I have low emotional intelligence and often don t seem to think about what to do with my colleagues?

Emotional intelligence is not high, how to get along with colleagues in the workplace?

We should really pay attention to getting along with this workplace at work, for example, we must maintain respect for this familiar colleague, and at the same time, we must also learn to be patient. Because those familiar colleagues in the work are often easy to get along with, but we can not be impatient, we should also maintain a due respect, can not be familiar with others to give a nickname, or call others nicknames, etc., such are wrong, so we must learn to respect familiar colleagues.

Of course, we should also learn to be tolerant, and at the same time, we should not make mistakes because they make mistakes, or beat them for their small reports. Because there will inevitably be some wrong things in the work, so no matter what we do, we should give each other a kind reminder, instead of grasping their mistakes, or worrying with them, the last thing to do is not to hit their small report, otherwise he will have a conflict with you at that time.

In addition, we learn to love ourselves. When you love yourself at work, then you will naturally care about your own image, and when you get along with colleagues, it is natural to easily win the respect of your colleagues, and it is easy to win their understanding, after all, a person who loves himself will definitely not make himself easy to make mistakes, or make himself worse, or even have a bad image, etc.

Finally, we must be willing to help our colleagues around us, and of course, we must also have principles and bottom lines. It is inevitable that we need to help each other at work, so in the case of needing to help each other, we must know how to be willing to help our colleagues around us, of course, not to say anything can help, if it involves some principles and bottom lines, then don't help. Because if you respond to your requests, you will only become a good person for you, and they will not respect you at that time, so you must pay attention to this, otherwise you will only make yourself very passive.

In this case, you must pay attention to your own problems, and do you think about the problem from the other party's point of view? Be empathetic. Consider the other person's feelings when speaking and doing things, and slowly improve your emotional intelligence.

Learn to behave in a way that behas people. Read more books on emotional intelligence.

Then consider the feelings of others more and learn to empathize more.

Get along with colleagues more, have good things to share with colleagues, often go out to eat with colleagues, go out to play together, and go shopping with colleagues when you are resting, so that you can have a very good relationship with colleagues.

You can have a very good attitude when getting along with colleagues, try to just have some contact at work, don't gossip, so that the two can get along very well.

You can treat your colleagues as if they were your own family, so that you can get a good relationship, and if you encounter any problems, the other party will help you, and you will also help each other.

People with low emotional intelligence should strive to make their emotional intelligence higher!

1.Learn to control your emotions.

First of all, in the process of getting along with such a colleague with low emotional intelligence, either you are speechless, or it makes you extremely embarrassed, in short, it will make you very angry and affect your mood.

In this case, you should calm your emotions first, and don't affect your work because of such a person, after all, in the workplace, work comes first.

2.Cryogenic treatment.

If you know that the same person has a low quotient, try not to contact, and make a nodding friend in the company, so you don't need to contact in private. If it's a necessary contact at work, there's no way around it.

When he provokes you again, don't be quick to speak, just treat it coldly, ignore him, and do what you have to do. People with low emotional intelligence generally come and go quickly, and after a while, they will forget about this topic, and if you don't talk, he won't talk about it anymore.

The best way to get along well with your colleagues is to be a little more understanding and tolerant.

No matter what time you treat him as a relative, you will naturally be able to live in harmony.

You can appropriately tolerate each other's shortcomings, and tolerate small problems more.

Of course, it is to communicate more, communicate and learn, and more importantly, really have no defensive psychological preparation.

Distance is beauty, and keeping the right distance is the best.

If he has low emotional intelligence, try to explain it to him clearly, don't let him think for himself, it is likely to delay things. I can only divert the topic from the past, otherwise it will be very embarrassing.

It can be solved by pretending to be stupid, and there is no way to meet this type of person, but to relieve the embarrassment by pretending to be stupid and not understanding.

Then you should help the other party become a person with high emotional intelligence, and at this time, you should use a clever way to resolve the embarrassment, or in a joking way.

Why do some colleagues with low emotional intelligence and impoliteness have good popularity and are valued by leaders?

First: popular people tend to be less likely to talk about it. The premise is that these people are mostly simple, kind, passionate, and responsible, so their shortcomings are not covered up. Such a person can win the trust of more people.

Second: Some people seem to have low emotional intelligence, but his performance is simple, sincere, and straightforward. Some people seem to have high emotional intelligence, but the way they speak tends to be circuitous.

When they communicate with others, they will make others feel tired, or they will pretend to be nice to you, but in reality they will speak ill of you in private.

Third: This kind of person is more honest and has no other intentions. However, in a workplace full of sharp edges, everyone has their own self-interest and profit motives.

They mainly learned their professional knowledge in college, and they were recognized by the same bureau of the unit, so they also respected him.

Fourth: Once implemented in a corporate environment, the small society in the workplace reflects its social nature, i.e., people who know the world are more easily accepted by the workplace, while those who are so-called capable do not easily get along with others because they are good, or are uneasy with others. People who understand the world have harmonious relationships with others and get along well with others, so the people around them feel safe, helped and cared for, and happy.

Fifth: As professionals, we should always remember that a leader is a manager. As leaders, they must have power. All leaders love a sense of superiority.

This is one of the reasons why many people work hard to advance their leadership positions. Therefore, as subordinates, we should let the leader feel his strength and give him enough respect and face. Only when the vanity of the leader.

When he is satisfied, he will be willing to help you.

Sixth: at no time should we be emotional, let alone relax our work. The proper functioning of your own working relations department can ruin you and make the leader lose a little confidence in you. Whatever your grievances are, do the job at hand first.

Sometimes talking about her popularity, not because of her own ability, but because of her family background, so sometimes we can only do our own things, after all, many things in society are not clear.

Because many Qinshan people feel that it is more comfortable to get along with such a person, although this kind of person is afraid of being cautious and has a relatively low emotional intelligence, many people feel that this is a direct personality and has no heart, so they are very popular. Imitation.

I don't know if you've ever had this experience: being blocked by a colleague for some reason. I don't know what I've offended others.

What kind of people don't have in real life? Being blocked is just a way for others to vent their frustration with you. Maybe the problem is not with you, but just a kind of anger from the other party when he is in a bad mood.

And we tend to think that such people lack emotional intelligence. As an adult, it is immature to make relatively radical and childish behaviors in the workplace because of unsatisfactory behavior. How do you get along with these colleagues?

Is it to carefully protect their glass hearts and take care of their fragile emotions? Or is it just a boat that capsizes and ignores it?

1. Be straightforward and get straight to the point and say what you think.

For people with low emotional intelligence, their perception will be relatively weak and they will not be able to understand the voice-over of others, so try to avoid beating around the bush when getting along, and express it in a straightforward and straightforward way, so that they can easily understand and understand, which can reduce misunderstandings and avoid trouble.

2. Keep your distance and change the topic appropriately.

Keep a certain distance from people with low emotional intelligence, because they are easily influenced by others when dealing with problems and have greater emotional ups and downs, you will feel very tired around them, they don't know how to hide it, and their emotions are about to erupt, and they are likely to affect you in the next second.

And when you feel that their emotions are starting to fluctuate, you should appropriately change the topic and guide them to calm down and avoid such emotional eruptions.

3. Stay sane and listen quietly.

When they make some childish moves, you can see in the eyes, but also keep your sanity, and don't let yourself lose your mind because of their behavior in embarrassing situations.

And when they are talking in front of you, try not to express their opinions, just listen quietly, and don't worry about whether their three views are consistent with your own.

There are people with low emotional intelligence, but as long as they don't have bad intentions, don't worry about it, and slowly, they will get better.

A colleague with very low emotional intelligence, generally I don't talk to him in depth, and the chats are simple, so I get along very well.

In the process of getting along with such colleagues, you will be more cautious, because it is very likely that you will lose your temper.

First of all, I know that he is such a person, so I don't care too much about the way he speaks, or what he says, and I will get along with him in a very honest way, and if I feel that his words are inappropriate, or I feel uncomfortable, I have to say it.

Be tolerant of her, people with low emotional intelligence may speak more directly and hurtfully, don't take it to heart. Don't talk to people with low emotional intelligence about everything, this kind of person generally has no heart and a big mouth.

At work, you can't have a very good relationship with every colleague, but don't be too distant from each colleague.

1. Maintain an appropriate sense of boundaries with colleagues.

When we interact with our colleagues, we need to know how to maintain an appropriate sense of boundaries. When speaking, you can't completely stop communicating with your colleagues, otherwise you will be easily isolated and unable to integrate into the circle between colleagues, resulting in daily getting along and working that will not go well.

But you can't be too close, if you get too close, it is easy to cause friction, cause unnecessary conflicts, and make the relationship between colleagues worse. When doing things, you also need to know how to maintain a sense of boundaries. Only by maintaining a good sense of boundaries can you get along harmoniously with your colleagues and get along better and better.

2. Don't pry into other people's privacy.

Everyone has their own secrets, and even their own secrets are sensitive. If, at some point, someone doesn't pay attention to telling the secret in your heart, you have to restrain your curiosity, don't go to the bottom of it, and don't ask about it.

Some people are very curious, and keen to listen, and want to break the casserole to ask the end, at this time, you have to be careful, this kind of person is to be looked down upon by others, even if there is no purpose, others will be jealous of you.

3. Let others find confidence in you.

We should keep a low profile in our work, we can't steal the limelight in front of colleagues or leaders in everything, and blindly showing ourselves can not make others worship us, more just jealousy, so in the process of getting along with everyone, we must respect each other and don't put each other in an embarrassing situation.

When a colleague has a little performance in his work, he should praise him and make him feel great, so that his colleague will feel that he has found confidence in you and like to get along with you very much; Therefore, when you get along with your colleagues, you must learn to let your colleagues be.