listens to your daily complaintsListen to you tell him that the subway is going in the opposite direction today, listen to you feel sad at the end of the movie, hear you say that the lamb pickled bread in the store is delicious。If you want to speak, and he is willing to listen, then the sense of presence will come, when he can understand you, when you tell him that you don't eat on time, your stomach hurts easily, when you tell him that he is not married before the age of 30, when you tell him that Eileen Chang is a great poet, when you tell him that life and death are trivial things, love and sorrow are nonsense, if you tell him that he understands or sympathizes, then the sense of presence comes.

If you want to find your own sense of existence in love, you must learn to be self-reliant and self-reliant, you can't blindly tolerate each other, and both parties must understand and respect each other.

You can take the initiative to talk to her about it. I think she can understand. If she does respect you.

I think men and women are equal in love, so I think we must find ourselves, and we can't lose ourselves because of love, which is more than worth the loss.

I have been giving in love, getting along well, and constantly running in with my other half in life to find my own position.

You must have your own opinions, chat with your girlfriend more, and express your desire to be respected, so that you can find a sense of existence.

Unsolicit it.

It is generally believed that the active acquisition of a sense of existence is difficult, and it is not too natural, or it is not really satisfying to obtain a sense of existence. I always feel that the sense of existence obtained in this way is degraded, but in fact, this is a natural psychological disorder.

1.Narrate: When you take the initiative to tell him, I am tired and I need comfort.

I have a stomachache and need to be taken care of. The result is to get care and care, which is actively requested, in the initial stage of love, it is often the case, in order to prove your sense of existence, you will do such an act, prove your existence, prove that you love you.

2.Lead: This is the way a smart woman would use, for example.

When you want to care or where you want to play, you will not directly expose your sense of need and make him uncomfortable, but through communication, you can get results, and at the same time, let the other party have a sense of presence and value by your side.

Passive acceptance. Everyone enjoys the passive acceptance of existence, and the most comfortable sense of existence is roughly divided into four types: the first is cared for, the second is needed, the third is heard, and the fourth is understood.

1.When he cares about you, I'll buy you food when I'm hungry, the road is too far and I don't want to go, let's take a taxi, if you have a stomachache, I'll help you buy medicine, if you want to go to the toilet, let's go find a toilet, if you're not happy to say it, I'll help you share it. If he cares about you from time to time, and you need to care about it, then Tuan Zhao's sense of existence will come.

2.When he needs you, pour me a glass of water, help me take my bag, help me get an umbrella, call me to get up, if he needs help, and it happens that you are within your reach, then the sense of presence comes.

3.When he listens to you, listens to you tell stories, listens you talk about your daily nagging, listens you talk about today's subway in the opposite direction, listens you talk about how sad you feel when you see the ending of the movie, and listens to you talk about which store has delicious mutton steamed buns. If you want to talk and he is willing to listen, then the sense of presence comes.

4.When he can understand you, when you tell him that if you don't eat on time, you will have a stomachache, when you tell him that you will not marry before the age of 30 in order to struggle, when you tell him that Zhang Ailing is a great poet, when you tell him that so-and-so is a successful green tea who will change your life, when you tell him that life and death are all small things, love and sorrow are nonsense. If you tell him and he understands or empathizes, then the sense of presence comes.

If you want to have a sense of presence in love, then learn to surprise the other person, keep a sense of distance, and let the other person always feel that you are the person he cares about the most.

Everyone wants to have a sweet love.

Love, with a love that lasts forever, the sea and the rocks and the orange mountains, and has a sincere love that people envy. In the era of rapid development of the Internet, people in modern society have bid farewell to the ancient carriages and horses, and convenient dating and chatting software has become the key to opening a love, and harvesting a sweet love has become not so unattainable. But when love comes, how should men and women in love grasp the distance between lovers?

It is often said that the brains of men and women in love are not thinking, and men and women in love will always be hidden from each other because they have obtained a hard-won love, and they are afraid that they will not be able to leave enough time and space for each other because of excessive demand and dependence, resulting in little time for each other to do what they want to do.

A person who is responsible, caring, and considerate of others will also be respected by others.

In the early stage of being together, it is necessary to obtain the absolute right to speak, so that the other party attaches enough importance to themselves, remembers each other's preferences, and tells each other their preferences.

If you want to have a presence in love, first of all, you must be good enough. Let Hengbi defeat you, the other half of Huixiao's can't leave you. Let you have enough place in his heart. It is irreplaceable by others. Then your presence will be sufficient.

I think that if you want to have a sense of presence in love, you must improve your charm and orange power. Improve your ability to work and deal with things. When you let the group be excellent, you can have a sense of existence in the balance of love.

Love is giving, love is tolerance, and only by giving up can you harvest true love.

Love is a life where two people care for each other, love each other, tolerate each other, and are happy.

What are the schools that have a sense of presence in love? I have a lot in love and in the reform finals.

If you want to have a sense of presence in love, then you should behave better.

In love, you can have a strong sense of existence in the initiative.

Face it with sincerity!

First of all, you have to be sincere, this is the first thing, love, not children playing with the house, this is an emotional event related to the entire life of two families, especially for a girl, give you the rest of her life, her choice is cautious, in the process of choosing, she will have a lot of Gu Yan early to sell, and worry about whether you really like her!

In fact, love needs to be managed, and if you do it well, you will naturally find a sense of existence.

There must be a certain amount of demand, you can't blindly dedicate yourself, blindly go to the promise, you must live out yourself in love to have a sense of existence.

In life, you and your lover Shi Zhong maintain a loving sister relationship, and maintain a sense of existence until you are old.

Have the same three views as the other party, have something to talk about at any time, and keep up with each other's footsteps.

Men are very simple about feelings, as long as they feel noticed. In fact, men are more sensitive to issues such as feelings, and if a woman does not feel love, then his thoughts will become very complicated. If you want a man to cherish a relationship, then you have to learn how to associate with a man.

Trouble boys to do more things in life, so that boys have a feeling of dependence, so that they can have a greater sense of existence.

In love, a woman must respect the man very much, and always encourage and comfort the man, so that the man can find a sense of existence.

In love, women must know how to respect men, tolerate men, and encourage men, so that they can cherish each other's feelings more.

In love, we can solve things that we can solve, and then pretend that we can't solve them, and leave this matter to our boyfriend to solve, so that he can find his own sense of existence. In this way, he will cherish the love between you even more.

If you want a man to find a sense of existence, then you should first care more about the man, and ask the man to feel that you can't do without him, so that you can cherish each other's love.

Then you can use words to encourage a man and make him believe that he can make you happier. In this way, you will cherish your love even more.

In love, we must respect men and learn to praise men, so that we can better cherish the feelings of two people.

Rely more on men and be more coquettish to men, so that men will find a sense of existence.

Take the initiative to ask the guy for help and make him feel that you need him very much.

Hello, I think men are really annoying.

If you like him a lot, you don't have to.

You know he's annoyed by this vexatiousness.

Why not try to change it.

You're only going to let him push you farther and farther away.

Hopefully you'd better not do it.

If you want him to fall in love with you, you can't just stick to him and pester him, the more you do this, the farther away he will be from you, you should have your own independent personality, and then use the time to please yourself to improve yourself, in order to really attract him to love you.

There are always principles and bottom lines to love someone, it is because you are too dependent and accommodating to him for a long time, which has caused the current state, love should be equal, love has no one to ask for, love is together, and if you don't love, you will go your own way, so you don't need to find a sense of existence in front of him, if you are like this now, what can you do in the future, ask him to talk about it, you must calm down, you can talk about anything, it is best to reach a consensus, if this is still the case, then no one can leave whom.

The more you like him, the less you can cling to him. Make your life full, love is not sticky, but attracted to each other, and let him feel the crisis.

Love is a consumable, and when the love in a person's heart is exhausted, even a slight straw is enough to crush the relationship.

There must be something about your mother and her parents that you don't know, and your grandparents are unfair to judge from your account. It is recommended that you become independent as soon as possible, take your mother away from the current city, and do your mother's filial piety.

Look at the highest place where you can find it, and ask yourself, am I the most unlucky? Then jump off.

No matter how tired you are, no matter how bad the weather is, no matter how far away you want to see him, you don't necessarily have to do anything, you are the happiest to be together.

First, learn to love her for fifty points, and then focus the remaining fifty points on loving yourself。In love, leave half for each other and the other half for yourself, love yourself, pay attention to yourself, and improve yourself. The meaning here is not to let you fully satisfy your appetite, but to let you understand your strengths and weaknesses, and you can give full play to your strengths.

Self-control for self-improvement. Although a girl's appearance is the most important thing, everyone loves beauty. Everyone wants their boyfriend to be a handsome guy.

Don't underestimate the advantages of this face, no matter how good you are to girls, if your appearance is not good, girls will still like the good-looking boy more.

Good looks will definitely keep your love fresh, and get twice the result with half the effort. The same goes for boys。Therefore, it is time to actively improve one's appearance, to keep fit, to control one's diet.

On the basis of self-control, it is important to control your health and fat content, physical fitness, and maintain attractiveness. At the same time, find the strengths of your personality and strengths. It is best to make this the "core competitiveness" of your life and work, and at the same time, these strengths can also play an advantage in love, so that girls can appreciate and worship.

Be your confident **. This part requires a process, and it also requires you to implement a long-term plan and requirements for your own progress, step by step.

Again, sincerity for sincerity, heart for heart. Compared with boys, in fact, girls are more concerned about the "long-termness" and "specificity" of boys. Many boys are let down by girls, and they feel that girls worship money and so on for different reasons, in fact, after you observe, you will find that many boys who seem to be "single-minded", although they are indeed single-minded, but they are generally "not of high value, they can only exist as good men, not that they don't want to be bad, but that they have no capital".

The low value itself is what girls dislike, and it has nothing to do with whether they are good men or not. Therefore, the first point is very important, again. After becoming the best value man, your contribution will be more meaningful, and you can ensure that you can better have and pursue high-quality love.

Especially nowadays, when many girls can get their own "bread", they will have spiritual loveMore demanding. Therefore, when their own conditions are good, they will gradually increase their requirements and starting points for their spouses and men as their own standards as their own level increases. The spiritual standard is mainly in communication and comfort.

When a woman is willing to laugh, she probably likes this guy and is willing to say anything", this is the truth. Heart-to-heart is also a kind of mutuality, and it is also necessary to pay attention to guiding women to invest in emotions in getting along. It's just that your ** value will make the other party willingly invest and manage their feelings.