It is said that the next generation of relatives, what are the children brought by grandparents like

It is said that the children brought by the grandparents are usually more willful and ignorant, which can be said to be a common problem, because grandparents usually dote on their grandchildren or granddaughters, as long as the children want it, they can do it, it can be said that they are responsiveIn a more popular phrase, if you want the moon in the sky, you will not give the stars, so that these grandparents bring up children, it is usually difficult to discipline when they grow up, of course, this is only for most families, and some families are more exceptional, such as the elderly in some families are very sensible, and they also know how to educate children, under their education, children will also be very well-behaved and sensible, but this is only a few.

Because people who are as old as our parents, or older than our parents, did not receive a good education in that era, and some of their ideas were more extreme, and they were more tough, and what they thought was right was right, and they were rarely willing to listen to the opinions of their childrenTherefore, the children they bring out will also be somewhat similar to their personalities, more stubborn, no matter what they do, they want others to listen to them, if not, they will start crying.

My brother's children can be said to be a very typical example, my brother and sister-in-law are usually busy with work and have no time to take care of the children, so they handed over the children to their parentsNo matter who makes him feel uncomfortable, he will start crying, sometimes scolding, saying some ugly things, and even hitting people, the child's character has been formed, and it will be difficult to change him in the later stage, unless he goes through some setbacks or tribulations, he will change.

So I think the child should try to bring it by himselfNo matter how busy you are at work, you can't ignore your children, parents can really have a great impact on your children, and our words and actions may affect your children's lives.

Most of the children brought by grandparents are selfish and selfish, because grandparents' love for children is unlimited, so they often develop children's pampered character. However, there are no absolutes, and there are also children brought out by grandparents who are very sensible, and the most important thing is that they vary from person to person.

The appearance of grandparents with children is that what the children say is what they say, and grandparents will do everything to meet the requirements of the children, that is, the next generation.

The children brought by grandparents may be more well-behaved and honest, because grandparents are people with old ideas, so the children who stay are more conservative.

They are generally more willful and selfish, and do not like to share with others, because the elderly like to spoil their children and respond to their children's requirements, so they lead to the development of bad habits in the future.

Chinese grandparents are very doting on their grandchildren, holding them in the palm of their hands for fear of melting, walking for fear of falling, most children are more pampered, clothes to stretch out, food to open mouth.

The children brought up by their grandparents actually have a very good relationship with their grandparents, and their feelings are also very deep.

The children brought out by grandparents are more loving, more aware of how to take care of people, and have stronger feelings for the older generation.

"Intergenerational parenting" refers to the phenomenon of the elderly bringing their grandchildren by themselves. "Intergenerational relatives" can best relieve the loneliness and loneliness of the elderly, get great relief mentally, and even glow the "childlike heart" of the elderly that has not yet been extinguished. The first piece:

The grandparents at home love their grandchildren very much, and sometimes the children do something wrong, and as parents, we must educate them well. As a result, we didn't say a word, and the grandparents stood up to defend the child first, saying what "the child is still young, you have to teach it slowly, what is it that you beat the child" Yunyun, who originally wanted to educate the child, but he didn't expect to be educated first.

The second thing: Some grandparents love their grandchildren, they do their best to meet their grandchildren's requirements, as long as the children want, they will find a way to get them out. Especially when it comes to spending money on children, you may spend a few hundred yuan, but you can spend thousands or even tens of thousands of dollars on your grandchildren.

The third thing: intergenerational parenting is not only reflected in the grandparents and Wang Ji's milk to the child's sleepiness, but we can also see the "difference between the two generations" in the child. The child is very well-behaved in front of his grandparents, and his filial appearance is touching, and when he arrives at his parents, he is all kinds of rebellious and naughty, obviously the little padded jacket of his parents, but now he has warmed the knees of his grandparents.

1.Not conducive to the education of parents.

Many old people will have the situation of intergenerational parents, and even when parents are educating their children, the elderly will be very distressed about their children, which is a very normal phenomenon, but the elderly feel sorry for their children and should also participate in their children's education moderately, after all, the elderly will always be very soft-hearted when they take care of their children, which is very unfavorable to the education of their parents, and even makes children think that their parents are bad people.

2.Influence the development of children's concepts.

Parents are their children's best teachers. Therefore, only parents are the best educators for children, but when the next generation is too involved in the education of parents, it is likely to interfere with the education of parents, especially when children make mistakes, many parents will have certain punishment measures, but the elderly who feel sorry for their children will always block, causing children to think that as long as the elderly are there, they can be forgiven for any mistakes they make, and this concept will affect the growth of children very much.

3.It is not conducive to family harmony.

When the intergenerational parents affect the child's education, even if the child's parents are not good at saying anything on the surface, but there will be a lot of dissatisfaction in their hearts, and even say to the child: don't listen to grandma and grandma, which will not only affect the relationship between husband and wife and the elderly, but also affect the relationship between the elderly and children.

Whether the child and the grandparents are because of who brings it or how to bring it, this is something that we need to think about seriously!

"Intergenerational kin" is common in Chinese and foreign family relationships! Scenes of the elderly and children playing intimately are very common in film and television dramas and real life! So why do grandparents bring their children closer than their parents? I think there are several reasons:

The first is that grandparents have an advantage in time. Children's nature is to play, and almost all parents are now struggling because of the fast pace of society because of the fast pace of society, and there is little time to accompany their children to have a good day! Grandparents should have retired because of their age, so they can spend more time with their children.

The second is that the way of taking care of children can be more primitive for grandparents. As we all know, today's children can be said to play with mobile phones and watch TV at a very young age, and these are what older grandparents are not good at, so grandparents will take their children outdoors more to play and get closer to nature.

In the end, children and grandparents think the same. "Old child" is another name we call the elderly, which shows that the old man is older, and his mind gradually returns to the state of innocence, you can imagine that two children together will definitely be very happy!

So, dear parents, don't be envious, jealous and hateful about your children and grandparents! Blood is thicker than water, and the child and you are still the closest! Wishing you and your family a happy and healthy !!

The child is definitely not to blame for the problem that the child is not close to the mother.

The child is a blank piece of paper, how adults draw how the child grows. As the first guardian of the child, if the mother fulfills the obligation of companionship very well, the child cannot be close to the mother.

The mother may have less companionship for various reasons, and the grandparents accompany more, so the child should be close to the grandparents.

Therefore, as a mother, if the child is not close to you, then you should reflect on whether you have done too little for the child, and you should also feel sorry for the child's alienation with the mother at a young age.

Dress differently.

There is a clear difference in the dressing style of the elderly and the young, so there is a very clear difference in the way the children are brought up by grandparents and parents. Children brought by their parents are generally more fashionable in terms of dressing, even if they can't be clean every day, at least they won't look too old-fashioned. The children brought by the grandparents are generally not very particular about dressing, not only do not care about the style, but sometimes they can't even guarantee that they are clean, which is more obvious in the little girl.

In addition, children who grow up in different environments have very different personalities. Children who grow up with their parents are generally generous and cheerful and optimistic, and it is easy for them to get along with their children and have good interpersonal relationships.

Now there are many elderly people who dot on their grandchildren very much, that is, the so-called intergenerational relatives.

1. Whatever the child wants, the grandparents will fulfill the grandson's wishes.

What the child wants to eat, even if it takes a long time to buy it in the car, the grandparents are willing to take a long time to buy it for their grandchildren, which can be described as a hundred and smooth for the child. Grandma prefers children, and when she goes out shopping with her children, she will buy whatever toys the child wants and go home without saying a word. The child likes the toys in the hands of other children, and grandma will not hesitate to buy them back.

Second, because the 3-year-old girl was disobedient, she was pushed a few times by her mother, and the grandfather on the side quit, quarreled with her mother, and hit her mother's ......

3. "When I was a child, my parents were strict with me, and when they made a small mistake, they would beat the guy without asking the reason, but now I scold my children too strictly. ”

A father mentioned "intergenerational parenting", which is like this.

He said that this situation is very common, but it is also really magical, in front of their grandchildren, these old people who used to be too strict to do it, one by one have become extremely loving.

Fourth, the 93-year-old grandfather took his grandson home and waited half an hour in advance for a bicycle in the rain.

There is a 93-year-old grandfather riding an electric car to carry his grown grandson, who is very happy in the rain.

According to the old man's family, the grandson had just returned from school that day and had been prepared early when he learned that his grandson was going home.

The family is still a few hundred meters away from the nearest bus stop, and the rest of the family rode to pick them up, but the old man refused, so he had to pick up his grandson by himself.

But the elderly can't spoil their children too much, which is not conducive to the growth of children:

1. Parents' education will become ineffective.

When the child's parents are educating their children, the elderly will feel very sorry for their grandchildren and will intervene. Although this is a very normal thing, the old man feels sorry for his grandson and must have a degree, and he can't protect the child in everything. When the elderly take care of their children, they are often soft-hearted and reluctant to say that the children are not.

In fact, this practice is very wrong, which will make children feel that their parents are bad people.

2. The child's perception will be affected.

The best teacher to educate children is the father and mother, and parents are the best educators for their children. Whenever parents are educating their children, if the elderly are involved, it will affect the parents to educate their children. Especially after the child makes a mistake, most parents will punish the child somewhat, but the old man feels sorry for the grandson and does not let the child's parents punish the grandson.

After a long time, the child will develop a sense that as long as the old man is around, the child will make a mistake himself. The child will think that this is nothing, anyway, the parents will forgive him, in fact, this practice of the elderly will cause the child's growth to be greatly affected.

3. Disharmony will arise in the family.

Children's education will be affected by the next generation, and the child's parents will not talk about the elderly on the surface, but in fact, there will be a lot of dissatisfaction in their hearts. I can't help but tell my children that there are some things that can't be listened to by grandparents. If the child's parents do this, there will be conflicts with the elderly, and it will also affect the relationship between the elderly and the child!